I won today - faith renewed in the courts.

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I have paid about 50k in lawyers since 2015. My child’s mother has drowned me in the legal process. They spent about 200k plus.

I am not exaggerating. I live in a big city, and my kids grandparents have money.

Today I won a pretty large increase in the visitation access to my child. I am so happy, I could cry.

I have suffered from heartache these past 8 years. I’m finally allowed to participate in my kids life.

I got a good judge. There was this “retired” billionaire settlement lawyer and the normal 50k per court date guy. They are big shots.

The judge didn't take any of their shit. The lawyers usually push the judges around.

There has been a lot of bad blood. I am not perfect, but I have always been good to my children.

I’m so happy.

Happy Friday.

Cheers.

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[–]UbiquitousCultOfSelf 9 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

Follow God, Be blessed, do good by them kids.
Always try to keep your emotional baggage far away from your kids, something called "enmeshment", something we adults always have to work at.

[–][deleted] 8 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

Yep. I have to set an example for my daughter. Even though I hate the mom. It’s my job to be the person I want her to be.

Thanks for the reminder.

I’ll look up enmeshment.

[–]In-the-clouds 5 insightful - 3 fun5 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

I hate the mom.

I think I understand now how you chose your username. In your post, you also admitted:

I am not perfect...

We all have had faults and all have made problems for others. We need their forgiveness. And we should forgive those that hurt us. I recommend you forgive the mother of your children. Your children still love her, don't they?

I am glad for you, that you have more opportunities to be with your children. I did not realize you were also a father. I have some respect for you because you want to be active in the lives of your children. I believe you could have avoided the whole court system altogether if you had forgiven the mother of your children and given your concerns to the Lord to handle. Men that trust in the Lord receive his help. But if you cannot forgive her faults, neither can God forgive yours.

[–][deleted] 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Yea man, you could be right.

I will work on forgiveness. That might be key in raising my daughter properly.

I got to go to a soccer game today! It was exciting. I do want to be in my kids lives.

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    [–][deleted] 5 insightful - 3 fun5 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

    Yea. It’s crazy.

    [–]Drewski 8 insightful - 3 fun8 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

    Congrats, glad to hear it!

    [–]LordoftheFlies 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

    Hey, glad to hear that!

    [–]EternalSunset 6 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

    Congratulations bro! Cheers!

    Also, cool to know your username's origin story. xD

    [–][deleted] 4 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

    Haha.

    [–]hfxB0oyA 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

    Congratulations man. I'm happy for you!

    [–][deleted] 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

    Congrats. I wish I had something more profound to say. The whole court situation is fucked up, justice whether criminal or civil shouldn't be about who can spend more, but it often is.

    [–][deleted] 7 insightful - 3 fun7 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

    Yea. Spending that kind of money creates an odd dynamic. People automatically trust people with money.

    [–]jet199Instigatrix 5 insightful - 3 fun5 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

    So you know what profession to guide your kids into.

    [–][deleted] 4 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

    I have all daughters. I would like to guide them to be happy house wives. Who know how to cook, and take care of their man, while they save themselves for marriage.

    And they marry a super rich guy, and have a happy family.

    [–][deleted] 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

    Congrats on the big win man, glad you are gonna get to see more of your kid

    [–][deleted] 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (11 children)

    It is always a good thing when in our world of suffering and hardship some positive result comes to you. Remember to live for the positive because it will come eventually. Congratulations.

    [–][deleted] 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

    Thank man. I agree. Positive finally came!

    [–]Vulptex 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (9 children)

    Wishful thinking. The good is very rare, and never guaranteed. The vast majority of people in history have wasted their whole lives being absolutely miserable and never feeling anything good. Because that's just the nature of the world we live in.

    [–]AXXA👁⃤웃 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (8 children)

    The good is common. We just have to open our perception. Good is resting in the sun and listening to the wind blowing through the trees. Good is smelling a home cooked meal. Good is the feeling of freshly laundered sheets.

    [–]Vulptex 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

    Good is Chancellor Palpatine. Bad is Darth Sideous. But it turns out the former is only a disguise for the latter. That's how good and bad work in this world.

    [–]EddieC 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

    /u/Vulptex:

    Good is Chancellor Palpatine. Bad is Darth Sideous.
    But it turns out the former is only a disguise for the latter.
    That's how good and bad work in this world.

    No, that is how elite Dom @ usurper Dom works
    i.e. with Good usurped by Evil
     
    For Good to prevail over Evil,
    all everyone has to do is shun usurpation

    Q: Is there anyone here for Good?

    [–]Vulptex 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

    I have never encountered anything good in this world whose true colors haven't turned out to be evil. Not even myself. Sometimes it or they turn on me, other times I find something out, but when the mask comes off it's always the same thing inside. Even the laws of physics follow the principles of this evil.

    [–]EddieC 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

    Would you rather let evil perpetuate?
    Aren't you told to break the cycle: the How, or Else?
    What better time to break the cycle than now?
     

    [–]Vulptex 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

    The only way for the cycle to break is if the world ends.

    [–]EddieC 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

    The only way for the cycle to break is if the world ends

    [–]Vulptex 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

    I'm not saying we should nuke earth. Just that evil is the fundamental fact of the world. It will exist for as long as the world does. Destroying the earth is itself evil, unless every lifeform agrees to it.

    [–]EddieC 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    (Evil) will exist for as long as the world does.

    True, because Evil = Good usurped
    But that does not mean Evil has to dominate us
    Evil dominates if we let Good i.e. ourselves be usurped
    For Good to be restored - to break the cycle - shun usurpation
     
    Q: Are you for Good, or Evil?
     

    [–]Alphix 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

    Happy for you my dude! =D

    [–]313337 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

    Happy for you man.

    [–]Dregan 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

    And can continue being a good pop's to your kids. fantastic man, congrats.

    [–]cisheteroscum 4 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

    Congratulations, man!

    [–][deleted] 4 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

    FuckHerMom

    [–]WoodyWoodPeckerHah he he he hah! 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

    CLUCK A DOODLE DOO! GOOD TIMES FOR YOU! /s

    [–]Rah 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

    You say you always be good to the kids. Yet you hate the mother.

    You deserved to be punished. Yet now you got some redemption path shown. Dont squander it, make amends and go on. You chose her to be the mother, bear the consequences of your actions

    [–][deleted] 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

    This sounds like some god shit.

    I may deserve punishment.

    I’ll work on not squandering it. Thanks for the advise.

    [–]Rah 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    "Loving your enemies" is not the same "love" as the love you give your kids. True love is giving others what you would give to yourself in the same situation. If your wife is a bitch, loving her also means calling her out and treating her exactly as you would like to be to not be a bitch. Not rocket science; God gives you permission to assert yourself to your wife when needed be, so do it, especially if she is a bitch.

    Just never forget to forgive her; which is not the same as forgetting what she did. You only forgive and forget to those truly willing to make amends and repent for their sins.

    [–]Diana 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

    The system is so fucked up, I truly feel for good men/fathers who have to suffer this bullshit </3

    So glad it turned out OK for you <3

    [–][deleted] 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

    Thanks for your kind words.

    [–][deleted] 3 insightful - 3 fun3 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 3 fun -  (2 children)

    Why weren't you allowed to see them?

    [–][deleted] 4 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

    It’s complicated. Like really complicated. There’s alot of contributing factors. But basically, I got a DUI. That is a really really short version. The kids were not with me when I got the dui.

    The long version is an explanation of the DUI, mental health issues, the aftermath, the lawyers, the judges, my relationship, etc.

    [–][deleted] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    Yeah that is really minor and unrelated to your kids, so you definitely have been getting fucked. Congrats on the W bro.

    [–]Vulptex 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (6 children)

    Why do the courts always give everything to the mother, even when she's the one in the wrong? And say the father isn't allowed to ever see his kids again, but is also fully financially responsible for them. I swear everyone just hates men.

    [–][deleted] 4 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 3 fun -  (2 children)

    They do it to steal his money. Judges are paid from child support money.

    [–]Vulptex 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

    It shouldn't matter then which parent has to pay, because the judge gets paid either way.

    [–][deleted] 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

    Yea

    [–]JasonCarswellMental Orgy 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

    Why...?

    Almost everything in society is weaponized to make us isolated and weaker so we're easily exploitable slaves for the ruling class.

    [–]Vulptex 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

    How does siding with the woman every time benefit that agenda?

    [–]JasonCarswellMental Orgy 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

    This is a huge topic. My advice, be skeptical and look into how TPTB perpetually wage war on society, communities, families, etc to wear folks down into malleable individuals to control and exploit. /s/ClassWar, /s/CultureWars, /s/Economics, etc etc etc.

    [–]Vulptex 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

    I wouldn't count on it. Your win was extremely lucky in such a corrupt system, especially one that actively works against men and fathers. The vast majority of cases do not turn out so well.

    [–][deleted] 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

    My case isn’t as good as I’m saying. I am leaving out alot of stuff. I just finally got some visitation.

    I agree, the system is corrupt and fucked.

    [–]dicknipplessneako's agent 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

    Great news. Congratulations

    [–][deleted] 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

    Thank you.