https://old.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/1fhkg3x/my_ex_husbands_transition/

Hello everyone, this may be a bit of a ramble but bare with me.

I guess I should start around three years ago, it was my birthday. It was a completely normal day until my husband and I went to bed. He said "I've been questioning my gender identity" I took it as, oh he wants to paint his nails maybe be a little more girly, no biggie. Turns out he was starting to transition into a she. Next week she shaves her beard. The week after that she's wearing makeup. At this point I still haven't been clearly told "I'm transgender." It was her mom who dropped the bombshell. Naturally I needed time to think. We had been married six months, just uprooted our life and moved to another state to be close to her family. I've been straight all my life and never had to consider if I'd want to be with a woman, especially married to one. We agreed to take a break in our marriage to think and focus on ourselves. She started HRT. On Christmas Eve I found out she started a poly relationship. How did I find out? A random nude accidentally sent to me. Lovely. At this point we were still living together. I was obviously hurt by her actions. After talking it out she said she would end the relationship and wanted to give us a second chance. Sadly I was in a very low point mentally and I agreed. We lasted three days. She love bombed me the first day. Nothing but affection and "I missed you" Day two and tree were horrible, she barley spoke to me, was cold and distant. Eventually on day three she said "we had been just friends too long" and called it off. Sidenote we had been friends before we dated, and we were together five years before getting married. So that never made sense to me. Anyways we one again agreed to take a break and focus on ourselves. Well....she started dating someone within a month, she met once, in a different state, who groped her drunkely when the first met. Shm. Then even better, they moved back to the state my husband and I tried so hard to get out of. So now I'm here, alone, no family, one close friend. Absolutely miserable. I'm still in the overpriced apartment we got together cause I can't afford to move anywhere else. I feel like I was thrown away and left behind. I've tried getting into dating again, but idk if anyone can fill the void that was made. I have hella trust issues now, and still miss my husband dearly. It was a happy relationship full of love. I'll never know why everything happened. But it's the timeline I'm in. Thanks for reading, hopefully things get better for me someday.