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[–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

Nice to see you around again! Glad you and yours are well!

Things are super busy here. Since February, I’ve gone from doing one domestic clean a week as a favour, to having a cleaning business with an employee, getting truckloads of contracts from a local real estate, plus recommendations from them to a second, larger real estate company. It’s amazing and very lucky but wow it came outta nowhere. Physical labour has led to some crazy changes in my body but it’s been good. Didn’t think I’d enjoy not being a scrawny noodle so much. Only downside is now I can’t see anything but what needs scrubbing when I get home, lol.

Barely touched my sewing machine the last few months but it will be worth it come fabric shopping time, haha.

Best pies..strawberry-rhubarb-apple in short crust with homemade custard. I’ll have one of those for a last meal, plus vegetable gyoza, minestrone soup with too much pasta and beans, green beans with garlic and sesame seeds, and an entire loaf of toasted milk bread with some very high quality butter. And like six cups of coffee, no sugar. And a dampfnudel with blackberry filling!

I haven’t had lunch yet and it shows lol.

My arthritis is finally managed, and don’t need any biologics or methotrexate yet! Probably will in the next five years but that’s nothing to worry about now.

The families are doing well, everyone is well and happy, we’re all excited for a new nephew come the end of July.
Can’t help but think we’re an incredibly lucky bunch.

Hope everyone else here is just as lucky and having a good time.

[–]loveSloaneDebate King[S] 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

All of this is so great! Congratulations!!!!

And that pie sounds amazing and now I must make one

[–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Oooh hope you enjoy it! There’s a lot of variations but I recommend going heavy on the strawberry and layering the sliced fruits and rhubarb like a ratatouille. Or if you’re willing to really mess around, combine the fillings, cook them down with simple syrup, purée and strain, and then add a setting agent like gelatin or agar and then bake it in the crust.
Yeah I gotta make one now, it’s been years!

[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Oh, hi.

I still have comments to reply to at some point @_@

I'm mostly just really stressed out haha. Maybe I read too much Twitter but a lot of the recent news has really made me scared for the future. At work we're in crunch time for a project that's due soon and a bunch of ppl are relying on me. Oh and I'm moving, literally tomorrow lol! Once everything is done though and I'm on my own again I think it'll be a lot better! Just have to get through it ^_^

I've been getting through season 4 of Stranger Things lately, trying to space it out until July haha

My last meal would probably have to be sushi and maybe chicken katsu? Preferably spicy tuna and tempura rolls. I've been on a big Japanese food phase lol

I think my fav pie would be lemon meringue? I've never made one (yet) but I used to eat it when I was little

Hope everyone else is doing well <3

[–]loveSloaneDebate King[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Hope your move went well!

Lemon meringue is so good, a bit tricky to make imo but fun to try out.

What’s scaring you in the news?

[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I'm still settling in haha, thank you!

And yeah I'd love to try sometime! I have a real kitchen now lol

A lot of the discourse around trans healthcare and access to it scares me greatly. I have seen people suggest trying to limit it to 21 or 25 and up and I cannot ever support that. It is a scary time to be a trans person when so many simply want to treat us as if we're no different than people who didn't transition, or ignore our cries for help and healthcare, etc. Like, I've actually been considering planning to leave the US, but idk where I'd go, really. It feels like nowhere is guaranteed safe, honestly sometimes I wish trans people had our own nation

[–]loveSloaneDebate King[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Can you link the articles? I’m just curious. I did read about the FINA/women’s swimming decision but I haven’t heard of the age limit or healthcare stuff

[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Sorry in this comment I'm gonna jump around a bit haha

Fwiw I think the FINA decision will just pressure young trans girls to transition before they're ready in order to even have a chance at competing since they have to do it by 12. That saddens and angers me and I don't even really care about sports. I see it as ultimately another way to cast trans women and girls as men or boys regardless of how early we transition and regardless of the actual physical changes to an individual's body.

Tried to find a good article on this that showed the actual text, and wasn't twitter, but

The Texas GOP recently released their platform, which includes both opposition to marriage equality and the assertion that no one should be able to change the sex on their IDs (something that's obvi necessary for many/most trans ppl to live a private life):

https://twitter.com/ErinInTheMorn/status/1539298936946581504?t=agxzBaw72nk9TYt2WcNIIQ&s=19

Imo, this is a sign that the US right is becoming bold enough to oppose trans care for young adults (their platform says under 21), which is worrying.

Additionally, there are now organizations like Genspect or "Transgender Trend" that openly oppose trans care access for teens or young adults. Genspect's position (https://genspect.org/position/) both decries what they call the "Dutch protocol" (people under 30-35 being focused on) and also suggests that people under 25 aren't able to make these decisions. Many recent right wing sentiments seem clearly developed from these "we just have concerns" type groups, idk.

I just turned 25. I've been transitioning for just 6-7ish years. To have it suggested that I should not have been able to is very scary, because I genuinely don't know what my life these past years would have been like then or if I'd be around at all.

Fwiw, there has been a ton of research that is trans supportive and serves to counter the narrative of these organizations:

https://twitter.com/DadTrans/status/1533890784663154690?t=yX9O-rzF2RfXA1qOIoHN-w&s=19

Additionally ones like genspect and SEGM are tied to religious, conversion therapist individuals or groups:

https://transsafety.network/posts/segm-uncovered/

In terms of trans healthcare itself, it is difficult to find people writing about access in the US, because it's definitely not universal. I go to an LGBT-specific clinic now, but even now I don't get the sense that my doctor knows exactly what she's doing. It's known to p much any trans person that WPATH had a big lag time on what's "optimal" in terms of transition care. Our healthcare trickles down from them to individual doctors and in a non-uniform way. In the US, spironolactone is still widely prescribed despite there being better anti-androgens available for a while now.

In the UK and in many other places, waitlists are hellish: https://www.gendergp.com/nhs-waiting-lists-forcing-trans-people-to-leave-the-uk/

I know people who've waited months or years just to get seen. For all the talk of "ROGD", I'd love to meet these people who say they got hormones or surgery in .3 seconds lol, because tons of ppl ik r still waiting.

My doctor didn't really provide any info on what to do for surgeries; she told me she'd sign the letter required for like, SRS, but I'm on my own for finding a surgeon and all that. This is at an LGBT clinic, even. Obvi I'm an adult and I don't need to be totally handheld but I guess I'd expect some sort of initial handholding process or support since this is a thing that'll come up again and again?? Instead I have to do my own research and agonize over it without their help. Trying to plan major surgery rn while work and relationship stuff is going on is a lot.

I guess overall my stance has become that I cannot ever rely on anyone who isn't trans to understand my medical needs. I deal with non-trans doctors because it's more convenient than doing it all myself, but I don't like it. And I don't assume they actually care about me, about whether my dosage is right, about whether the surgeon I get referred to is reputable, etc.

[–]worried19 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Hey, I'm still here.

I'm doing okay. Kind of depressed about the state of the country.

Not much new going on in my life. I took a trip last month and flew on an airplane for the first time. Sounds kind of weird at my age, but I had never been before.

I haven't really watched any shows since Game of Thrones ended, but I'm looking forward to the prequel series.

My last meal? Comfort food. Mac and cheese, most likely.

My favorite type of pie is apple or maybe cherry pie. With a side of ice cream.

[–]grassfed 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

😮

[–]divingrightintowork 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Hiiii - I'm here, here and there. Life's good enough, I could complain about stuff but like... why bother? Partner's hopefully buying a unit in my building, which means we'll own the whole building, eviction in ma takes forever even if the squatter assaulted and battered you, also tired but ok, just went to a big deal to me annual event that didn't happen the past 2 years and was really happy it did - glad summer is happening. Glad you're still hanging in there! come to the discord at some point and say hello!