Hello Lesbian Village,
Trying to navigate dating this has been a question I've had a tough time with — is it worth leaving time for a greater attraction to develop? Should you only pursue the dates where there's an strong chemistry from early on?
Researching on r*ddit, it seems like people have different experiences with whether attraction can develop or whether it's an instant instinct, with more women describing the former and more men believing the latter. Hard to know if that's a nature or nurture difference.
What's been your experience? How did the ones with instant chemistry compare to the ones where the vibe wasn't there right away? Is attraction something that can sneak up on you over time, or do you find if it's not there from the start it won't be there later? Have you ever waited for attraction to develop while dating and found you only ever had platonic feelings?
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