I just need to get this off my chest.

Two years ago, I joined my local "kink scene". It has been a blast, and I have learned a lot about myself. More recently, that I am in fact a lesbian (I identified as bi for many years).

When I joined, I was pretty much immediately approached by an older man who cross dresses. I don't really get bothered by that, but it's just not my thing. When I wanted to explore my more dominant side, he was right there, begging for me to play with him. He was really into the idea of me dressing him up as a woman, almost bimbofication.

So, when I came out, he expressed a little disappointment and backed away for about a month. Now all of a sudden, he's trans. He's not even trying to pass, he still dresses how he did before (sissy clothes and low quality wigs), but claims to be a woman.

He just won't stop bugging me. He keeps begging me for help to "find his feminine side" (I'd assume that you already did considering you're now trans?), wanting to go shopping with me and trying to invite me for dinner. I don't want to say I'm the sole reason for him transitioning, but I just want him to leave me alone.

To top it all off, I finally got a message from a woman tonight. Yay! I always have men messaging me despite my profile saying lesbian, so this is great, right? Wrong. Another trans woman. Honestly, though I disagree, I am happy to leave trans people alone. But I feel as though I can't even create my own space with my own boundaries and not have trans women push in. I just want to play with women, not dicks.