[Cross-Post] What would a relationship between two bisexual people be called?

submitted by PeakingPeachEater from self.Bisexuals

No, this isn't a punchline. See below for source.

Source: GC: If two bisexual people are in a "relationship", are they in a "bisexual relationship" because they are bisexual? Would the terms "gay relationship" and "straight relationship" invalidate their bisexuality and be bierasure?.

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[–]ElectricSheep 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Would they not just be called "a couple"

I don't get why it has to be special.

[–]PeakingPeachEater[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Exactly!! Idk why they make it so complicated. It doesn't make sense to call it bisexual relationship...It sounds clunky.

If they really want to be "technically" correct, they can say "same-sex" or "opposite-sex" relationship.

I see "gay relationship" and "straight relationship" as a colloquial way of saying the above.

[–]MarkJefferson 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I would call it a same-sex relationship or opposite-sex relationship. I also don't see any problem with the term mlm or wlw relationship when its in text.

Calling it a Bi relationship obviously doesn't work. But neither does Straight or Gay. Just doesn't sound right to me.

It sounds like Homosexuals and Bisexuals are ok with the latter but I think it'll hurt both groups in the long run with its definition dilution/pollution. It probably already has.

Even better; We come up with new terms for same-sex or mlm/wlw that are less unwieldy. Or maybe just appropriate other words.

[–]PeakingPeachEater[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I've been wondering--- is it offensive in English to say "same-sex"? I see in DroptheT that some don't like it and say it reminds them of church/religious context? But I learnt it that way so I do not know.

I agree with you though in using same-sex & opposite sex to describe it.

Ahhh I forgot about MLM & WLW that works too! I guess it depends on context? I usually see MLM and WLM in a dating website context? I am not sure. Oh lol maybe I am thinking of M4M or W4W?? Same thing?

True, calling it a "straight" relationship or "gay relationship" isn't correct, I think people who use it are using it extremely colloquial. I know straight people who consider a bi person in a relationship with same sex to be in a "lesbian" or "gay" relationship in their eyes.

[–]MarkJefferson 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I've been wondering--- is it offensive in English to say "same-sex"? I see in DroptheT that some don't like it and say it reminds them of church/religious context? But I learnt it that way so I do not know.

I don't think so, but I could be wrong. I guess it could be offensive in the same way that homosexual is said to sound too clinical. Maybe some religious people use the term to denigrate LGB people? I'm not religious or go to church so I don't know.

Ahhh I forgot about MLM & WLW that works too! I guess it depends on context? I usually see MLM and WLM in a dating website context? I am not sure. Oh lol maybe I am thinking of M4M or W4W?? Same thing?

Similar, I guess. M4M(Men for Men or Men Seeking Men), W4W(Women for Women or Women Seeking Women). The acronyms are mostly for online usage.

[–]usehername 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'd consider myself to be in a het relationship. I don't consider it bi-erasure because in a relationship between two people, outsiders will see a same-sex or opposite-sex couple. If one of the partners who is bi claims they are now whatever sexuality their relationship is, yes, that's bi-erasure.