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[–]Willpoll 26 insightful - 3 fun26 insightful - 2 fun27 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

There wasn't really anything to discover for me. I always liked guys then one day found out there's a word for it.

[–]BigMommyMilkersYes, they're real 9 insightful - 22 fun9 insightful - 21 fun10 insightful - 22 fun -  (3 children)

Through lesbian Yuri anime porn, I felt a sense of belonging and realised it was my destiny to live life as closely to an anime Yuri girl as possible.

[–]Shadow_Lurker 13 insightful - 10 fun13 insightful - 9 fun14 insightful - 10 fun -  (1 child)

I think you dropped this: uwu

[–]BigMommyMilkersYes, they're real 5 insightful - 7 fun5 insightful - 6 fun6 insightful - 7 fun -  (0 children)

:3 ~

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 3 fun3 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

lmfaoooooooo

[–]MezozoicGayoldschool gay 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You mean that I am same-sex attracted? As I am not LGB, I am only G.

I know it from the early childhood.

[–]xanditAGAB (Assigned Gay at Birth) 12 insightful - 6 fun12 insightful - 5 fun13 insightful - 6 fun -  (0 children)

Puberty said hI

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

My first “post-puberty” same-sex thoughts were me sitting in class and imagining kissing the girls (It was technically pre-puberty for me but I hit puberty very late compared to most). I thought they were intrusive thoughts at first because I didn’t know being lesbian was a thing. I had a hard time understanding my feelings toward girls, but I realized that I had this special attentiveness toward and fixation on girls when in contrast I would barely register or think about boys.

I never had a boy crazy phase and I figured that eventually I would find one I was interested in but had no interest in doing anything to make that happen. Meanwhile I was always thinking about how attractive girls were and all of their tiny minute details. I could describe at length everything that was attractive about a girl and I felt this way about so many girls and female celebs, but when a friend would show me pictures of guys they thought were attractive and asked me what I thought, I was totally blank. I had no words. In some cases I could tell that they were not actually unattractive but I could not bring myself to personally feel even a little bit attracted or say anything beyond “Oh, uh, he’s cute” and I felt like I was always lying to not be mean and make them feel like they had bad taste. I did not understand what they saw in boys and it took me a while to realize that all of the things I felt toward girls is what they felt toward boys.

I was also always drawn to pretty girls like a moth to flame, and would seek to befriend them, though this wasn’t a conscious pattern. Which is how I ended up with my closest friends being objectively gorgeous straight women. I think that unintentionally ended up giving me cover because I am presumed to be like them, and only other gay people seem to pick up on me being gay.

It took me a while to accept that I was gay but I finally did after accepting that sexual orientation is a pattern of attraction and if I’m only attracted to females but not males, that was my sexual orientation regardless of how I felt about it.

[–]reluctant_commenter 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

My first “post-puberty” same-sex thoughts were me sitting in class and imagining kissing the girls (It was technically pre-puberty for me but I hit puberty very late compared to most). I thought they were intrusive thoughts at first because I didn’t know being lesbian was a thing.

Oh my god, yet again I relate so hard to what you're saying 😆 I assumed those were intrusive thoughts too!!! I am sitting here laughing, now remembering multiple different girls in high school who I had those thoughts about...

Also, hi :) sorry I still need to respond to your message!

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I need to finish responding too! 😊

[–]artetolife 12 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

It was less of a discovery and more like running out of ways to convince myself that I wasn't gay.

[–]reluctant_commenter 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah..... same here...

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Oof. Relatable.

[–]zephyranthes 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

At 15:

Got kissed on the cheek by a female acquaintance, felt pleasant and weird ("I don't hate it, but what the hell. But I don't hate it. Her hair is fluffy and it touched my ear.")

Got kissed on the lips by a boy I loved for 3 years as a teen and wanted to marry, nearly threw up, fell out of love the following day.

Outright hated boy bands. The only male celebrity I liked was a classy (think present-day Keanu Reeves, except even classier) singer and I wanted to resemble him.

[–]Shadow_Lurker 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Well, mine was around middle school when I had my first crush on a guy who was my classmate at the time. Considering what most people I knew thought about homossexuality and the overall opinion on the subject, I kept it to myself and just hoped it was a phase.

Spoiler: It wasn't.

It's funny how some people think being gay is something that can be induced via indoctrination considering I didn't hear anything positive about the subject until I was in high school, and even then, it wasn't the whole hugbox that exists today on most developed countries, but more like "hey, gay people exist!".

[–]Q-Continuum-kin 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's funny contrasting this with the new BS that they keep trying to push that gays being same-sex attracted is socially learned. It's like bitch please. Being same sex attracted flies directly in the face of the social upbringing most of us went through.

[–][deleted] 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Personally, for me, I couldn't imagine myself ever being with a man but could imagine it with a woman. That and the female body definitely stirred something.

[–]Smolders1Cock is god's greatest gift. 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Knew it from when I was about 15... had crushes on tons of other boys.

[–][deleted] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I had crushes on both guys and girls. Always. Ever since I was young. Before I hit 13.

[–]Q-Continuum-kin 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I should have always known but I didn't socialize enough to cement it as a concept. Before puberty I had some type of attractions towards both sexes but after puberty the needle kind of slowly moved over. I never dated and somehow it never clicked till my 20s that I had started to exclusively fantasize about men. I think if I was a top I might actually be bisexual. One night I was laying in bed and it just hit me like "OMG I'm gay..." it sounds really dumb but it's a side effect of preferring to be by myself most of the time.

[–]Lesbianese 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Well, pre-puberty I always obsessed over the other girls. I made a stuffed bear in class that I named after one of the girls in there and then slept with it for a while, always tried to impress her on the playground, and was heart broken when I was pulled out because I'd never get to see her again. I couldn't see myself with a man either, to the point where I wanted to marry my brother (I was about 7 at the time so it was completely innocent lol) because he was the only one I could tolerate living with. Always liked the idea of physical intimacy with other girls. Started thinking I might be bisexual or lesbian around the age of 10.

Mid puberty - Was openly lesbian with my friends, dated a few girls. This was the time period where girls were pretending to be bi for brownie points so I often felt disappointed they weren't as into being physical as I was. Ended up having some pretty sexually traumatic stuff happen which screwed up my sexual development for years, which lead me to the T for a while.

Post puberty - Questioned my attraction to women until the sexual part of my sexuality kicked in at about 17. Been certain that I'm lesbian since.

[–]WanderingWonderWizard Extraordinaire 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I kind of knew since I was about 7, since I would have crushes on both boys and girls, I just didn’t know the words for any of it. I just figured everyone was like that and that I would grow out of liking girls when I was older and stick strictly to men. It was only at about 20 that I realized I was a bit too old to grow out of it at that age

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Hard to pinpoint where I started, but I’ve always liked the look of men more than I liked the look of women. When I was thirteen, I started going through puberty, and I noticed I was getting erections from thinking of men in erotic situations. Never had those thoughts about women. I was in denial at the time, because I did not like the idea of being a member of an oppressed minority group. Even if my country was still relatively liberal back then. I was 17 when I finally accepted that I was attracted to men, but I still insisted that I was also attracted to women. Eventually, when I was turning 18, I realised that I had no attraction to women at all, and that I was just gay. Then I started coming out to people, at a very slow pace.

[–]ExecuteHomophobes 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

When I couldn't make myself find women attractive, I gave up and just accepted being gay.

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Same in reverse! Like fine, I guess I’ll just roll with this.

[–]our_team_is_winning 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Hahah, I totally read this wrong I guess. I thought the person meant "Discover you were LGB who did not identify with T" !!!! Like LGB who had already dropped the T, when did you peak trans!

[–]OPPRESSED_REPTILIANIntersex male | GNC | Don't call me "a gay", "twink" or "queen" 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I didn't "discover", lol, it's not like some mysterious force that was beyond my acknowledgement, nor was I "Born that way"

I became homosexual when I was about 11, I grew up in an abusive environment and mostly lived with other boys which I believe caused it. It happened way too young and there were clear signs of something being wrong from the start. Seems that age is too early to be sexual anyway so obviously this is not just my "internalized homophobia" or other made up bullshit speaking There was never any "cute crushes" or anything like that, I stalked a boy I had an unhealthy sexual obsession with and as I got older my sexuality just lead to self destructive, self harming behavior. I have never experienced "same sex love" and frankly I don't believe it's possible to be loved by a man.

Also I am not "LGB", let's not do this "LGBTQIA+ person" thing that everyone else does. You can be homosexual. You can be bisexual. You cannot be lesbian, a gay man, and bisexual all at once, and nor does being one mean you are connected to a hivemind of everyone else.

[–]reluctant_commenter 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

When I was a little kid, I knew I was fascinated with certain female characters from shows in a way that was different. I think the first time I explicitly realize I liked girls, though, was when I was about eight-- there was this one girl at school I thought was just so pretty, and then I freaked out and apologized to God (lol) and then buried it and forgot about it, resurfacing a few times over the years and only moments at a time.

Took me til I was 19 to actually admit to myself and accept my same-sex attraction, and assumed I must be bisexual. The idea that I might be exclusively attracted to women didn't even enter my head. (My brain is good at thought-censoring, unfortunately.) Took til early 20s to realize that I might actually be lesbian.

[–]BiHorror 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Around 12 and lots of porn... Also, an older woman. Same goes for the opposite. Pretty unhealthy way to find out but meh. Then I dated 2 chicks and 1 dude before.

[–]diapason 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Ever since I hit puberty I've been interested in both girls and guys. I had a crush on a female classmate when I was ten, then again when I was eleven, so from a fairly young age I had a hunch I liked girls. Sometime in middle school I figured I was bi (and I hated myself for it at first, I grew up in a conservative religion), by high school I was sure I was. So for me, it wasn't really 'discovering' anything, it was just being honest with myself about something I already knew deep down. Discovering the word "bisexual" did help though, since before then I wondered if I were gay or straight, and knew that I really wasn't either.

[–]Lessom 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I remember having a crush on a girl in my class when I was around 6 years old. During puberty, my friends were noticing boys but my eyes were solely on the cute girls. Never felt anything towards males. My realisation was very straightforward but accepting it coming from religious family is a different story.