Am I the asshole for getting mad? I am the blue texts.

Questionable · 2022-11-25T05:10:55+00:00

Yes, you are the asshole. You called her a "stupid fucking whore", and you're not even sure what she said about you.

What you did is in fact the definition of an asshole. You opened up, and shit poured out your orifice.

Wait. You putting those vegetables in your butt or something? Because, that's the only reason you can be this angry over vegetables. Protip: don't put vegetables in your butt, you freak.

jet199 · 2022-11-25T06:51:02+00:00

Seems controlling.

You never really have any control in what others say behind your back.

LarrySwinger2 · 2022-11-25T11:08:44+00:00

You know my stance. YTA. What kind of vegetables you eat is so small a matter that it's perfectly normal for her to think it's an exception even in spite of your agreement. We all want our privacy to be respected, but it's no longer reasonable when it disrupts the natural flow of her conversations. You're too controlling, and also abusive.

Melodic_Programmer · 2022-11-25T03:37:41+00:00

I should show every screen shot of you calling me stupid, a whore, a slut, and just putting me down.

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Zom · 2022-11-25T05:37:23+00:00

This feels like an invasion of privacy and an overreaction to something probably insignificant.

This is obviously not about vegetables...

elchupacabra · 2022-11-25T01:47:16+00:00

YTA lol. Musky has never eaten a beet.

HongKongPhooey · 2022-11-25T01:49:45+00:00

Honest opinion?

I think you are making very reasonable requests, 2/3 of them are very polite, #3 seems a bit much. Its understandable you are upset given its third time youve had to make this request, but I think you went from 0 -> 0 -> 100, when 0 -> 25 -> 50 might have been better

MightyMorphinFaggot · 2022-11-25T05:19:38+00:00

Talk about her to all of us and see how quickly she gets a rage on at you.

Double standards with women. Don't get mad, just change your expectations to whatever they think is normal until they realise it's actually not normal.

I done that with my wife and 5 minutes later she stopped doing something because I done the same thing with other women.

Jealousy is a fantastic motivator for change.

IndianaJones · 2022-11-25T14:24:12+00:00

cant we just all get along

If she was revealing private things about you to Smoke, then I would understand your frustration. But from my understanding, she was simply telling him what vegetables you enjoyed.

Yes, you can politely ask Melody to not talk about your vegetable preferences to someone you dislike (Smoke). But she can also politely refuse. Sure, she could be a good friend and comply with your request, but she is under no obligation to. You cannot police someone else's private conversations.

In my opinion, not wanting Melody to tell Smoke your vegetable preferences is bit of an overreaction.

There's no way you're freaking out about vegetable preferences alone. I think there's more going on. I need more context. But in my opinion, you kinda overreacted man. Do better, be better, play better. I know you can, Musky. You're better than that.

I love you man. But it's only because I love you so much that I refuse to lie to you, and so I must give my real opinion. No lying allowed, even if it might hurt you and even if it's something you probably don't want to hear.

Anyway I'm gonna hump my pillow and pretend it's you until the situation is resolved. If the drama isn't resolved by my 1000th hump then you two need to cut ties with each other. I'll be keeping an eye out. This friendship seems too unhealthy to continue.

FuckYourMom · 2022-11-25T01:54:05+00:00

https://youtube.com/shorts/nUeps7uexd4?feature=share

No, you are correct. That is a bad woman to keep around. She shouldn’t be sharing your personal life with other people; she has no respect for you.

Shill-For-Freedom · 2022-11-25T22:19:02+00:00

CarbonDioxideHead · 2022-11-25T11:21:06+00:00

You asked her if she was talking about you to others behind your back, she said no.

She lied.

You're not in the wrong at all, she's lying to you, betraying your trust and disrespecting you.

Dunno, if you can't trust this woman to exercise some self control and not use you as a gossiping piece, then there's a decent chance that down the line she could demonstrate the same lack of self control and morals and cheat on you, and neatly cover it up with her habit of lying.

Not sure if you're married or what but I'd start thinking about things between you two if I was you.

She's in the wrong, all you did was type a mean message over text as a response. She's currently stabbing you in the back.

Might not be the most moral thing to do but maybe start talking to other women, maybe you'll be lucky enough to find one who isn't a Judas.

JasonCarswell · 2022-11-25T16:54:16+00:00

Yes.

You might get my compassion, sympathy, and respect if you showed that to others.

Be a man and be responsible for your own actions and emotions. Grow up.

Musky · 2022-11-25T00:27:43+00:00

Top left is the first time it happened, bottom right is the second, top right is the third, bottom left is not a separate incident but I included it for consideration.

The vegetable thing is because this story she shared was something I told her privately about common veggies I have never tried. She plays it off like I'm being a weird asshole over nothing because it is insignificant. But it doesn't matter what the private thing she shared with another guy was, I have asked her repeatedly not to discuss me.

I feel this is not only disrespectful and a blatant disregard for my feelings, but the bitch doesn't even have the decency to own up to it. She's always trying to weasel her way out.

u/shill-for-freedom I know everyone just sees me blow up at her, but goddamn, wtf more can I do besides just not tell her anything.

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tiny-brown-mug · 2022-11-26T17:41:51+00:00

This is a huge part of why internet relationships are a horrible idea. It can get very emotionally fraught, sensitivities run high, feelings get hurt, and there's only so much nuance that can be conveyed in text.

I have you guys on here as internet friends, but if things got any more personal that that, I'd have problems, too. I think it would be healthier for Musky to back off of this friendship entirely, as it seems to be causing him emotional distress, and this distress is pouring out in kind of passive-aggressive ways into the rest of the forum.

If a friendship is becoming emotionally difficult and is effecting your ability to think clearly or be happy, end the friendship. It's not worth it. Musky, you have a wife in real life. You have male internet buddies on here you can talk to and share pictures of your cat, tobacco, and adventures with. You don't need an internet girlfriend.

And if I had been incredibly specific with someone about not sharing any details at all about me with another party and they went ahead and did it anyway, I'd be cheesed off, especially if there was supposed to be some kind of trust involved. It seems one party is taking this friendship way more seriously than the other party, and this may be a sign that the friendship is not healthy for either person.

TimothyMcFuck · 2022-11-27T01:24:17+00:00

you called her a whore you're the asshole

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do me a favor and look around on the floor and under your seat and just check if you see a couple of MALE TESTICLES, NOT FEMALE TESTICLES.

DO NOT MICROWAVE MY TESTICLES

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you almost got paid big.

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