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[–]loveSloaneDebate King 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

/1. MF losing her job- it’s lazy and insulting to act like the reason that Maya’s contract wasn’t renewed had nothing to do with what she said about sex. Seriously, come on. They even said it was in response to her views. Technically she wasn’t fired- but she lost a renewal she would have had, and she lost it over her beliefs not lining up with trans ideology. It is absurd that people can’t speak fact if it upsets or offends trans people. Nobody seems to give a fuck that the things that tras push on the rest of us are incredibly offensive.

It’s also laughable to pretend that there aren’t many trans people who claim to have changed sex. It’s not the party line- it is frequently claimed by many.

/2. She wrote a letter explaining herself. She doesn’t have to link anything. Most GC women have done research and many of us have said that engaging with trans people had a large part to do with us becoming gc. I don’t think someone has to cite sources when they offer their fans a detailed explanation of their views because their fans are questioning them. Trans people don’t really cite their sources when they try to warp biology and claim debunked pseudoscience backs up their claims. Or they cite the pseudoscience that has often been debunked already.

As far as 2c- it’s flagrantly false to claim that trans rights don’t infringe on female rights. The only way that’s true is if you believe TWAW. Transwomen are MEN, they routinely infringe on our rights. In spaces, sports, representation. Our speech is compelled. Freedom of religion. Like- trans people are the most invasive marginalized group to ever exist. I can’t think of another protected class who’s rights demolish another group’s rights. The “majority” who approve is not a large enough majority that we should just disregard the minority. And it shouldn’t matter how many women are fine sacrificing their own rights- women don’t have the right to sacrifice another woman’s comfort, needs, and safety. Some women may be “quite comfortable” with men TW in their spaces- they don’t need them there, they won’t be unsafe without them there. He’s saying we should just say “fuck you, deal with it” to every female who is bothered by this? Even little girls who can’t vote and likely weren’t polled?

/3. Fuck this dude for trying to excuse death threats. She can say whatever the fuck she wants. If she’s not sending death threats- there’s no justification for her receiving them (arguably sending them doesn’t warrant receiving, but at least that could be somewhat understandable). “Transphobia” or not, there’s no reason to threaten to rape or murder someone. Especially not a difference of views. She said how she felt. Sane, rational people would have stopped being a fan and moved on if they disagreed. Instead they keep lying and threatening. It’s fucking ridiculous and shows that many trans people and their allies are everything they accuse us of being and worse.

/4. AGP exists- it’s a fucking fetish. Not all trans people have fetishes, many do.

I have no problem with Magdalene Burns comparison, and have yet to have a trans person explain how being trans is any different from the other identities we don’t take seriously. The best answer I got is that dysphoria is a recognized condition- problem is, dysphoria doesn’t mean you’re the opposite sex/gender. And has nothing to do with gender identity. I see no difference between someone claiming to be another race and a dude saying he’s a lady (or the reverse)

It’s a weak argument to say “there are many lesbians who think TW are women, think some are lesbians, and are willing to be with them”.

Okay? And? There are many who understand that males can’t be lesbians. So what does this even matter? And why are so many trans women complaining about people not wanting to date them? And what about the many lesbians who have spoken out about this issue and say that transwomen Who are attracted to women are straight men? We just gonna ignore them? You can’t claim the vast majority accept them, when the people who do accept them are banning and silencing the ones who don’t, and many of those forums and places the writer got their info from are run by men TW.

/5. LMAO at them saying she’s playing the victim. That’s fucking hilarious. She is being sent death and rape threats. They acknowledge this and then again dismiss it because “transphobia”. What actual harm has jk Rowling caused? What death threats has she sent? I can’t believe you read this and thought it was right and accurate and saw no issues with what this person is saying. There’s nothing to debunk because this person (the person tweeting) is an asshole who thinks their opinion is fact and is basing everything they say on it. I haven’t finished reading but I think that last sentence is the answer to the whole post. This is bullshit wrapped in “fact” and ideology that they take for granted the readers agree with. The lack of awareness is just overwhelming.

5b- they aren’t killing themselves because of us. They are mentally ill and it’s not being dealt with properly and they will never be able to make the world match their sense of identity. It’s fucking gross to blame others for the suicides of trans people.why is this the one condition that requires everyone to placate their mentality, instead of them learning how to cope with reality? They can do whatever they want to themselves- why do the rest of us have to participate? Do you not see how dangerous it is to place your mental health in the hands of others? Including complete strangers? And do you not see how fucked up it is to tell people “play along with my identity and claims, or I’ll kill myself and it’s your fault”?!

5c- here we go again with the emotional manipulation. TW are not the responsibility of females. It’s not our job to protect them or their feelings. If trans people are in danger then they should find solutions that don’t include a group of people completely unrelated to them. Females are also a protected and marginalized group. How do you defend taking away the rights and safety precautions of one protected class for the benefit of another? What other group has demanded this?

/6. She’s not obligated to donate to trans charities. What if she’s donating money to help in other ways?

We don’t know who her all of her supporters are. Many of them are doctors lol. She has a lot of supporters and I think this whole section is stupid. I see more support for her than disagreement. I see many people asking for clarification on what was even transphobic- and they aren’t getting answers because she didn’t say anything transphobic in her letter. Not agreeing with tras is not transphobic.

Nobody is actually addressing the concerns she voiced- they just keep saying her concerns are irrelevant. That’s dismissive bullshit. Why can’t they address the concerns? Again- you have to believe TWAW in order to not think TW are undermining female rights. He is taking this as a given. And that’s a huge flaw in this whole thread.

Honestly- the rest of the thread is just more bullshit. And my points above apply there so I’m not gonna break it down anymore. This is one of the most ignorant things I’ve ever read. Tras continually assume that their views are fact and accurate, and they base all of their argument on that assumption. That’s the problem. It only makes sense and isn’t offensive to people who already agree with them. Every single point he made was dismissive of JKR and any person who thinks similarly. It’s so easy to just throw out the word “transphobic” and use it to dismiss people. Not thinking a male is a woman or a female is a man or that a human can be neither male or female is not transphobic. Harming them (physically- not hurting their feelings by misgendering them or invalidating them) because you think that is what’s transphobic. This person is just a dismissive self righteous ass. I want those minutes I spent reading this bullshit back lol. I’d love for a tra to make an argument based on fact and to actually address and break down the concerns gc people have. They don’t do that and resort to what this person did because they can’t.

Tldr- nothing to debunk because nothing stated was based in fact.

[–]ColoredTwiceIntersex female, medical malpractice victim, lesbian 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It’s a weak argument to say “there are many lesbians who think TW are women, think some are lesbians, and are willing to be with them”.

It is not an argument at all.

Lesbian women physically can not be aroused by pre-op TW (and post-OP as well, but post-OP ones are only 5-12% and they are interested in men in most cases).

Even if we really really wanted, our body will not respond, our body will not get aroused. Identity or looks does not matter that much, because body will fail to recognize female in TW, and we can do nothing with it. It is something out of our control.

Calling us transphobic for how we were born? Calling us transphobic for things we can not change? It is extremely rude and basically the same as racism or nacism. Hate for characteristics person did not chose and could not chose.

There NOTHING bad in being bisexual and accepting your bisexuality, so if you get aroused from women and from penises - there nothing wrong in calling yourself bisexual, it is not a slur and not a word to afraid. Just do not call yourself what you are not, as you are not a lesbian then.

[–]loveSloaneDebate King 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I apologize if I said anything rude- this was infuriating for me to read.

[–]MezozoicGaygay male 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

As far as 2c- it’s flagrantly false to claim that trans rights don’t infringe on female rights.

It does not actually even matter in this case. Rules and laws proposed by trans activists are making it is very easy to any offender to infringe women spaces and women rights, even if you believe that TWAW. 56% of transwomen prisoners in UK found that they are woman only after getting in jail and starting transition and requesting to get into women's prison. And few cases when they were out of prison - they were stopping taking hormones, and returning to being a man, not trans. 48% of tranwomen in UK prison were there for sexual offense (without prostitution involved in sentence it was 40%), it is 20-28% more than men's percentages.

In Norway man went into women's toilet, and when woman complained about him, he made a court issue with her, because that day he changed his Self-ID through internet site to be a woman, so he sued her for transphobia. It was 4 years ago, so woman only lost some nerves and money. Today in Norway is a law that such "offense" can be punished by sending woman to prison for up to 3 years. So any creep or predator or criminal can just self-ID in the morning, then go in the evening to womens toilets and gaze on women or film with camera (like one teen transwoman who did not started taking blockers, and was at age of 15 or 16 did in USA school), or something much worse. And women can do nothing about it. It can be safer for them to go into men's toilets now, just because all criminals and bad men would be in women's toilets.

Oxford's university put anti-safeguarding sign near women's toilets and bathrooms (and not near men's) - that women should not question or afraid anyone they see there that they think is creepy or out of place, furthermore - women must help them and protect.

PP just yesterday removed word "woman" from topics about pregnancy and abortion, and proposing to other companies to do the same. And we all know that https://pbs.twimg.com/media/EnORFMyXEAEKcoX?format=jpg&name=900x900

So even if TWAW is true, this is still a huge infringement on women's rights. And if TWAW is not true, then it is even worse.

[–]emptiedriver 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (10 children)

You need to start engaging in these threads or responding to people who put time into posting answers to you if you want to get thoughtful and detailed arguments. I am not going to go through every one of these when I expect you will just disappear, but yes, they can all be refuted.

What I will say is that his biggest confusion is 1d, where he says:

"1d. The distinction between the truth and JK's mischaracterisation is important - because no one is arguing that sex is not determined by biology.

This is a common transphobic attack to cast trans (and NB/intersex) rights in an absolutist light to make them seem absurd."

Yeah, no, they ARE absurd. They ARE arguing that sex is not determined by biology. Either absolutely blatantly and literally, or sometimes a little more confusedly by just saying that biology doesn't matter and everything which we have determined by biology in the past such as sports teams, private areas, medical treatments, statistics, sexual attraction and so on, should now be determined simply by someone's claim to identity. If you concede that sex is determined by biology but maintain it is not the difference between men and women then what are you even saying?

This is the key argument and really the issue which can make the rest of them clear. Trans women are biologically men. They may be welcome into women's circles in some contexts, but they cannot be expected to be categorized as women legally, medically, or automatically. That's just not the biological truth, and discussing that or how to handle that should not be a problem.

[–]SnowAssMan 15 insightful - 2 fun15 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 2 fun -  (9 children)

Yep, every time they argue for trans-women to be included in women's single-sex spaces, like sports & prisons they are indirectly saying that sex is not real.

Not only is sex real, but so is the gendered socialisation that accompanies it, which results in the gendered tendencies, behavioural patterns & overall social existence of a person. This is something nobody seems to acknowledge. This said thing is actually: gender. That's right, despite gender & sex being different, everyone's sex & gender are congruent, the only exceptions being some intersex people & people who were brought up female despite being male due to penile ablation or something similar.

Every trans person whose sex was unambiguous to their parents received the gendered socialisation associated with their sex, not their preferred sex, meaning a trans person's sex is congruent with their gender. Their gendered upbringing ensured that.

[–]emptiedriver 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (8 children)

Not only is sex real, but so is the gendered socialisation that accompanies it, which results in the gendered tendencies, behavioural patterns & overall social existence of a person. This is something nobody seems to acknowledge... despite gender & sex being different, everyone's sex & gender are congruent

Well, being GC, I'm not sure I can agree with you on that, and I'm not even sure what you mean. "gender" is too broad a concept to say everyone is congruent. There are men and women of all different sorts, and certainly many who do not conform to expectations or typical behaviors. Do they share certain underlying socialization? I would say so, but there is still a lot of variance. Do they behave outwardly according to expected norms? definitely not.

The one thing we can be sure is true is the biological distinction - that is not complicated at all, you're one or the other. Exactly how gender works is a minefield like asking about ethics or free will or beauty or any other abstract concept of the human experience. It can seem simple enough but you'll find people disagree on the boundaries and details and can fight over it all day. Sex is like asking if the planet is round or gravity exists. It's just an established fact. We shouldn't be having fights over that.

[–]SnowAssMan 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (7 children)

I'm talking about gender identity. Our gender identity is congruent with our sex, because we live in a gendered culture, our parents are from said culture, they gave us a gendered upbringing. That's why gender exists to begin with.

Studies show that parents give their male infants attention when they whine, scream, grunt etc, but only give female infants that attention if they use words or gentle touches. They also play rougher with male infants & talk more to female ones. This produces two separate cultures. Those cultures are called: gender.

Why do trans-men attend voice therapy? Don't the hormones take care of that? No, because even our voices are gendered. Why do trans-womxyn have to try their hardest to stop walking, talking, even gesturing like men & start doing so like women, while never 100% succeeding? Gender is conditioned based on sex.

Behavioural patterns:

More women than men attempt suicide, likewise more trans-men than trans-womxyn attempt suicide

More men than women commit crimes, likewise more trans-womxyn than trans-men commit crimes

Men are overrepresented in media & high positions compared to women, likewise trans-womxyn are overrepresented in those same areas compared to trans-men.

The same is true of gay men vs. lesbians. Trans people & homosexuals may be GNC superficially, but that doesn't mean they behave like the opposite sex. The trends in behaviour reveal that they are still gender conforming in every meaningful way. What we perceive as femininity in GNC men, or masculinity in GNC women is a very male version of femininity & female version of masculinity, respectively, that you don't actually see in their gender conforming counterparts.

Gender distinctions we can be sure are true. It's sociology. Science & business depend on people conforming to their demographics. It's a legitimate science that billion dollar industries can depend on, so so can feminism. It's one of the most integral parts of feminism. Simone de Beauvoir explained all this in a 1975 interview:

"that formula (One is not born but made a woman) is the basis of all my theories & it's meaning is very simple: that being a woman is not a natural fact. It's a result of a certain history. There is no biological or psychological destiny that defines a woman as such. She is the product of a history, of civilisation, first of all, which has resulted in her current status. And secondary for each individual woman of her personal history in particular, that of her childhood. This determines her as a woman, creates in her something which is not at all innate, or an essence, something which has been called the "eternal feminine", or femininity. The more we study the psychology of children the deeper we delve, the more evident it becomes that baby girls are manufactured to become women [...] Long before a child is conscious, the way it is breastfed, or held, or rocked etc. inscribes in its body what might later appear a destiny".

[–]peakingatthemomentTranssexual (natal male), HSTS 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

We don't all fit norms though even if we are taught them. Like, I was raised as a boy, but it didn't take for me the same way it did for my older brothers and made me unhappy and upset. Even things like my mannerisms and speech marked me as different from other boys even if I didn't want to be. I'm not saying those things made me a girl, but saying we always have a gender identity that matched our sex just isn't true for way you are using that word.

[–]emptiedriver 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Behavioural patterns: More women than men...

Right, but that's not all women or men. If you're talking patterns, then there are still a percentage who don't fit the norms.

100% of women have female reproductive systems vs male reproductive systems. THat's not a pattern, that's just a fact. The gendered patterns that arise from sociological upbringing and culture treatment are far more complicated and exactly why some people can claim that they're some of that "less" percentage that are different.

Personally I would say they're connected and that the body you have leads to gendered tendencies which lead to social patterns and a feedback loop, but it's arguable, which is my point. There are different theories about how the genders work, and they're defendable. There are no rational theories of any other sexual system except male and female and the very clear physical distinction between them that we understand. In fact it really starts to become a kind of "nature vs nurture" discussion at some point, which is a pointless exercise. If gender is necessarily the same as the sex you are born with, why not just call it sex? Maybe it's hormones, maybe it's how you're treated, who really knows, but it's pretty abstract to say which is which at some point

To me, the important thing to clarify is just the two sexes because that's the part that is clear cut and that makes an actual difference in things like statistics, sports teams, locker rooms and the rest. Gender theory can be interesting but let's not get lost in the fog.

[–]SnowAssMan 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Right, but that's not all women or men

Wha? Where are the exceptions? Where are the trans-womxyn who don't need to train themselves hard not to conform to their gendered conditioning only to somewhat emulate women, superficially & in an androcentric way? The same trends can be found within the microcosm of GNC exceptions: homosexuals & trans people. You mean it's not a stark enough difference? As in, not all women attempt suicide, & not all men never attempt suicide?

If gender is necessarily the same as the sex you are born with, why not just call it sex?

Wha? Why would we re-name 'nurture' 'nature', why would we erase social determinism, by calling it biological determinism? How are we meant to talk about class then – it's not biologically determined? Culture is relevant. There are two distinct cultures passed down to the sexes. Sex is just biology, gender is culture. Discussions on gender were necessary & relevant before the idea that they could be mismatched came about. From a "trans-womxyn are women" perspective gender serves no other function apart from its ability to be mismatched. How can a GC feminist believe the same? Understanding genders as two separate cultures that the male & female sexes are inculcated with by our parents from an early age is integral to be able to engage in feminist discourse, I would have thought.

Understanding of gender separate from sex is important for many reasons, one use helps us understand intersex women with CAIS for instance. They are male, they have internal testes that produce non-viable sperm, but their bodies don't process androgens correctly, so they appear "female" outwardly (actually, nature reverts to default, which looks identical to female, since asexual reproduction requires birth & breast feeding). They are incorrectly identified as female & so receive our culture's designated gendered upbringing accordingly. They end up walking, talking, sounding, acting, moving like women, despite being male – now that's how you do transitioning. The "trans-womxyn are women" brigade pretend the same is possible for trans-womxyn via blockers & hormones & speech therapy, while failing miserably.

Sex is not the same as gender, the fact that they can't be mismatched (except in people with CAIS) does not undermine this fact. Sex is not the cause, sex is the catalyst, socialisation is the cause & socialisation-concordant gendered behaviour is the effect.

[–]emptiedriver 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

As in, not all women attempt suicide, & not all men never attempt suicide?

Right, an individual can claim not to meet the specific determinations of the gender. It's defined by general standards. Sex is not general, everyone has the same standard that anyone can tell as soon as the baby is born (or a doctor can tell even before, now).

Wha? Why would we re-name 'nurture' 'nature', why would we erase social determinism, by calling it biological determinism? How are we meant to talk about class then – it's not biologically determined? Culture is relevant.

Look, I'm not necessarily disagreeing with you, only saying that this is a whole gigantic complicated discussion rather than a simple fact, and what's important at the moment is getting the facts right.

They are incorrectly identified as female & so receive our culture's designated gendered upbringing accordingly. They end up walking, talking, sounding, acting, moving like women, despite being male – now that's how you do transitioning.

Mm, well maybe I am disagreeing with you... so if someone could be incorrectly identified as female early enough they could become the other sex?

I mean, in any case, I'm not arguing over whether something is determined by biology or culture. I'm only arguing over whether biology or culture is absolute. What it results in is not the point. Sure, maybe all people raised as female have certain things in common, maybe not, maybe all people with female hormones have things in common, maybe not: that isn't what I'm focused on here. All I am asking is that we categorize people correctly. People can have male or female reproductive systems, period. Those are physically distinct types of human beings who have different growth charts, puberty experiences, health risks, and bodily capacities. That is just a fact.

We can argue about whether some things should be co-ed but it makes no sense to argue whether some things should be gender-based instead of sex-based. "Gender" is too indeterminate a concept to base a category on. Either it is as you say, directly based on sex anyway, or it is some kind of vague notion of selfhood that we cannot agree to. So, let's use sex as the basis for the categories (like sports teams, prisons, changing rooms, crime statistics & so on)

[–]SnowAssMan 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I was prepared to read through his whole thread, so be prepared to read through my entire reply.

Dude, his first "point" after the Maya stuff is that "she's setting herself up as an authority - & so has zero defence for why she's so woefully uninformed on this issue" – that's not a point. How did she manage to be more informed than Carter then? Is he even less informed? Give me a break.

The next point is that he doesn't think a certain age group is more affected by these issues than others. Even though it's supremely obvious that young girls or mothers with young daughter would be more affected by this issue than other women for instance, so he's wrong again, but even if he was right on this point, who cares? It's so trivial & pedantic.

He then goes on to make the unfounded claim that trans rights don't impinge on women's rights at all. He is forgetting about prisons, sports, shelters, even gynaecology & homosexuality – these single-sex areas are just validation playgrounds for trans-womxyn. World Rugby found that in their high-contact sport female players were at an increased risk of sustaining injury when playing with trans-womxyn players. Caitlyn Jenner won gold in the men's decathlon for God's sake. Sports are single-sex for a reason, making single sex spaces unisex would make separate spaces redundant.

Within the same aforementioned point he claims that the majority of women have no problem with trans-womxyn, but as we all know most people are ignorant. If you look at poles that inform the people taking them that trans-women, in the majority of cases, still have penises, then the results go in the other direction. The majority of men & women then suddenly have a problem with trans-womxyn sharing spaces with women.

His next point makes the unfounded claim that JKR is transphobic. And so no feminist can expose sexism in the trans movement, because that is making women the victims when trans people are always the victims, even when they are victimising others – is basically his argument. It falls to pieces on it's own, unless you're a misogynist.

He implies she never made a statement in support of trans people, even though she has. She doesn't support the ideological view that trans-womxyn are women. There are literal trans-women in this culture who also don't recognise trans-womxyn as women. Trans-womxyn in every culture of the world, no matter how trans-friendly the culture is, aren't recognised as women, usually men or third gender. So he is pretending that implying trans-womxyn are men is transphobic, when it clearly isn't. He won't recognise that his view is purely ideological, not factual.

He cherry-picks one tweet by MB. It's not relevant because: a) JKR didn't give that tweet a like or comment on it & b) it's not representative of MB's average tweet, it's an obscure exception. It's a common anti-feminist tactic to take a short blurb from a feminist to try to undermine feminism as a whole. JKR is allowed to describe someone in the kindness of terms without having reviewed every single last tweet they have ever posted. This "point" of his is severely patronising.

The trans movement has rhetoric that is homophobic sometimes. Pointing that obvious fact out is not "hiding behind lesbians". His counter-argument is that lesbians agree with him, so I guess a valid counter to that counter would be that there are trans people who agree with JKR?

When JKR humorously said that she is on her 5th cancellation that wasn't her trying to play the victim. She has the freedom to voice her thoughts on this issue, few other feminists or even women have that same privilege.

He talks about suicides among trans students. 2-3x as many members of the female sex compared to the male sex self-report having attempted suicide, regardless of how they identify. What does that tell you? More women attempt suicide than men, just as more trans-men attempt suicide than trans-womxyn. Compare like with like & trans-womxyn end up being men (who are more vulnerable than the average man, just as all GNC men are).

He claims that we must all say "trans-womxyn are women", despite the evidence to the contrary, in order to reduce harm to 0.2% of the population, no matter the cost to 52% of the population, & we must also never mention mental disorders (even though dysphoria is a mental disorder, the 'M' in "DSM-5" stands for 'mental disorders'), we must also never mention autogynaephilia, despite autogynaephiles vastly outnumbering trans-womxyn. This argument would be as invalid as saying we can never address sexism in the black community because racism exists which has been known to have fatal consequences. How about stop shouting "transphobia" every time someone wants to address sexism? "Transphobia!" is the new "misandREEEE!"

Next he says that composting a book is inoffensive, when a couple of tweets ago he was claiming that that example was her cherry-picking the worst examples. In the same breath he claims once again that JKR's "abuse" against trans people needs to be addressed. If JKR's benign essay is "abuse" of trans people, then Carter's thread is abuse of feminists, by his own standards. Once again he proves his hypocritical double standard.

I haven't the time to continue addressing every single post, & no one is going to read this reply anyway, which was probably the intention of his thread. Anyway he goes on to post an article about the 2011 Swedish study. His article however is from 2015. Here is a more up-to-date article on the Swedish study from this year: https://www.thepublicdiscourse.com/2020/09/71296/

"One of the strengths of the 2011 Dhejne study is that an increase in mortality is clearly seen at around 10 years"

He makes another claim that trans-womxyn don't pose more of a physical threat to women (which World Rugby would disagree with), but say you found that gay men posed no more of a physical threat to women than women do, so what? Gay men are still men. Single-sex spaces are still single-sex spaces. They exist because of the differences between the sexes. Self-identification in no way justifies grouping trans-womxyn with women.

[–]Britishbulldog 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Got part of the way through. Never points out any actual transphobia, has zero consideration for women’s rights (like most men in this debate) and then misrepresents the Equality Act 2010 (which specifies ‘sex’, it does not say ‘gender identity’). So multiple flaws on a brief skim that didn’t get all the way through. Other GCs will pull it apart more thoroughly.

[–]FlanJam 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (13 children)

I'm not GC and idk half of what that dude is even talking about lol. Idk if I even agree with him or not. But just briefly looking thru the thread, there are a couple points I could nitpick:

2c. And - since trans rights don't actually impinge women's rights at all - neither the character nor Rowling is materially affected by the issue.

At all? Maybe he's being hyperbolic but surely he has to recognize its more complicated than that. If trans-activism truly didn't affect women's rights at all, I doubt GC would have any issue with them.

If you want to learn what the vast majority of the Lesbian community think about trans people, I recommend following @BellaRizinti.

Why does a random twitter account represent the majority of lesbians? Doesn't seem right to me.

[–]jackrusselterror1 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (8 children)

I also don’t understand where he is getting the idea that lesbians accept transwomen as women. No, women who are exclusively same sex attracted aren’t interested in sleeping with men, even if they say they identify as a woman or cosmetically alter themselves to look like women. Lesbians are incapable of sexual attraction to men. That’s the entire point of the word lesbian. If, hypothetically speaking, a lesbian dates or has sex with a transwoman, this would be a traumatic event and likely she would have done this to prove she accepted TWAW, or out of self-loathing and a desire to be straight. I’m like 90% sure we had a lesbian poster on the old subreddit who said something similar about her experience with a transwoman but I’m blanking on the username.

I don’t know what TRAS think lesbians are, but clearly we don’t have the same definitions.

[–]FlanJam 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (7 children)

He probably only talks to lesbians on the QT side. I dont doubt there are plenty of lesbians who are on that side, but the vast majority? If I were to guess I'd say the majority of lesbians don't even pay attention to this stuff. I know I wouldn't if I hadn't got caught up in internet discourse.

[–]jackrusselterror1 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

See, I don’t understand how someone can be exclusively same-sex attracted and also fully be on board with QT without experiencing either serious self-loathing, internalized homophobia, or some sort of cognitive dissonance.

[–]adungitit 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think a lot of self-proclaimed monosexual people are just people with a fetish for a certain kind of gender presentation, and that gets equated with actual monosexuality, especially if you buy into the idea that the clothes you wear and the pronoun you choose define your sex, instead of, you know, your sex.

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (4 children)

I visited a "radfem" lesbian friend of my husbands pre-covid. She is in a lesbian marriage - my husband knew her in college and she only dated men. She identifies as a lesbian and is in a same-sex relationship (open, though - and just expanded to include my husband's male friend from college. She still considers herself a lesbian, even with a male side piece). She also told me she's dated transwomen and how pleased she is as a children's minister for her UU church that ALL the kids in her group have identified as pansexual. She was raised radfem and claims to be that while also disavowing all second wave feminists saying that I really need to read more modern stuff (pomo/butler stuff). I'd wager there are plenty of lesbians who aren't exclusively same-sex attracted, because there's no evidence that sexuality is innate. There is evidence it's fluid and can change, and just because someone claimed a lesbian identity or even lives in a homosexual relationship, they're still just human, innately flawed and can believe in an ideology. The neo-sexuality movements are a religion.

[–]VioletRemihomosexual female (aka - lesbian) 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

If bisexual woman identifies as lesbian, she does not become lesbian from that, she is still bisexual.

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

That's my point. Except that she does. She gets to speak as a lesbian, and I, a bisexual, am not allowed to comment on the state of anything LGBTQIA because though she's been with fewer women in her life than I, she's considered a lesbian. The point is, anyone claiming to be exclusively same-sex attracted might just be full of shit and onboard QT because they appropriated their own identity.

[–]VioletRemihomosexual female (aka - lesbian) 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Sexuality is not an identity. If you are bisexual you are bisexual, even if you call herself heterosexual, or lesbian or gay man, or anything else. Your words would not change material reality of who you are. And the reason that people still ignoring reality and agreeing with whatever people say they are - hurts actual lesbians (and well - all other minorities).

And - a lot of lesbians are hating bisexual women just for that (I myself fine with bisexual women, my first gf was bisexual), and it creates bi-phobia withing the community. When bisexual women are saying they are lesbians and then dating men or never even dating women, but just saying that they are lesbians. And then men are oming to lesbians and saying - hey, that woman who always dates men is calling herself lesbian, so come and try my dick, you just not found correct dick yet!

And it is not even QT problem, this was long before QT. It is mostly porn problem, porn makes "lesbians" sexy for straight men, so even straight women can be called themselves lesbians or kiss another girl while men are looking to "be more hot for men and sell for more".

And from what I've seen in those communities, many of them aren't lesbians. Like non-binary woman who is dating feminine man who is non-binary too are calling themselves lesbians, even thought they never had any relationship with woman and never even kissed a woman.

[–]MezozoicGaygay male 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Izzy Rizinti is same as /u/GenderBender about transmen in this regard. They are just not compeletely honest with themselves.

She said that "I can date transwoman, but will not have sex with pre-op ones, and post-op I will have sex with minimal attention to genitals, to not trigger dysphoria, BUT I know many other lesbians who are fine with having sex with pre-op transwomen".

So she is admitting, she is not aroused by TW, which is obvious as she is a lesbian (or heavy leaning febfem), but still throwing other lesbians under the buss.

[–]FlanJam 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I will have sex with minimal attention to genitals

I can't take people seriously when they say stuff like this. Its just so detached from reality...

[–]MezozoicGaygay male 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I am not sure they tried such sex with them, they are just trying to make themselves believe that they are not bigoted, or something among those lines.

[–]worried19 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm curious whether people who say things like that have ever actually had sex.