20 years ago my religion (Baha'i) used to be a regular religion like Christianity. We had weekly gatherings at a central location. Every once in a while there was talk of proselytism/outreach, just like like there might be in a Christian church, but for the most part it was just a regular religion - we gathered weekly and the focus of the gatherings was regular religious topics.

Bad religious leadership took over and they forced the weekly gatherings at a central location to stop. I believe this was a cost cutting measure so that more money could get funneled up to the global heads of our religion. Instead of weekly gatherings at a central location, we just have small monthly gatherings (the heads of our religion only allow us to interact with people our zip code (roughly)), where we read long letters from the heads of our religion telling us to proselytize more, and this became the sole focus of our religion. No one ever reads the prophet's writings. Actually, no one proselytizes either, they just passively cheer it on. But as passive as they are, if you dare to question the leadership or its plans, you will be viewed as a heretic and you could get excommunicated.

Anyway, since the weekly gatherings have stopped, and since the monthly gatherings are tiny, my religion is basically useless for meeting women. God I hate the heads of my religion for actively working to keep me incel. This is the #1 factor for me being incel I think, because I work in a male dominated field, so religion is really my only opportunity to meet women, so if I can't meet women through my religion then of course I am going to be incel. I hate the heads of my religion so much.

I suppose I could join church or a mosque, but I would feel like an imposter. At a mosque it would be easier for me to dissimulate due to my physical appearance, until they start asking questions and find out I am not one of them (Muslims are fairly intolerant towards my religion), and plus you can't meet women at a mosque anyway. A church would be even worse because it is apparent from my ethnic appearance that I am an outsider so I would surely be viewed with suspicion. I wish I had a friend already in a church I could go with, so if people suspiciously ask what I am doing there, I could say I am with the friend.