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[–]MisandryFTW 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I think maybe because I'm not good with boundaries and I used to be very conventionally attractive when I was younger in a way that predators are into. Tiny, long blonde hair, giant tits, looked young for my age, short and thin. I also dressed very feminine because I would get beaten and yelled at otherwise. I've noticed since I've gained weight, gotten older, started dressing more butch, and learned to be more assertive I've had almost zero problems with men. My girlfriend is tall and butch and assertive and she was almost never harassed. I've also experimented and if I go for a walk with all my skin covered but I'm wearing a long skirt I get catcalled, even though you can't see my body at all, but if I wear shorts or pants it's very unlikely.

Weirdly even women I didn't know would just start playing with my hair from behind without introducing themselves first. I would joke to my friends that it happened every time in the Trader Joe's cereal aisle and they're like, "yeah sure" but then we went to TJs and it happened in front of people twice. Middle aged women just start playing with my hair. One thing that's great about Covid is the 6 foot rule. My hair used to be down to almost my knees and dyed rainbow, so I was probably asking for it or something.

[–]florasis 8 insightful - 4 fun8 insightful - 3 fun9 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

Ah, well, giant tits,blonde and very feminine, remind me of a porn actress. Maybe understand why you attracted so many males lol

[–]BigMommyMilkers 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I am very good at boundaries and being aggressive towards creepy men but it can still be a challenge at times. At 5ft6 and skinny even the lower % of the average male is capable of overpowering you and they know it, most of the time they do back off but occasionally they'll push harder and to be honest it's quite intimidating because you know this person can physically overpower you and there's not much you can do about it. I am always armed for this reason.