Why are you quoting Margaret Atwood? You think she speaks for all women? A lot of women consider her misogynistic. She is speaking of a particular kind of woman in that passage - a dick-pandering kind of woman who only cares about what men see, and who has incorporated the male gaze into her own psyche. But trust me, I'm a woman who is almost as old as Atwood and a whole lot of women don't think that way.

Also, AFAIK, Atwood has not had nor raised any children so in a discussion of infant childrearing I don't think she has anything worthwhile to say.

The first study you linked to is only accessible if I pay a fee. But generally speaking, studies that show adults respond differently to the communication of boys and girls tend to be flawed coz the adults already know the sex of the children being studied.

A study of infants aged 13 months found that when boys demand attention - by behaving aggressively, or crying, whining or screaming - they tended to get it. By contrast, adults tended to respond to girls only when they used language, gestures, or gentle touches; girls who used attention-seeking techniques were likely ignored.

Can't you see how sexist the framing is here? Boys of barely more than a year are described as "behaving aggressively, or crying, whining or screaming." But the girls of the same age are said to have "used language, gestures, or gentle touches." What is "behaving aggressively" in a child of that age? How can a girl of 13 months use language? The language skills of kids that age are very limited - they can have some limited understanding of what adults say, but they can't speak themselves beyond perhaps a few simple words like "mama" and "dada" and "baba."

And in this framing, children of both sexes who are barely a year old are demonized for using "attention-seeking techniques." This is ageism against the very young. Of course, 13-month old humans use "attention-seeking techniques" like crying and screaming. Coz they haven't yet mastered the ability to use words to make their feelings and needs known. Coz they are 13 months old.

How am I "blaming misogyny on women" when I say everyone in our culture has the same implicit bias against women?

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Every mother is a misogynist when she dances to every whim & grunt from her infant son, over-estimating his abilities, spoiling him, making him into the inarticulate, entitled, assertive, obnoxious man he becomes, while giving her daughter the reverse treatment.

As if this is the universal norm. But not every woman raises her sons and daughters this way. And women aren't the only ones involved in raising children.

What you say is the universal norm is nothing like how I was raised or how I raised my own children.

Nor is the way you paint all men with your broad brush an accurate universal description. Not all men are "inarticulate, entitled, assertive, obnoxious" as you say. Not all women are the reverse. You seem to think all men and women are just cardboard caricatures of the sexist stereotypes you hew to.

You also claim everyone - female and male - has the same bias against women you think is the norm. Sorry, you come off as if you live in Stepfordland.