Sometimes the absences do a lot of work in exposing the facade of gender identity and the false media narrative propping it up. Like where are the FtM Caitlyn Jenners (i.e. heterosexual women who have had kids and then come out middle age and later as “gay” trans men)? I noticed this other absence. Public media, social media, and Big Tech generally are doing a lot of work to convince gay men they should be attracted to females, lesbians that they should be attracted to males, and men that they’re definitely totally straight for having sex with and partnering with trans women. For example:
https://www.playboy.com/read/yes-you-re-still-straight-if-you-date-trans-women
https://www.vice.com/en/article/kb4jw9/the-straight-men-who-have-sex-with-trans-women
So where is the equivalent narrative on the FtM side? Pushy Teen Vogue and Cosmo are notably absent.
Lesbians aren’t particularly known for being pushy with straight women, so I can understand that aspect of it, but the media doesn’t seem interested in virtue signaling here. Could it be there’s no need? As in I think most women who partner with a trans man probably don’t think of themselves as straight and are less likely to be adverse to adopting another label for their sexual orientation like pansexual, bisexual or queer. Some even still identify as gay.
Have you noticed this? Can you think of any such couples and do you know any personally?
Edit: I thought of some possible real life and fictional examples, none of them recent:
In the L Word, Max who is FtM does initially stealth a straight girl into dating her before revealing she’s female.
Brandon Teena - I am not well-read on Brandon. Nor have I seen the movie (is it worth a watch?), but I think Brandon might have had a girlfriend who didn’t know she was female. Please correct me if I’m wrong.
I still can’t think of examples of women knowingly dating trans men and calling themselves straight or even any posts online really where a woman in such a situation wanted reassurance that she was straight.
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