IMO, you should ask /u/magnora7 to resolve the /s/Incels mod abuse problem, perhaps ask to be co-mod of that sub, and to become mod of /s/Incel where long-gone Snow seems to be mod for some reason. Then if possible, clarify and unify your community in the sidebox of each with information about the subs, rules, and each subs purpose (ie. discussion, topical, no-foids/private, etc.). The wiki might be better for some of this.