How much has your attraction to either sex changed since realizing you were bisexual?

submitted by cinnaflo from self.Bisexuals

So we all know that bisexuals can have their attraction to either sex fluctuate overtime, and there are others whose' attraction stays pretty much the same their whole lives. What I want to know is, how often has it changed for you since realizing you were bisexual? Why?

For me, I realized I was bisexual only after crushing hard on a girl when I was 14... I also remember being attracted to girls/women in the media before then, but thought I was just a weird straight girl for thinking they were cute (and shrugged it off). Since then, I've only ever been interested in women even though I still find guys to be attractive once in awhile.

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[–]PeakingPeachEater 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

From as young as grade school, I was solely attracted to women. I admired men, as in wanting to be like them/dress like them, but never had an attraction to them until late teens/early 20s. Then I pretty much went "boy crazy" in college. I still liked women a lot, but it slightly tipped to men a bit more because this was a different experience.

Now? I don't know who I like more. I'm currently in a relationship with a man but find myself missing women sometimes.... I know, "You're such a stereotype! You can't makeup your mind! You're probably secretly gay!".

It's just very...different. I thought I'd be childless and my partner would be a woman but it's the exact opposite, I have a child and my partner is a man.

[–]cinnaflo[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That's really interesting, I feel like its uncommon for bisexuals to develop an attraction to women first and then men later. And nah that's just kind of how bisexuality is lol, as a group we're more likely to have varied experiences with our attractions to both sexes. And don't feel bad about it! There's nothing wrong with being 'stereotypical' or liking both sexes equally.