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[–][deleted] 26 insightful - 3 fun26 insightful - 2 fun27 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

EVERYTHING is great about being a lesbian! The only problem is the rest of the world

[–]FrostyNugs 23 insightful - 3 fun23 insightful - 2 fun24 insightful - 3 fun -  (2 children)

Not needing to take birth control! The short term side effects can be terrible for a lot of women, and we know almost nothing about the long term health effects.

[–]HelloMomo 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

When I think about how many straight girls have artificalized hormone cycles for a bulk of their lives, and that's just considered the norm, I get weirded out.

[–][deleted] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Birth control is terrible. They made one for men but the men didn’t like the side effects. -eye roll-

[–]carrotcake 21 insightful - 2 fun21 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

I've always seen my straight friends constantly do things that took a lot of time and effort just to impress men. I'm not talking about dating, just daily they were doing things to impress men they weren't even interested in. Lesbians don't tend to do that. We tend to have more time to us and a healthier way of seeing ourselves because unlike straight women are with men, we don't need to be constantly worried about other women's judgment. That's not a universal experience of course but I'd say it's common that we tend to spend less energy on that kind of stuff.

Another great thing is that we tend to have higher self confidence than the average woman. Having to accept ourselves and getting the courage to live our lives truthfully hardens us up. Again I don't have statistics for that but in my experience lesbians are way more assertive and confident than the majority of straight women.

[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You’re right

[–]Skipdip 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I did see some actual statistics supporting that somewhere. But yes you said it well! I feel similarly.

[–][deleted] 19 insightful - 3 fun19 insightful - 2 fun20 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm going to state the obvious: Eyes, lips, voice, boobs, legs, fragrance, intelligence, vagina, orgasms, humor... women. I get to enjoy women in this life and I consider myself very lucky.

[–]RedditHatesLesbians 16 insightful - 4 fun16 insightful - 3 fun17 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

Well first and foremost, no men!

[–]lmaonope333 17 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 0 fun18 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Not fearing for my life when going on a first date

Also being a lesbian in an unnaccepting family forced me to become highly independent and resourceful

[–][deleted] 14 insightful - 4 fun14 insightful - 3 fun15 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

Women.

[–]VioletRemi 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Women are great, so everything ;)

[–][deleted] 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Outside of romance, I think being a lesbian helped me just have a deeper respect for women as a whole. Our work and accomplishments are often unnoticed or diminished by the world. We deal with a lot of crap for being female. But being with women as a woman just made me slowly realize that there is so much we have done and can do for each other and the world.

[–]lmaonope333 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

good answer. I often have annoying intrusive thoughts like "oh I'm such a bad feminist for objectifying women blah blah blah" you know the deal

[–][deleted] 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

If you come out young, like I did, your whole worldview is different.

I’ve never been bound by the “norm” in terms of life goals, relationship expectations, fashion, sexual and gender norms for women.

I am sure I’ve been influenced by them, but I know I am not the target audience for most things, and that can be alienating, but also provide such freedom and possibility.

I’ve been able to make my own way with less pressure to conform

[–]yousaythosethings 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I came out late and this is one of my favorite parts too. I mean sometimes it can be nice to be handed someone else’s plan to follow, but I am certainly feeling a sense of freedom based on the fact that no one can realistically have any expectations for what my life looks like going forward from here. It definitely would have been nice to have this half my life ago, but given the circumstances I don’t think it could have ever worked out that way for me.

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You probably appreciate it more now, anyway

[–]TarshishJupiter 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

There's something beautiful about the symmetry of our bodies, and the way we already understand a few things about each other because we're both women.

[–]Freetochoose 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That I get to date and be emotionally and pyysically intimate with my girlfriend.

[–]Disillusioned 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Not having to deal with men sexually and romantically, that's a great plus to me! Then, women and the ability to connect with them on another level

[–]Skipdip 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Since you asked for non relationship things... I would say that lesbian self-assuredness. People see it from a mile away. I think you get it when you’ve worked through your internalized homophobia and misogyny. You are a woman, but yet like a rock. We technically as a group have higher self-esteem I have read. We are women who don’t waste time on patriarchal bullshit. We see through it. We do what is interesting and enjoyable for us. We simply live our lives and in doing that we can easily be a beacon for other women.