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[–]PatsyStone 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

He's defining bisexuality in terms of gay men's needs.

[–]usehername 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

More like wants. A gay man doesn't "need" a wife and kids (unless he's in a country where he may be killed for it, in which case he's better off fleeing and living his life authentically).

[–]usehername 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Sweet jesus. Psychology Today is the epitome of uninformed pop "psychology".

He agreed that he was sexually attracted to men but socially attracted to his wife.

This is a gay man. Bisexuality is based on sexual attraction because it's a sexual orientation. "Social attraction" is a funny term to describe using someone. I'm sure many people are "socially attracted" to rich people they have no sexual attraction to. sigh

In a culture that still values monogamy as the ideal in relationships, it is hard to get past the issue that all bisexuals who act on their sexual attraction are guilty of infidelity.

Monosexuals also feel attraction to others when they're in a relationship, these other people just happen to be the same sex as their partner. Also, a bisexual who "who act[s] on their sexual attraction" to another person while in a relationship is 100% guilty of infidelity. They don't get a free pass for being bi.

"I identify myself as bisexual, but I feel guilty for stepping out of my marriage to find the intimacy I crave. It is very difficult to maintain a loving relationship at home with my wife."

This isn't a problem with you being bi, it's a problem with your relationship sucking. Maybe you're gay. Just leave her if you're so unhappy you feel the need to cheat.

If a bisexual man loves his wife but craves the touch and physical intimacy of a man, and doesn't get the same feeling from his wife, who can he talk to about it?

Another gay man. Sexually attracted to men but not women. Not bisexual.

How does a bisexual find a life of true love and intimacy with one person?

  1. Be bisexual (not closeted gay)

  2. Meet someone, get to know them, fall in love, develop a relationship

The life of a bisexual can be very difficult unless their primary partner provides the support and freedom that allows the experience of intimacy with the other sex.

sigh These stereotypes are exhausting. This is not necessary for the huge majority of bisexuals. This is only "necessary" in the cases this guy describes where a gay man wants a wife and kids, and what he (and his wife) actually need is therapy.

If necessary, use homosexual fantasies while having sex with your spouse.

This is called being a homosexual, not a bisexual.

Sexual orientation is far more complex than just heterosexuals and non-heterosexuals, or gay, straight, bi, and transgender. Both the gay and bisexual activists seem to wish to claim a purity of definition that does not exist.

More postmodern/queer theory BS. The definitions do exist. Look them up, idiot.

Het: opposite-sex attracted.

Homo: same-sex attracted.

Bi: both sex attracted.

Also "transgender" is not a sexual orientation, despite the growing number of people who have it as their fetish.

All-in-all, the article was a shitshow. Thanks for disappointing me again, Psychology Today. I can't say I didn't expect it.

[–]MarkJefferson 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

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I'm sorry- I thought this was America an article about Bisexual males. Wh're art thy exemplars of thee he bi's in ye rolls of said scroll???

You basically said what I wanted to say after reading this and then some. Imagine how much worse they are now since this was written in 2011 before the woke really hit the fan...

If necessary, use homosexual fantasies while having sex with your spouse

LOL I didn't even see this the first time. I'm just gonna say, If you need someone other than your own spouse who you are currently intercoursing with then... I can't even- who tf wrote this...

Bisexual activists get very angry when others say that bisexuality is nothing more than a place to park until one becomes gay.

You don't say?

bisexuality is nothing more than a place to park

Could someone please validate my bisexuality?

[–]usehername 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I bestow upon you one validation point.