"My wife's more transphobic than she realizes"

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[–]fuck_redditThou/Thee/Thy 36 insightful - 3 fun36 insightful - 2 fun37 insightful - 3 fun -  (20 children)

2yo daughter but he’s been a stay at home spouse for 10 years… he just sounds like a leech…

[–]RedEyedWarriorThe Evil Cishomo 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Yeah. What was he doing for those 8 years? Although the wife had 7 years to figure out he was useless before letting him knock her up if he was just sitting on his arse all this time.

[–]IridescentAnaconda 14 insightful - 5 fun14 insightful - 4 fun15 insightful - 5 fun -  (1 child)

What was he doing for those 8 years?

Do you even have to ask? Obviously he was looking at sissy-hypno porn all day.

[–]RedEyedWarriorThe Evil Cishomo 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Good point. What a sicko.

[–]fuck_redditThou/Thee/Thy 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah his wife definitely should have kicked his ass to the curb long ago.

[–]jet199 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Living a parasitic lifestyle is one of the markers of a psychopath.

Likely he's been sat at home the whole time watching porn and developed a fetish because he had no responsibility or any interests.

[–]Alienhunter糞大名 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Yeah I must say if the house husband is forgoing career to raise the kids while the wife is out making ends meet, that seems perfectly reasonable. But sitting around at home for 8 years before kids? Definitely something that seems parasitic.

[–]Haylstorm 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I do think there are some exceptions. Like being an unpaid full time carer to a relative, but that's a job. Unpaid but you're still working. Not doing anything though for that long is where the problem is.

[–]Vulptexghost fox girl ^w^ 5 insightful - 3 fun5 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 3 fun -  (12 children)

Yet women do the same thing all the time and never get any criticism for it. Why is it only men?

[–]Neo_Shadow_Lurker 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

Yet women do the same thing all the time and never get any criticism for it. Why is it only men?

People here are assuming this guy doesn't do anything inside the house, which is actually a very reasonable assertion, considering his AGP.

It's not like most AGPs are known to live in literal shitholes or anything.

[–]Vulptexghost fox girl ^w^ 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Why would having a certain fetish mean you don't do anything around the house?

[–]Neo_Shadow_Lurker 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

A hardcore fetishist and a hardcore addict are similar on various ways: they generally let their obsession bleed so much into their lives that it starts to consume their every waking moment, which affects personal and interpersonal hygiene.

Again, AGPs tend to live in shitholes for a reason.

[–]BioEssentialism 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Again, AGPs tend to live in shitholes for a reason.

Actually the exact opposite, it’s the HSTS who all live in shit-holes since they’re usually non-white while AGPs are nearly all white and affluent.

[–]Neo_Shadow_Lurker 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Actually the exact opposite, it’s the HSTS who all live in shit-holes since they’re usually non-white while AGPs are nearly all white and affluent.

I'm talking about literal shitholes here: messy rooms with everything torn apart, sometimes with literal human excremental matter on the ground.

[–]Vulptexghost fox girl ^w^ 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

What if his fetish includes misogynist stereotypes of women, and he gets off on doing his "womanly duties"?

[–]jet199 12 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Very few women live as childless housewives for 8 years without working.

[–]RedEyedWarriorThe Evil Cishomo 14 insightful - 2 fun14 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

That’s right. Most stay at home wives and most stay at home husbands have children to care for. They are doing something. This cross-dresser was sitting on his arse for 8 years.

[–]Alienhunter糞大名 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Women get criticism for it I'm not sure where this idea comes from that they don't. Obviously staying home and taking care of the household affairs/child rearing is essentially equivalent to a full time job and shouldn't be shamed. But how many childless women can get by completely as a layabout stay at home wife?

I think most men are fairly happy if their wife manages the domestic and carnal responsibilities of the relationship without necessarily producing an income. I think most men are happier if she produces an income on top of that. But if a woman wants to just sit around the house and do whatever and not provide anything into a relationship, I think most men, and most women won't put up with that. The more opportunistic women in that friend group will see it as an opportunity to perhaps steal the man from her if they think they have more to offer, the man will be frustrated and will probably eventually stop supporting her if he gets nothing from the relationship and will go with someone else.

The only real huge difference I think you get demographically is that women tend to be more agreeable in general and will put up with situations like this longer than men will if the rolls are reversed. I think this is frankly simply because women assume more risk than men on the "dating market" and so are slower to dissolve existing relationships vs trying to make them work. Statistically speaking at least.

[–]Vulptexghost fox girl ^w^ 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

There is definitely a social expectation that a man must provide for at least himself and usually his whole family that just isn't there for women. Why do you think almost all homeless people are men? Because people think they're worthless failures, but if it's a women she's just someone in need and people will take care of her.

[–]fuck_redditThou/Thee/Thy 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I think women that sit home all day without kids and without keeping the house up and cooking are parasites too.

[–]Vulptexghost fox girl ^w^ 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That's not nearly as burdensome as providing for everyone, at least it doesn't have to be.

[–]ID10T 28 insightful - 11 fun28 insightful - 10 fun29 insightful - 11 fun -  (1 child)

Saying "I'm a lesbian trapped in a man's body" used to be a joke. I mean, it still is, but it used to be too.

[–]proc0 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Literally South Park (10 years ago?). Crazy times indeed.

[–]LtGreenCo 26 insightful - 1 fun26 insightful - 0 fun27 insightful - 1 fun -  (8 children)

If you drop this kind of bomb on your spouse then you're an utterly selfish and despicable piece of shit.

Traditionally, when two people get married, the assumption is that by that point, each partner has declared all of their negative peculiarities and both agreed, in spite of those negative traits, to accept the other person in their lives 'until death'. You trust that, for the most part, the person you're with won't change too much, because having that stability is essential.

So to introduce egregious life-altering surprise bullshit about yourself in the middle of the marriage is a real piece of shit move. At the very least, you've betrayed your spouse's trust. But more likely you've shattered their reality and wasted years or decades of their life.

In this case, I don't care if the desire to be a tranny just came out of the blue. Tough shit, you're married with kids, you don't get to be a tranny. The window for that is long gone. Suck it up and focus on being a good husband, not a tranny.

[–]Femaleisnthateful 18 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 0 fun19 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

If a spouse came out as gay, we would just expect a divorce. With Trans, the unwitting partner is just expected to smile and go along. Literally any other option is 'transphobic'. This poor wife is a hostage to an abuser.

[–]RedEyedWarriorThe Evil Cishomo 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I can understand a gay man being married to a woman if he was genuinely ignorant on how sexual attraction worked or if he was out of options because his family or his community threatened him. It still sucks for the wife. She didn’t do anything wrong, unless she wilfully ignored obvious signs or knew he was gay but thought she could "fix" him. The gay husband should be compassionate towards his wife and grant her request for divorce. In fact, he should just divorce her if she’s still young and fertile so she can get a straight/bi husband and have children with the new man. I have no sympathy for gay men who marry women when there were alternatives available to those men. But most gay men in these situations feel genuine guilt, and either wish they could be straight or try to make things right in the divorce proceedings.

How many trans spouses feel guilty after choosing to be trans?

[–]Newzok 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

How many trans spouses feel guilty after choosing to be trans?

I'm a little torn there. Is it a choice, even if you're AGP? I really don't know, it seems more like compulsion. It's the tactlessness and entitlement that astounds me, anyway. And there seems to be a lot of it with this type of person.

[–]jet199 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

No different from an alcoholic choosing the bottle over his family.

[–]Newzok 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think that's a perfect analogy

[–]jet199 8 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Likely he is jealous of his own child needing attention and that's one of the reasons he's pulling this shit now.

If you have a baby you don't get to be the baby anymore.

[–]IridescentAnaconda 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Whaaah! You said you loved me no matter what! Now you're putting conditions on that love!

[–]shortchick 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This happened to a friend of mine. A couple of years into their marriage and suddenly she now has a wife instead of a husband. I did express my concern for her, but she has fully embraced it. I think it was a shitty thing to do and unfair to her, but in the end, it's her marriage. Not going to end my friendship over it. They live in another city, so when she visits, it's just her.

[–]Haylstorm 15 insightful - 3 fun15 insightful - 2 fun16 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Well yeah ofc she's not attracted to you. You're behaving like a weirdo. I hope she boots him soon and finds a real partner not some porn addicted neckbeard who can't even get a job in 10 years.

[–]FourteenDigitz 13 insightful - 5 fun13 insightful - 4 fun14 insightful - 5 fun -  (1 child)

That complaining about his wife no longer finding him sexually attractive is strangely very manlike of him.

[–]jet199 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Just wait until he takes that question out to the general public.

[–]clownworlddropout 14 insightful - 2 fun14 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 2 fun -  (14 children)

What a loser, my god. That poor woman.

[–]Haylstorm 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (13 children)

Should've bailed after the first few years of no job. That's a neckbeard sign if i've ever seen one. You're never going to have a partner in that case.

[–]RedEyedWarriorThe Evil Cishomo 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (12 children)

I agree. I know this is controversial to bring up, but are there women out there who genuinely want a house husband? Sure, there are couples who make it work, but usually this happened by accident. Husband is a veteran or a retired cop/firefighter, or was let go from his job and unable to find employment.

[–]Neo_Shadow_Lurker 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

Being a stay at home parent is a luxury these days, and this has been the case for a while now.

[–]RedEyedWarriorThe Evil Cishomo 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Which is a shame. People used to earn enough money to support a family. Back when immigration was at sustainable levels and manufacturing jobs weren't being shipped overseas.

My advice to young couples is to make arrangements where the grandparents look after the children while Dad and Mam go to work.

[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Back when immigration was at sustainable levels

More than that, when immigrants were White.

[–]RedEyedWarriorThe Evil Cishomo 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

When immigrants had potential to learn English and the capacity to thrive in American culture, which was of European origin.

[–]Chipit 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's always a shock to view some pop culture from the 60s and see that they were making fun of people from Poland, or Italy, or Ireland or something. Like...wow. Because that's what "immigrants" used to be.

The movie "The Deer Hunter" is a good example.

[–]FourteenDigitz 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Alright how about we draw the line at white supremacy, yeah?

[–]Haylstorm 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Like I'll admit I wouldn't mind it if it's a childcare thing? You pick who has the better career ladder/moneymaking and they work. Childcare can be more than income at times if it's part time work for example. Even then though now it's more like both people working and childcare options are parents or something.

[–]RedEyedWarriorThe Evil Cishomo 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I can understand being a stay-at-home dad just because the wife earns more money or her job provides more benefits-in-kind. But a lot of women do not want to marry SAH dads, so it wouldn’t surprise me if this particular arrangement remains rare.

[–]Alienhunter糞大名 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I mean it's just more efficient from a biological standpoint for the woman to leave employment to raise kids vs the man. Obviously the modern world is complicated and there will be exceptions, and there's certainly no reason why a father can't stay at home and raise the kids, but talking specifically about pregnancy, giving birth, nursing, these are things that only the woman can do and they will make it harder for her to keep working during it. The man doesn't have the same concerns.

[–]RedEyedWarriorThe Evil Cishomo 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I agree with this. A woman has to recover after giving birth to a baby. On top of that, she can breastfeed her child while a man cannot do that. Sure, a mother can put some of her breastmilk in a bottle and the father can feed her milk to the baby, but the most natural and simplest thing is for the mother to feed the baby directly.

On top of all that, the baby was inside the mother for 9 months. He's still going to need her for the first few months of his life so he can re-adjust to life outside the womb. It's important that the father begins holding the child and bonding with him, but the baby was never inside of his father, just half of him was, so the baby is simply not as familiar with his dad as he is with his mam.

Dad staying at home with the kids is still a valid option. But it should be a backup plan rather than the first plan.

[–]Femaleisnthateful 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

It only makes sense to me if there are kids (or other dependents) in the picture. I'm not sexist about this, I had a childless female friend who sat on her ass (or partied) while her husband worked, and I didn't respect her for it. Doesn't bode well for when they have to take on actual responsibility in their lives.

[–]RedEyedWarriorThe Evil Cishomo 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I agree. Staying at home, regardless of your sex, to look after dependents is valid. Staying at home just to relax or party all the time, and mooch off of your partner, is wrong and selfish. I know some women who don’t have children and don’t have jobs, but they help their husbands with their careers and organise events for families and local community. These women contribute to their families and to society in a way.

[–]Neo_Shadow_Lurker 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

So a waste of space AGP troon who has a 3 year old kid thinks that the biggest problem in his life is that his wife doesn't think he's attractive anymore after he succumbed to his fetish.

Why I'm not surprised?

[–]Haylstorm 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Her first mistake was having a kid with someone who was unemployed for 8 years before that. like c'mon you know he's unlikely to take proper care of the kid if he can't even keep a job or find one in that time.

[–]Neo_Shadow_Lurker 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

like c'mon you know he's unlikely to take proper care of the kid if he can't even keep a job or find one in that time.

Ehh, I won't judge her.

AGPs masking themselves until their wives get pregnant is actually a common thing, as a kid tends to be a very effective way for them to trap their partners into the relationship after they troon out.

[–]Haylstorm 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I mean they self admit they didn't have a job for 10 years. 8 of those without a kid do make me side eye this. That's 8 years of them not doing anything and deciding to have a kid with the guy...

[–]jacques1102 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Assuming they had a kid the natural way,why the fck would you have sex if it requires you to use an organ that would trigger your dysphoria?Also i have serious doubts that this guy some how didn't know he had GD for most of his life and decided to then come out.

[–]alladd 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

good god the absolute selfishness being enabled by those comments

"she's a transphobic bitch who doesn't see how important it is that you, an uncontributing NEET, fulfill your sexual fetishes at the expense of her happiness and your 2 year child's stability and future"

pure distilled narcissism. this coward used the stability and security afforded to him by a working wife to indulge his little pervert fantasies and now he's so addicted to them he's gonna ruin two lives.

[–]RedEyedWarriorThe Evil Cishomo 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

It’s Reddit. Of course they will side with the troon.

[–]alladd 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

it's reassuring to see one or two at the bottom calling them selfish. RIP those accounts probably IP banned now

[–]RedEyedWarriorThe Evil Cishomo 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah I've been banned from Reddit twice. Sucks but oh well. Hopefully they will join us on Saidit.

[–]RedEyedWarriorThe Evil Cishomo 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Note she is in medicine, works with kids (some trans)

(some trans)

The wife has been seeing the horrors before her very eyes in her profession, and she does not want to go home to it every evening. That, or having a transformer husband is making her realise that transitioning children is wrong and it is frying her brain.

[–]Femaleisnthateful 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Classic AGP. Loser man with no job waits until he's trapped a woman in a relatioship he thinks she can't get out of, then starts letting his freak flag fly and demands unconditional acceptance to a moving goalpost of demands (because it's an addiction, so he has to keep pushing limits to get his high), while framing himself as a victim.

[–]RedEyedWarriorThe Evil Cishomo 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I bet he didn’t think his wife would still be straight (not that a bisexual wife would go along with the delusions either). I also bet he didn’t think his wife would kick him out of the house.

[–]slavdude0 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I'd be penniless

Already penisless bro.

[–]DrPVM 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

What a fecking car crash

[–]Rastafoo 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

LMAOOO