1) how many people detransition back to their assigned-at-birth gender? I'm not talking about legally changing a name back or even having surgery regrets, because neither indicate necessarily that a person isn't trans. Furthermore, why do those people detransition, and how would their doing so invalidate the transgender identities of others? People who think they're cis but later think otherwise don't invalidate the experiences of cisgender people, do they?

I would start by asking what it is that proves that someone is indeed trans. Because it seems like there is no actual answer here.

2) speaking as someone who regularly hangs out with trans people, they are not pressured to be trans— if anything, they are heavily pressured to be cis, particularly by family. What social pressures are you seeing that are supposedly more dominant than some of these?

Depends on the circles they are in and how this poster defines the word "pressure". Because I am pretty sure that what they are considering pressure is people deciding to not play along with this stuff.

In general, while there are people who try to stop anyone from being trans, there are definitely people who are on a mission to convince others that they are, and this is mostly based on being different levels of non-conforming or LGB.

3) why are trans people "confused" about their gender whereas cis people are not? Unless you're trying to go the metaphysical skepticism route where you're denying that trans people really exist, then what is the basis for that claim?

Gender is a set of stereotypes and sex-based roles that are thrown at us (and often forced on us) since the day we are born. I don' t think that trans people are confused about their gender per se, I think lots of trans people crave the gender of the other sex for whatever reason (misogyny, fetish, attention, validation, victimhood complex, trauma, homophobia, and, in certain cases, mental illness), some times obsessively so.

Trans people, as in people who want to identify as the other sex/gender, exist. What they use as an excuse for that, gender identity, however, doesn' t, or at least it doesn' t in the way they claim. They describe it (when they even manage to put two words together to describe it) as an innate essence that drives you towards the roles and stereotypes assigned to a specific sex. Some times, but it' s getting increasingly more uncommon/considered bigoted, they describe it as hating the sexed characteristics of your body because you want the ones of the other sex' s body. In the former case, that' s not gender identity, it' s your personality, you prefer certain things, but since you are taught that they aren' t for you because they are for the other sex, you decide to jump on that train; in the latter case, it' s still not gender identity, it' s a form of pathological self-hatred and body issues.

4) what exactly do you think is being done to children in particular, and again unless you're going the metaphysical skepticism route, then what in that is unlike or even more common than the confusion and social pressures placed on trans children and even adults by others?

I have no clue what this question even means.

5) what is the reason why you're inferring that a trans couple with a trans child means that they have somehow influenced the child or otherwise swayed them to change their gender?

Children are 100% influenced when it comes to their "identity" as trans. So are adults, but children have less critical thinking and are prone to believe everything they are taught, not to mention they lack experience. Whether this comes from their family, friends, queer circles, or the media is another thing entirely, but in general, the same thing can be seen by a child and that child might think "Wow, so this is how it works!", while an adult might think "Wow, I might look into it!" or "Wow, this is complete bullshit because I know something else entirely is true!". For example, when I was a child I was convinced that greek gods truly existed in ancient Greece, because I read a book with their stories (the watered down version for children) and I thought that since climbing the Olympus was something possible, then there was no reason to keep writing stories about the gods if they had proven that they didn' t exist. This was me at 5: a year later I started being taught about how to analyze literary texts, and realized that it was bullshit. Now, imagine if I hadn' t understood the lesson and nobody had questioned my belief that Greek gods really exist: I would still believe in that decades later. I would have probably based a big chunck of my life and beliefs on that as well.

Similarly, if a child only knows two parents who constantly feed him/her gender idiocy, and see everyone around them seemingly agreeing and behaving accordingly, they will believe it' s something real. This also works for religious families: if a child is born in a really religious family, and they don' t have any way to see opposite positions, they will grow up thinking that their parents' s imaginary friend is real and that everything the sacred book they worship says is the truth. This can go several ways: the child can grow up without critical thinking and desire to learn what else there is outside of the dogma and will spend the resto of their life promoting the same stuff their parents did, or the child can start resenting the dogmatic preachings and rebel completely, or, they can grow up around people with different opinions and make their own mind on the matter. But of course everything you experience when you are a child plays an important part in your future development, one way or another.

In this specific case, if two trans parents have a child who comes out as trans, it' s either because they are intentionally brainwashing him/her or because they are teaching the kid the bullshit they promote and the kid draws the only possible conclusion from that, which is that if you are more interested in stuff that is stereotypically associated to the other sex, then you must be the other sex. Which is why lots of girls who prefer playing with trains and climbing trees "identify" as boys, and lots of boys who prefer playing with make-up and Barbies "identify" as girls.

I can' t read more of that stuff, but I agree with other posters that this isn' t how you make a post in a debate sub. Not everyone is interested in reading multiple threads in other circles without some context, and not everyone is willing to spend time debating a position with a third party instead of the one who made it in the first place.

Make a summary and see if someone answers you.