Public sex is at the center of a queer culture war | dailydot

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[–]crypkidsformally 'rezkidsinlove'[S,M] [score hidden] stickied comment (6 children)

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[–]OPPRESSED_REPTILIANIntersex male | GNC | Don't call me "a gay", "twink" or "queen" 29 insightful - 3 fun29 insightful - 2 fun30 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

How'd we go from "thinking gay people are perverts is bad" to "Being gay/kweer is ALL ABOUT being a pervert and doing dumb shit!"

I mean, for fuck's sake, I have an extremely high libido and a sexual addiction, and even I won't fuck random dudes behind the shady fast food joint.

[–]MarkJeffersonTight defenses and we draw the line 23 insightful - 3 fun23 insightful - 2 fun24 insightful - 3 fun -  (3 children)

“I definitely think there’s a discussion to be had about how most places in America are made for and cater to straight/cis people. With such few queer spaces available for us to exist freely, we make our own,” Jordan said. “And public sex is part of that because queer people are often othered for how our sex differs from the mainstream—so public sex is a way to use that which for which we’ve been othered to create and exist intimately in our own spaces, even if for a moment.”

Lol Don't use your Kwir identity as an excuse for public indecency. Yeah, this will totally help us with acceptance in the long run...

[–]MezozoicGayoldschool gay 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

often othered for how our sex differs from the mainstream [...] and public space is creating intimate own spaces

I can't see here logic. How other people know what "queer people" are doing at home in bed? Why home is not intimate space, but public closet is? Why other people even see "queer people" having sex and saying to that "your way of sex is weird and not normal" in the first place? Does that article makes any sense at all?

[–]MarkJeffersonTight defenses and we draw the line 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Other people don't know what they are doing at home in bed; That's the problem. As they are attention seekers(exhibitionists) who want people to watch them performing, while at the same time condoning their actions. I think it gives them a thrill. They can't get any satisfaction or validation in private. They have to shove it in people's faces obnoxiously to get off. This person is just trying to argue(badly) for the license to have sex in public.

[–]MezozoicGayoldschool gay 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

If sex in public will be licensed and ignored, they will stop doing it then.

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 22 insightful - 3 fun22 insightful - 2 fun23 insightful - 3 fun -  (5 children)

Any kind of sexual activity, hetero or homo, in public should be a criminal offence. Children, the elderly and people with heart problems do not need to see that.

[–]immersang 21 insightful - 2 fun21 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Children, the elderly and people with heart problems do not need to see that.

NO ONE needs to see that.

It's basically involving other people in your sex life without their consent.

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 11 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Well said.

[–][deleted] 18 insightful - 3 fun18 insightful - 2 fun19 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

agreed. I'm pretty sure it is a criminal offense.

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 11 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

It is. Too bad it’s not being enforced everywhere though.

[–]rockhard288 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

It is a public offense so much so you get put on the sex offender list.

[–]xanditAGAB (Assigned Gay at Birth) 20 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 0 fun21 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

"Homoeroticism is so attractive to men across sexualities that the police have to suppress it in order to uphold the heterosexual status quo, Califia writes."

uh police suppress straight public sex too I assume. But "police state" sounds better I guess.

<As Dreadful puts it, “white privilege and systemic racism play a role in where and when and how I get to do literally anything.” She stresses that “being able to express your desires openly has a lot to do with not letting people who aren’t involved with your desires get in your way.”>

Like me trying to use the stall? or parents not wanting you fucking in the park bushes?

Seems like they took behavior that was part of being in the closet out of necessity and now embraced it as part of liberation, of what it means to be an edgy queer.

[–]annatheginguh 18 insightful - 2 fun18 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

The way I see public sex is the people directly engaging in it are not the only ones involved. I wholly feel sex and similar acts should be private. Their being “queer” doesn’t change that in the least.

I was once sitting in my car in the parking lot at school waiting for my class to start. There was a girl masturbating in the passenger seat of the car next to me. (I live in a state where the window tint is minimal, so I could see everything.) I was extremely uncomfortable and felt like I was the one invading her privacy, so I just kept my head down and pretended I didn’t see anything. I couldn’t leave because I didn’t want her to think I had been watching her. What should’ve been something that involved only her suddenly involved me because of where she decided to do it. I know people get off on that, but I just think that’s selfish because not everyone is into that. Clearly, I’m not the only one who feels this way because there’s laws criminalizing this very thing.

[–]Criticallacitirc 8 insightful - 6 fun8 insightful - 5 fun9 insightful - 6 fun -  (1 child)

"Seeing other people having sex is reassuring and enlightening."

[–]annatheginguh 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

To whom??? Wtf???

Edit: Is this the day I finally call someone a degenerate? ‘Cause the people in this article are total degenerates to me.

[–]xanditAGAB (Assigned Gay at Birth) 9 insightful - 3 fun9 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

you can take your phone out and pretend to record... that would stop most people lol

[–]ChunkeeguyTeam T*RF Fuck Yeah 17 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 0 fun18 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You should probably never trust a "lesbian" who transitions to be a gay man. Pat Califia is a writer of very little talent who envied the lifestyles of highly sexually active (nothing wrong with that) gay men so much she decided to become one.

[–]fijupanda 14 insightful - 2 fun14 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

what the fuck did I just read...

what... what... what...

O_O

[–]indeepshadowsBi woman 13 insightful - 3 fun13 insightful - 2 fun14 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

I've no idea what the author is arguing here. White people bad, public sex good?

[–]MezozoicGayoldschool gay 5 insightful - 4 fun5 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

At first AGP, now this.

Is LGBTQIA+-/* becoming just a place where perverts and porn addicts are going public with their kinks and making them "new gender" or "new sexual orientation"?

[–]K-SnakeThe Anaconda Don't Want None 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

It's at this point, I actually miss those crazy conservatives of yesteryear. You know, those ultra puritan ones that had no room for anything that has the possibility of degeneracy. It's a shame they died out. We actually need their no-nonsense, legitimately trying to save the world from itself , no fun allowed mentality these days. Folks are just out of control and have gone too far.

[–]lmaonope333 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

my parents are like that, it's a double edged sword. like they won't accept qweer bullshit but they won't either accept my lesbian bullshit.