Lets get this rolling then.

The link most radfems miss when analyzing inceldom is the that, if you take your time to read the inceldom fanfiction, you will recognize three very important personality traits : a) depersonalization/derealization, b) alexithymia and c) dissociation.

Now, these traits are shared among several personality disorders, the most common one being Borderline Personality Disorder or BPD. So even though being an incel is no indication of such person having BPD, a male with BPD has higher chances of being an incel.

The first point is depersonalization/derealization. If you analyze their own testimonies, most incels feels that they are basically “living in a bad video game”, or better said, that they “do not actually belong to society/reality”. Now add alexithymia onto the mix, and you will see that in top of that, they see their own interpersonal relations as dysfunctional and broken. I you wonder why they act so unempathetic towards females in general, to the point of raw hatred, that is the reason. Now comes the final piece of the puzzle : dissociation. Incels are also dissociated from their own selves. It doesn’t matter that they might be reasonably attractive, intelligent or even charismatic; they have become detached from themselves up to the point of seeing their own self an impostor image of an ugly, incapable, self-alienated person. That’s why telling them to “improve themselves” or “self-actualize” is futile. You are trying to appeal to a self that is not completely connected to their own self-image.

Let’s put them all together to understand the phenomema then. No matter the actual physical or personality traits, the incel sees life as a bad cheap imitation of reality in which they are an ugly, un-capable, worthless individual who is also detached from meaningful emotional connections.

Now if the consequences of that combo reminds you to a very different psychological phenomena, you are not wrong. Same symptoms, different causes. And that’s many incels claim they become “happy” taking applying the same “solution”.

Now why do feminists refuse to acknowledge the connection between inceldom and this very obvious psychological traits ?

The reason is that then they will have to admit that they are one of the main causes of this phenomena in the first place. When you create a culture that foster extreme sexual polarization ( a consequence of sexual liberation movement ), is par for the course that , in the end you will be heavily penalizing those who are deem “unfit” for the environment, since you are reducing opportunities for males to reproduce. That’s what induces the derealization/depersonalization in those males, since they feel “out of reality” ( the reason is obvious ). The other consequence of sexual liberation is the commoditification of sex and dissociation of sex and emotion, this is what leads to alexithymia. Which male wants to feel something towards a female who only values the guy for his net worth, education and looks?. Which male can feel appreciated or validated if women only do that if you are an alpha fucktoy ?. That environment only foster one thing : lack of empathy towards affective relations. On top of that, feminists have created an environment in which males lack any possible role model in which they can build their own masculinity ( feminists use the term “healthy masculinity” to induce feminized behavior in men at the same time that they complain about feminized men invading their spaces ). That makes impossible for most males to connect to who they are or even build a healthy identity as the men they are. In turn, they end up internalizing everything that feminism tells them that they are : rapist, abusers, misogynists, cry-babies, etc, up to the point of considering then less than human. So why wouldn’t those males want to involuntarily escape reality when they have no basis upon which connect with their true selves ?.

As you see, the links are obvious, but feminist will never acknowledge them.