Many years ago (I believe it was in high school) I watched this YouTube video, presumably in class with other kids, centering around this alternate reality in which heterosexuality was socially stigmatised, frowned upon, with same-sex sexual desire and romantic affection being the norm.
Here it is, in case you're wondering (horrendous acting, but at least with a good message | Content warning: graphic depictions of child cutting and suicide) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CnOJgDW0gPI&ab_channel=HaierUp
Anyway, there was this scene in the video where the female couple were speaking in front of their daughter about an opposite-sex couple which just moved into their neighbourhood. And, of course, with the premise considered, they were saying unkind remarks about the couple, hating to live near them. Now, when I first watched the video, before re-watching it years later, I had this memory in my mind, believing it occurred in the video, in which one of the lesbian parents says, the context provided, 'A man and a woman can never be together.' By this, as my mind remembers, she meant in regards to getting along, that women and men were so different, fundamentally (I would say for social, not biological, reasons, but nonetheless, reasons), they couldn't possibly sustain bonds that intimate (on a romantic and/or sexual level). Turns out, she never actually said that, or even a paraphrased version of that, a sentiment roughly resembling it. It was a weird Mandela effect I've experienced. To my knowledge, no one else has this memory, and it's never been repeated outside of my head. For years, that was the only part of the video that actually stuck with me, and I thought about it all the time. And, yet, it wasn't even real. It never happened.
I think, as a attempt to comprehend why such a false memory exists, I created that tiny, ultra-brief comment the woman made in order to rationalise the story a bit more, and to entertain myself, and it was sort of, for lack of a better explanation, created subconsciously. In other words, it's what I believed deeply, and still do believe. I've never liked heterosexuality, and I think it was just a production of my repressed consciousness, trying to scream.
If you think about it, heterosexuality doesn't really seem to be natural. A lot of the time, anti-gay types point to the existence of reproduction occurring between the two separate sexes as a means of justifying heterosexuality's existence, as to say, 'This is how evolution intended it.' However, firstly, anti-natalism gang rise up. And, secondly, you glaringly don't need to have sexual intercourse in order to reproduce. You can literally, being a man, just masturbate onto a leaf and then hand the leaf to a woman for her to pour it inside her vagina. That's literally it. Zero fucking required.
Due to social circumstances, such societal conditioning, women and men are not only very different, but their political standing in civil society is so bent, living together appears to be the worst possible thing for them, especially as that arrives with its own set of issues which have, for thousands of years, been established as the troublesome tendencies of opposite-sex bonding. It's even part of heterosexual culture for men to hate their girlfriends and wives, and women to hate their boyfriends and husbands. And, yet, these people love to place their resentment toward that of same-sex relationships. Not only do people of either sex have more friends with individuals of their own sex, individuals would naturally gravitate toward members of their sex to find romantic and/or sexual connections if it weren't for heterosexuality being presented as always compulsory, or compulsory for the majority of the population. Anyone can choose to be sexually attracted and erotically interested exclusively to individuals of their own sex. It is a choice anyone can make, and it's a choice certainly worth making.
For someone to create such imitate associations, a woman and a man, for instance, it is to commit to something that, if healthy to any degree, has to be, by necessity, two-sided. Yet, most heterosexual relationships are not consensual, but sexual violations plagued by rape, domestic violence, and forced pregnancy.
Radical feminism has been trying to change things forever. The lesbian feminist revolution that sprung to life in the 1970s, across multiple countries, but most prominently the United Kingdom, told women the truth, that if they had any bravery, they could leave their abusive, misogynistic husbands, and find woman lovers who will actually care for them, to truly respect them, for respect itself to be mutual. It recognised, as a fact, that sexuality was just a social construct, and a choice, which society has created, but also depressingly suppressed. It makes sense that a woman would be with another woman over a man, as she exists with the woman as part of the same social class, the oppressed sex, and they understand each other's needs better as a result of belonging to such a demographic.
Obviously, there are individual healthy opposite-sex sexual and/or romantic relationships, and plenty, endless, unhealthy same-sex sexual and/or romantic relationships. But, you'd be missing my point. Theoretically and practically, same-sex romance makes more sense, and tends to work out better. As expected, women and men are the opposite, not sharing as much as they could, and, thus, exist in a political dimension which is promoted only by patriarchal figures.
As a man who only likes men, I can tell you that, like any man or woman who exists, and has ever existed, I could've chosen to be heterosexual. But, such things known as reason and sense exist, and it wouldn't be right. I don't like women not because of 'genes' which supposedly exist (they don't). I, in truth, don't like women (in romantic and sexual terms, obviously; not implying any quantity of misogyny) because it can't be justified. Just like femininity, sexual desire is not merely personal, separated from social existence, but political, based upon ideology, possessing an objective quality to it.
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