Is it a legitimate reason for divorce because the husband has sexual dysfunction?

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[–]Tom_Bombadil 4 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Is she finally leaving you?

[–]FormosaOolong 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (7 children)

Open marriage could also be an option, if the complaint is legit and treatment ineffective. Humans are complicated.

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    [–]FormosaOolong 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

    For some people this could be a viable solution. Especially for those who are secure enough in their commitment to one another to not feel "possessive." I have known several polyamourous couples, with very clear boundaries around their "primary", "secondary", "fluid-bonded" etc. That's not a solution for everybody, but it works for some. It requires emotional maturity.

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      [–]Tiwaking 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

      Polyamory is when you have more than one...well, 'lover' I suppose you can call it. That forms the foundation of an open marriage, where both partners can have sex with other people.

      [–]beermeem 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

      What about for bisexual people like you?

      [–]toonhead 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

      Imo, sure. If you're incompatible, then you have the reason do divorce.

      I don't see how does that liberate the husband from paying alimony.

      [–]Tiwaking 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

      There are two things that need to be cleared up.

      1. Was the dysfunction known BEFORE the marriage? i.e. Was the wife a victim of deception?
      2. Is the dysfunction preventable?

      If its some kind of preventable thing and the husband refuses to cooperate, then yeah: Alimony.

      If its not then alimony will have to be a separate court issue.

      [–]toonhead 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

      Why the hell does that matter? If the couple divorces and they have kids younger than 18 then he's bound to pay alimony, regardless of the cause of divorce.

      Besides, it's plausible it's unpreventable and caused during the marriage too.

      [–]Tiwaking 2 insightful - 3 fun2 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

      If the couple divorces and they have kids younger than 18 then he's bound to pay alimony, regardless of the cause of divorce.

      Hoho!

      What happens if they are not his kids?

      edit: This happened to someone I know.

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        [–]Tiwaking 2 insightful - 3 fun2 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 3 fun -  (3 children)

        Im curious: What is your stance on making marriage illegal?

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          [–]Tiwaking 3 insightful - 3 fun3 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

          This is quite funny because I agree with you, but am anti-marriage. NOT because I think there is anything wrong with being married or that marriage is evil or anything like that. Its just that government interference has made the institution of marriage meaningless.

          Its sad to see that the people who rule also have the power to tear everyone apart.

          [–]beermeem 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

          What's interesting is that during the Middle Ages, marriages among the merchant class were simply contracts, just as you described.

          [–]Tiwaking 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

          With a good lawyer, anything is possible. However, paying alimony would probably be impossible as one side would have to prove some kind unpreventable disability.

          [–][deleted]  (1 child)

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            [–][deleted] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

            Asking for a friend?

            It used to be a thing, there were even women specialized in the "deed" of evaluating. These days I don't know... but you can force people to stay together.