Being an incel is a mental state-coming from a former Simp/beta who thought it was hopeless

submitted by Tothevoidandback from self.Incels

Hey guys first post here and it’s been awhile since I’ve been in on the incel community but I just wanted to say to guys( as much as it hurts) there’s hope. I was an orbiter simp for around 3 years with a girl that fucked over 20 guys while I was her “friend” I was still a virgin and seeing all the guys in my life getting laid like it was so easy giving me the generic advice “just be confident”, “be yourself”, all the bullshit we heard before.

Tbh it mentally broke me I cut them all off joined the army barely telling anyone and socially isolated myself for a year thinking I was an untouchable because of some feature about myself until I went emotionally numb. I gave up on any hope of having a relationship and wanted to live for myself I stopped giving a fuck and then I met the fattest, ugliest, smelliest loser I knew in the army and noticed something about him. He got hella hoes.

I wasn’t even pissed I was confused and then I met him he’s almost a stereotypical neck beard he doesn’t shower and his room was so dirty he is currently on the process of being kicked out of the army for it, he was in all due terms a shitbag. I became his friend though he wasn’t a bad dude just gross and I asked him how he did it-“Just be yourself”. The same bullshit advice but i thought if this guy can do it I sure as hell can.

22 a kissless virgin who was slightly overweight and timid as fuck(still working on it). I just saw a girl I liked 5/10 but might as well been motherfucking Beyoncé at that point. I started talking to her not really even thinking of sex but just trying the advice and see where it got me she didn’t turn me away I asked for her number and asked if she wanted to talk some more. She said yes and mid text I thought I really wanted to fuck her I straight up asked if she would be down to give some head(after like 2 days I didn’t just immediately open up with it) SHE GAVE AN EMOJI AND SAID FUCKING YES.

After 22 years of wondering wtf was wrong with me I realized just treat them like fucking people don’t put them on a pedestal or think of them as sluts, casual sex is like a fucking massage they they want to give. All I had to do was get to know them and ask.

Now after 6 months of this new attitude I got laid from 2 different women and it’s honestly not all I expected it to be but now I know and it’s a huge mental weight off me. I know that feeling of being unwanted, defective, feeling like a freak because of something inherent about myself. And I wanted to just ask you guys not to give up hope.

End of my rant (Also am I a chad now?)

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[–][deleted] 5 insightful - 5 fun5 insightful - 4 fun6 insightful - 5 fun -  (3 children)

Just ask, bro! Worked for me.

Fucking lol

[–]hybristophilia 4 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

I asked a post-wall roastie (39) and she rejected me. She then insulted me to others, saying I was short etc.

Now she's 42 and she'd rather be single with dried up eggs than be with a healthy man. Imagine. I got rejected so many times, I could write a book. For the most of us, only dungeon-maxxing will work

[–]StBlops2cel_is_Lord 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

JUST BE CHAD, BRO!

[–]Tothevoidandback[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It sounds stupid in hindsight considering 22 years nothing else worked but it did. I’m below average and kinda fat and I’m still stunned how it worked 3 times in 6 months.

It’s advice that worked, I believe that we probably hold ourselves to too high of a standard do 10/10 ripped chads fuck more yes. But i feel as if there is a reignited hope that all of us can make it considering I seen how low of standards even hot women will go for. I wish you the best bro!

[–]StBlops2cel_is_Lord 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Yes, I never ever get any attention from women because it's all in my mind. Yes yes, I am a CHAD now, motherfuckers!

[–]hybristophilia 3 insightful - 3 fun3 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

What's your race and height?

Deathniks like me get rejected by even my own race. Not even for dating, they'll actively insult me before I even open my mouth.

And I wanted to just ask you guys not to give up hope.

I'm glad things worked out for you, but this part is a bit optimistic no? Some of us are way older than you. It's easy to say that when you're 22. But add a decade or two and see how bitter you'll become.

[–]darkclouds77 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

For sure not a chad lmao! Maybe a chad in the making. Thanks for giving the pep talk. If anyone is still around here they probably won't receive it well but it made me feel a bit better. Congrats on fucking I guess. So that affirmation really change your mental state?

I might have to start trying again. I was in the same situation you were. Liking a girl and "dating" while she was fucking probably 20 guys lmao. Never fucked me though. Think she was keeping me around as like a pity situation or she just liked the attention. After that experience all the dating app stuff just makes me depressed, know that no girl wants me or day dreams about guys like me. When I see their pictures all I can think of is the disgust they'd feel and the bombardment of cocks impacting their orifices grosses me out. So yeah this hit pretty close to home. Gross you out thinking about their sexual history?

What MOS you get? Anything cool?

[–]Tothevoidandback[S] 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Considering she gave me head less than a week after meeting her it wouldn’t surprise me if she had a high body count, I’m honestly not grossed out by it people like sex I’m probably gonna try to fuck more women in the future I’m not gonna hold them to a higher standard than me. Also for the other girl I was orbiting I’m sure she fucked more than 20 guys but she refused to fuck me which fucked with me hard until I guess I realized that some women will fuck every other guy in the world before touching you and some generally like you for you. She now has a kid with a deadbeat is unemployed with a felony so I’m just taking it as I dodged a bullet. I don’t want any malice in her life but at the same time I’m not using her as my standard for self validation.

And my mos is 92y boring supply dude so not really anything high speed, basically a glorified record keeper.

And please bro start trying again I know I made it sound easy and I’m not too sure why it happened but I feel like I’m seeing what normies are talking about it sounds like utter bullshit if you have seen the rejection that we all know that happens to our subgroup but if a 280lb dude who smells like complete shit and is ugly af can do it I’m sure as hell a majority of guys can do it too.

Keep trying but don’t let that be your validation, life is much more than sex( honestly once I cummed I was over it) get an education, make life goals for yourself, fuck around and do something out of the blue just because enjoy life and don’t let women define you and realize their people too just different and hard as fuck to understand.

[–]Vortex 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Also am I a chad now?

Yes. Now fuck off.