I know this could be a very tricky question but I'm geniuenly confused and intrigued about this aspect of society and I know that this community is extremely smart and could give great insight.
Let's start from the stereotype: men are visual creatures, women are psychological beings. Is it really true? Or is it just a stereotype? Speaking from my personal experience (heterosexual woman), I'm very confused about this. I have no desire to see pornography, no desire to see the male form vulgarly spread eagle in a video or a picture, this doesn't make me feel anything. But art, paintings, books, fanfictions? Those are the real deal for me. This could confirm the "psychology" aspect of the conversation.
But I do appreciate visuality a lot! I love men, i adore how my boyfriend looks like, i appreciate male beauty so much. I'm not a "just psychological being" and yet all the people i talk to and the stuff i hear all seem to converge into this narrow reductive phrase. I just don't care about seeing nooks and crannies on a screen, or a picture.
There's also the "male bodies are clunky and ugly, female bodies are smooth and beautiful" which I find to be so stupid. If this was true why is there so much art and especially statues representing the male body? There have been ages where people were much more appreciative of beauty and life, i refuse to believe this stuff.
Why is there this overwhelming narrow hetero male sexuality in our culture nowadays and when did it start to push this much? The female form is beautiful, and it has been reduced to a plastic shell of its true glory for the sole purpose of attracting (i heard once that the phrase "sex sells" actually means "the naked female body sells"), while the male form is considered shameful, ugly and ridiculous if someone's attracted to it.
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