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[–]jet199 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (4 children)

He's just trying to guilt you into sex because he's horny.

There's no deep meaning to it.

[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

I can't speak for all men, but physical intimacy is important to my well-being. Masturbating doesn't fulfill the same purpose. Although all too often a couple's sex drive becomes misaligned. I think it's a pretty good reason to allow a lover. Like I tell the wife: I'd prefer it was you, but it doesn't have to be, it just has to be someone.

[–]jet199 2 insightful - 3 fun2 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

That's grounds for murder

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Holding a guy's libido hostage isn't fair at all to the guy. And vice verse for women, although that's not as common. Not saying they gotta fuck all the time or on demand, but if the bedroom is dead why make someone suffer in that, if the partner doesn't want sex anyways. They don't want it but nobody else can have it either.

And I hope you don't say just leave. Suffering without sex or leaving the person you love are terrible options. Not that picking up a lover is perfect or anything, but it seems the least awful choice.

[–]KateWilson[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

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[–]Dragonerne 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

He loves you. He desires you. He wants to have sex with you.

He probably wants to feel desired. To feel loved. To feel that you also want to have sex with him.

If you love someone, it can feel bad to be rejected as if the love is not mutual.

There could be many reasons other than sex. It could simply be that he feels rejected or inadequate or many other things. He is probably afraid of losing you.

You could try to make him feel desired, feel loved and feel wanted in other ways, but remember to speak his love language

[–]KateWilson[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I like your comment my friend so happy times to you and your family

[–]Brewdabier 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Let me start with I'm a step father of a wonderful woman and grand father of 3 young lady's with that said this dude is like many other men, turn down sex and they become insecure and pout like a baby. Long story short just tell him how you feel and if he does not like it then just say find someone who will satisfy your every wish. You need to focus on your self and your end goals of graduating UNI.

I'm being harsh as woman tend to dwell on making others happy and I'm a German. We tend to be painfully honest, so

Rules: 1. Focus on your self .

  1. Don't let others influence you into doing anything you don't want.

  2. Take care of your needs before taking care of others.

  3. Don't let anyone abuse you either physically or mentally.

[–]KateWilson[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I like your comment my friend so happy times to you and your family

[–]cisheteroscum 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

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[–]IkeConn 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

He thinks his dick is small and you are avoiding it.

[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

If a couple is having this problem in the first six months of the relationship, I'd call it quits. That doesn't seem like there's much chemistry. It's not going to get better, she's going to want sex less, and he's going to be unfulfilled and miserables.

[–]KateWilson[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I like your comment my friend so happy times to you and your family

[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Thanks Kate, I like your stuff too. Sorry people think you're a bot :)

[–]KateWilson[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Don't worry my friend and really happy about your comment and I wish someday all friends like our articles too