I'm going to react to this whole list because this drives me up the wall.. it's such a perversion of what gayness even is and something that I don't think any lesbian can relate to. It's almost like a guide on being bisexual.

The list: (shortened because its very long)

1. First off, Google search history: "Am I a Lesbian?"; "How do I know if I am a Lesbian?"; "Lesbian married to a man in love with a woman"; "What does it feel like falling in love with a woman?"; "What does attractive to a woman feel like?"; "Can I be a Lesbian if I am married to a man?"; "How to tell husband am a Lesbian"; "Am I a Lesbian?"; "Am I a Lesbian or just depressed?"; "Lesbian or midlife crisis?"; "Am I a Lesbian?"; "Can I be a Lesbian if I haven't had sex with a woman?"; "Am I crushing on her?"; "Does she think I'm attractive?"; "Is she flirting?"; "Signs she is flirting"; "How to flirt with women"; "Am I a Lesbian for wanting to have sex with a woman?"; "Lesbian movies"; "Lesbian romance"; "Where to watch Tipping the Velvet"; "Am I a Lesbian?" Watching lesbian movies, having a crush, wondering if someone is flirting, wondering if you're attracted to women, or even just wondering if you're having a midlife crisis is a sign that you're a lesbian? What dumb mom wrote this?

2. I rarely orgasm when I have oral/penetrative sex with my male partner. I get aroused but I always feel disconnected during intercourse. Sometimes I change positions so he can't see me. I enjoy the sense of power and achievement I feel when a man comes. I enjoy the feeling that a man is attracted to me. [...] I feel as if my sexuality is mostly performative. Feeling disconnection makes sense... but this makes it sound like having bland or bad sex with someone is a sign that you're gay.

3. When I masturbate I fantasize about women, in general. I intellectualize the idea of performing oral sex on a woman, or having her do it to me. I think about my fingers in her hair. [...] I do not under any circumstances want to act out any of my sexual fantasies with my male partner. Makes sense. But then...

4. My male partner criticizes queer women. [...] I have often suspected that my male partner thinks I am queer and likes to exploit this aspect of me, while at the same time preventing me from exploring it any further. What does your boyfriend being a homophobe have to do with being a lesbian? And let me guess, "likes to exploit while not letting me explore it more" means you're having MFF threesomes but not allowed to date a woman in addition to your homophobic husband. The same homophobic husband that you have been supplying women to for threesomes. Gee, what a lesbian!

5. It makes me uncomfortable when women are sexualized. I dislike seeing gratuitous female nudity in movies. Ok??? You're doing some analysis of sexism in movies? Again, what the fuck?

6. My male partners have never been good at oral sex. The thought of a woman giving me head (oral, strap on, etc), and vice versa, would make me feel special and claimed. Are you kidding me right now? "Billy Bob sucks in bed, so I'm a homo now!" Sexuality isn't about whether or not someone is good with their fingers, you moron.

7. I don't mind if my male partner loses his erection. I feel relief. Makes sense.

8. Sometimes, in regards to heterosexuality and my relationships with men, I feel as if I have been sold a lie. I feel as if I am just here to pick up after his ass and let him fuck me thrice a week. So your relationship is unequal and suckish, so now you're a lesbian? No wonder you're googling things about a midlife crisis. Divorce him instead of seeking attention online.

9. I feel uncomfortable giving my male partner advice during sex in case he takes it as a criticism. I usually just wait until he is done and then I finish myself off (if I can.) I find it hard to articulate what I want during sex (because I am yet to fully explore my homosexuality...) How does having bad sex with your boyfriend, and then being too much of a wimp to say anything about it, have anything to do with homosexuality? Google "how to speak like an adult" instead of lesbianism.

10. My male partner doesn't like me dressing slightly masculine. Yet again we see this theme. "My boyfriend sucks! I'm going gay!"

11. I sometimes think it would be great to be in a relationship with a woman. I imagine what my week/month/year would look like if I had a female partner. Birthdays, Christmases, holidays, families: I feel as if my life would be less complicated with a woman. How is it less complicated to be gay than to be straight? Let me guess: because your relationship with Mike is terrible and you're too much of a coward to say anything to him, but you also have no experience with women and assume we're all fluffy little princesses. The lack of any actual understanding of homosexuality just seeps through.

12. Even though I have had really intense, passionate sex in the past with men, I often wonder what it would be like making love with a woman. I am by default the passive (receiving) partner when having sex with men, but I feel like I would be active (giving) with a woman. Bicurious housewife = lesbian, yet again.

13. I don't like my male partner's sense of humor. He makes me cringe. ARE. YOU. KIDDING. ME. RIGHT. NOW.

14. My male partner gets intensely jealous of other women around me. He does not like me interacting with Lesbians. Man, this list about being a lesbian sure has a lot of stuff about men on it! How interesting! I wonder why that could be!

15. When I have a crush on a woman, I get nervous around her. I have butterflies in my stomach. Welcome to having a crush. You seem to have found a husband just fine, so it seems this isn't your first time experiencing this.

16. I think about kissing her all the time. I am afraid to be alone with her. I see, so the real thing here is that you want to cheat on your husband.

17. If my crush is nice to me and/or shows any level of reciprocity, I find a way to reject her. I mostly do this in front of other people to really drive the message home. I make it clear to everyone that I am partnered to a man. I notice that it hurts her. It hurts me more. I feel guilty and want to apologize, but feel that I can't without admitting I'm a homosexual. I guess this sounds like something someone could do out of denial?

18. I like the way my crush smells. I notice little details about her that no one else does. (on and on). Hey Susan, while you google about your midlife crisis, try "what is a crush" too.

19. I sometimes worry that my crush notices these things and is distancing herself from me. I want to come out to her and confess everything, but I am frightened that being rejected would force me back into the closet. What does this one girl liking you or not liking you have to do with being gay? It's almost like you're a bored 40 year old bisexual housewife crushing on some girl, but who otherwise has no real stake in the game.

20. I think about her breasts. I wonder what they would feel like pressed against mine: clothed, unclothed. I know from the tone of her skin what color her areola must be. (on and on) We get it Susan. You have a crush. Do you want an award?

21. I think about having sex with women more than I think about sex with men. So you still think about fucking men, just not as much at the moment.

22. I would feel sexier knowing that I was making a woman wet rather than getting a man hard. Thanks for the info...

23. I think about penetrating a woman. (on and on) Thanks for the info...

24. I am more excited at the prospect of sleeping with the woman I love for the first time than the first time I slept with a man. I consider this to be my real 'virginity'. Interesting? I guess I could see a closeted person doing this.

25. (For those already partnered, and/or with children, or thinking about having children): If I got pregnant today, I wouldn't want to have my male partner's baby. I imagine having a baby with a woman. But you're fine with having sex with men and letting them orgasm inside you???

23 comes with a note: Okay, speaking around my own community, this has been the #1 dealbreaker for so many LBL women of all ages. Childbirth and motherhood and sexuality are super interconnected and complicated.... because, biologically speaking, the impulse to, well, breed like rabbits, affects all genders and sexual orientations. In other words, you can still be a lesbian and want a man to get you pregnant so you can have children with him. This list was sooo exclusionary after all that we need to include pregnant housewives as well.

This list pissed me off immensely. If you cant tell, lol. On top of the attention seekers, we probably are getting a lot of women who are genuinely confused because of these bi girls that are desperate to not only convince themselves that they are lesbians, but to co-opt the meaning of the word lesbian for their own gain. Then they recruit others with garbage like this?