On April 24th, I posted about my dad: https://saidit.net/s/whatever/comments/406m/my_87_year_old_father_has_cornoavirus_i_would/
The TLDR is that he tested positive for COVID-19 twenty days ago. Even though he was a-symptomatic, sixteen days ago, he was forced into a convalescent home against his will. He is being held in isolation, is in severe pain from his chronic conditions, and is being neglected. He is upset he never got sick because he would rather die than continue living like this. My siblings and I are fighting to get him out.
Update: Knowing that he would only be contagious for two weeks, I called the facility on Wednesday, April 22 (Day 3), asking if he could be tested the next day, which would be the two-week mark from exposure. No call back. I called every day after that. No call back. On Monday, April 27, in the late afternoon, I sent an email to the general manager saying that my attorney would be calling first thing in the morning about violating my dad’s civil rights by holding him without a test.
I got a call back from the convalescent home within minutes. The head nurse told me that CDC guidelines said that someone is considered non-contagious if they have gone seven days without symptoms after being tested. So my father could have left on Day 5, but his Assisted Living Facility wouldn’t take him back without a test that said he was negative. She said she wasn’t in a hurry to test him because Coronavirus patients were showing up positive for up to 6 weeks after exposure. She said she would test my dad the next day (April 28), but warned that he may show up positive even though it had been almost a month since he was exposed. She was right. His test came back on Friday, May 1 as positive.
I asked the Assisted Living facility to make an exception, since he was clearly way beyond the contagious window. The nurse at the retirement community told me that CDC guidelines are different for assisted-living facilities than nursing homes, and that the Assisted Living Facility now requires not just one, but two consecutive negative tests, PERIOD.
My dad was tested again yesterday. Even if the test comes on Thursday as negative, he’ll need yet another test done on Friday, and it won’t come back until Wednesday. Best case scenario, he’s trapped for another 9 days... and it’s quite possible the test will show up as positive since it’s only been a month since exposure. He could very well be trapped there for another month.
And remember that the test is for any Coronavirus, not specifically for COVID-19, and common colds are also types of Coronaviruses.
My dad talks daily about wanting to die because he can’t take the isolation and pain (he is overdue for steroid shots in his back, which helps keep his crippling back/leg pain in check). He has psoriasis and is covered in sores because he is currently being prohibited from taking his psoriasis medicine (the drug is an immuno-suppressant). He is not allowed to walk around, and he is has experienced muscle atrophy. He is now more needy and dependent than he was before – and he already was emotionally struggling with being so needy before this all started. He is only getting sponge baths and he feels dirty not having a “real” showed. They haven’t shaved him, and he hates having a beard.
Meanwhile, my dad’s girlfriend has recovered. She was ready to be moved from the hospital to a convalescent home almost a week ago, but they couldn’t find a bed for her until Saturday evening. And that is because there are apparently a lot of people like my dad who are totally healthy, yet are taking up the beds that are needed for the genuinely sick.
I am racked with guilt for siding with the state a year ago when they forced him out of his home and into the Assisted Living Facility. I thought that once my dad adjusted, he would like the Assisted Living Facility and his quality of life would improve with better care. But I was so wrong. I wish I had been respectful and fought the state to let him stay in his home. He wanted to die there, and I was selfish by insisting that he continue to live in pain in a crippled body instead of letting him make his own choice to not live.
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