I felt a rush of blood to my face as I was reading her post. It was very eloquently written, which I am sure will make a lot of people think it's correct, however it was completely incorrect. It said that radical feminism slut shames women and supposes women should not have sexual freedom. It went on to say that radical feminists think men don't have any issues, and that we blame men for all our problems instead of acknowledging that they suffer from the patriarchy as well, through toxic masculinity. It didn't address the fact that women shouldn't be responsible for men's liberation from the patriarchy or the fact that they benefit from it.
She also accused radical feminists of excluding black women and being white exclusive, equating it with white supremacy. It then represented 21st century "intersectional feminism" as taking a balanced view of complex modern conditions which takes into account all the facets of society, whereas radical feminism apparently only cares that men are men and women are women, whatever that means.
I'm actually so angry because she thinks she's helping, but instead she's sharing misinformation. The only feminism to actually address the patriarchy IS radical feminism and this feminism of "choice" that defends BDSM, porn and sexual freedom as a central tenet is just so misguided.
My head is spinning. I think I don't want to ever talk to this woman again, but the damage is done and she is louder. She has tons of followers on instagram and I'm just sitting here wondering how exactly do they feel it's right to lie about things they don't understand. I've never felt the need to lie about liberal feminism. If I am talking about the difference between radical and liberal feminists, I can present facts and that is sufficient. I always think that we should be allies, not enemies.
Does it tell you anything that this friend is in an emotionally abusive relationship with her boyfriend who treats her and her needs as secondary to his own? Oh but he has depression so it's okay because the patriarchy makes men kill themselves.
Edit: typo in the title. Don't type angry.