I saw a fairly quickly up voted fundamentalist-y, conservative-y, sounding opinion piece on ovarit. Even with the context of the "tide turning" on gender ideology, it disturbed me as a gnc woman by thump in GenderCritical

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Ovarit and even Saidit very much get right-wing at times. Not everyone, of course, but enough users to make me pause and go "...seriously?"

I've gotten flack and downvotes on Ovarit for saying I can't fathom voting Republican (US).

Anyway, be yourself, GNC women are awesome.

Why do radical feminists call their boyfriends and husbands Nigel? by stunaep in GenderCritical

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I don't know the answer but I also think of Nigel Thornberry, lol.

Oh the humanity - QT+ cruelly excised from "mutilated" rainbow flag by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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I saw r/actuallesbians talking about this and a bunch of them were saying she's "doing the nazi salute" when clearly her arm/hand is positioned that way because she dropped the other piece of the flag right before the photo was taken.

Is this where GC community moved after reddit ban? by Cookie_maker123 in GenderCritical

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Invite only, yup. There's ways to reach out to Ovarit itself and request one. And existing users can send out a limited amount of invite codes once their profile reaches a certain level (you level up by commenting/posting and being upvoted). https://ovarit.com/wiki/invites

I think the level requirement for invites wasn't there when I first joined a couple years ago?

Is this where GC community moved after reddit ban? by Cookie_maker123 in GenderCritical

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Ovarit is much more active than here but o/GenderCritical is 99% trans topics.

would you fuck a hot passing femboy? by yelgy in Lesbians

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Absolutely not

/s/LGBDropTheT is private right now by cqtz in whatever

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That's some weird and unnecessary drama. Seems like people got heated for no reason, I don't see why the sub had to close over it.

Absolutely great for lesbians who have always been confident in their lack of attraction to men! I am one myself, full gold star or whatever, but I don't think that makes me better than other lesbians who had a different journey. Some women unfortunately have to deal with pressure from society, parents, religion, internalized homophobia, etc. And they end up having to "grin and bear it" and sleep with a man before eventually coming to terms and accepting their sexuality.

No organisation left uncaptured by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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As a tomboy / lite-butch, yeah, I can't wear mens pants they don't fit right. I've tried because I sometimes like the style better but nope, they don't work for my body shape. I can get away with mens shirts pretty often though so that's nice.

Lesbian sex just keeps getting weirder by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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I think it's the thing where two guys rub their dicks together?

FTM: My trans girlfriend broke up with me because of my penis! by PriestTheyCalledHim in LGBDropTheT

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Fiancé? "we had sex several times" "blocks me.. doesn't like small penises"

That doesn't even sound like a serious relationship let alone fiancé material.

TW: lesbian assault survivor tricked into bed by biological man, upsetting comments blaming OP by Chocolatepudding in LGBDropTheT

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I'm actually unexpectedly surprised at the comments in that thread. Somehow.. I guess I expected more empathy? More "they were in the wrong for not disclosing ahead of time" comments instead of just calling OP transphobic.

So excited to be a mother… wait, what???? by Chunkeeguy in GenderCritical

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Lol read the comments here and rest of the context. The linked OP isn't trans - "FTM" in this context means "First Time Mother."

Being friends is queer y'all by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

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Also they're 13 year olds who were crushing on a boy band the whole movie

Mod Insights: a curated selection of brigades and bad-faith users by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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All those images/memes gave me second hand embarrassment for the people that posted them.

In the next exciting episode, our hero has a meltdown when none of the heartless cisgays from the sauna call her to ask her on a date by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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User's submission history also has a post titled (trigger warning) "I wanna be raped like a woman (tm19)"

Welcome to the real world, kid by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

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Jesus, straight up someone who doesn't understand consent and overtly advocates for corrective rape.

Welcome to the real world, kid by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

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I'm so curious of the source of this comic and the responses to it outside of SaidIt

Any formerly-hardcore Democrats considering/have voted Republican? If not, what would it take? by jjdub7 in GenderCritical

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Absolutely not. Republicans are no friend to women's rights. On a political level, trans stuff is such a minor concern to me compared to things like climate change and health care.

Sense8 episode 1 where a lesbian "Terf" is villainized by Rage-Xion in GenderCritical

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Sense8 was created by the Wachowski's (of The Matrix)

The ladies of r/gaytransguys are raging. Why oh why is /r/actuallesbians so much more accepting? by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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The original founder way way way back (like 10 years ago) realized she was bisexual and left because she didn't feel right running a lesbian sub.

Later, a few more mods left and formed r/lesbianactually instead (5 years ago).

r/actuallesbians was rudderless at times, for a brief moment a straight dude was in charge by accident because he had helped them with coding and when r/lesbianactually team left he was inadvertently put in charge by order of age/seniority.

He left too, and it's current head mod Mollysomething took over. Pretty sure she's actually a woman but the second highest mod was trans and they dated for a while. The two of them were super heavy handed in modding based on personal feelings and created the culture it has now.

Sunday Social - open chat! by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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Pup is good! Wound was shallow because my girlfriend saw the pitbull coming and tried to pull our dog away at the last second. So the pitbull's teeth weren't able to get in too deep, it just wouldn't let go once it bit down. Vet did a 'clip and clean' and put her on antibiotics for a bit. I think it freaked us humans out way more than the dog.

Luckily there were some people at the dog park we had met before (our dogs befriended each other). They tried to help remove the pitbull and calmed us down after.

Sunday Social - open chat! by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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I was sympathetic to pitbulls until my dog was attacked and it was a nightmare trying to get it to release it's jaws from my dog's neck. Now I'm in the camp of many of them have bad owners, but also the breed was bred for fighting. I do know some nice ones but I don't trust the breed as a whole and will leave the dog park (or where ever I am with my dog) if I see one. I don't want them euthanized or anything but I don't think they should continue to be bred. Let the current ones live out their lives with responsible owners and move on.

Is this ''sarcasm''? by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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Nope. This website is a right-wing nightmare of misogyny if you step outside of this and other LGB communities.

Does anyone know any good, active discord servers for me to join??? by udhsu in Lesbians

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Maybe message the mods here? They used to run a Discord for r/TrueLesbians. I'm not sure if it's still around but I assume so, it was pretty active. (I left it because I forget about Discord way too often).

Is the player on a girls BB team who sucker punched a girl female? by SanityIsGC in GenderCritical

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If she's the daughter of a former NBA player I'd expect her to be tall for a female.

As for starting on the boys team, I did sports when I was a kid and the best female players played with the boys teams. I think they did that when they wanted more of a challenge. When they got older and joined official school teams they switched back to the girl's teams, usually varsity. It was just the community youth leagues where they played on the boys teams.

Actually even I was on youth soccer team when I was super little where the only girls were myself and a friend of mine I'm still in contact with. Then as I got older I was on girls team. A girl from my school was on the boys team but was also friends with a bunch of my team. She would sometimes come and help us at practice.

The irony by artetolife in LGBDropTheT

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They have trans members they just don't allow trans topics.

TERF glossary on "Rational" Wiki by Rage-Xion in GenderCritical

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"Adult human female" is used as a form of hate speech .... Anyone who claims to be an "adult human female" is quite certainly a TERF.

lol

What other subs do you guys subscribe to on Saidit? by BootsAndBeards in LGBDropTheT

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Censorship Thursday - share your sub bans here! by NutterButterFlutter in LGBDropTheT

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Did something new happen?

When will people get it? Lesbians are not attracted to men! by bolla_top in LGBDropTheT

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Random lesbian here. In college (over a decade ago, so long before the current discourse) a friend asked me if I'd rather date a trans woman or a trans man. Without even thinking about it I instinctively said "trans man" without skipping a beat.

How does one supposed to improve straight man's experience of not getting lesbian matches? by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

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Thanks!!

How does one supposed to improve straight man's experience of not getting lesbian matches? by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

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As someone overweight (but working on myself - so far down 45 pounds!) that's so ridiculous. I know what I look like, I don't want to trick people. That just wastes everone's time and makes the rejection even more painful.

What to do with multiple personality disorders and different "alters"? by WhyAreYouSoDumb in GenderCritical

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DiD (Dissociative Identity Disorder) is a very rare condition that has been over diagnosed (self diagnosed) by, usually, teens testing different personalities and trying to figure out who they want to be. They've turned a serious disorder into a fun quirky role play sort of thing. It's super insulting to the rare individual who actually has it. For those who legitimately have DiD, it's usually a trauma response to something that happened as a young child. The brain tries to protect itself by creating an alter to store those trauma memories so the "host" doesn't have to remember them.

See https://www.reddit.com/r/DIDCringe/. So many teen girls fake it and it's become a bit of a trend, especially on TikTok.

It's completely normal for teenagers to "try on" different personalities for a while as they figure out who they are (jock, prep, etc). Unfortunately, this is a new method for that and it's really insulting to those who do suffer from DiD.

Those who say that people are attracted to gender and not to genitals . . . by JulienMayfair in LGBDropTheT

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oooh, got it, thank you!

Those who say that people are attracted to gender and not to genitals . . . by JulienMayfair in LGBDropTheT

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Can this sleepy lesbian have an explanation of the "gay male amateur porn subreddits" part of this post?

I am someone who has obviously not spent time browsing them, lol.

Well, at least I fought for what was right. by SexualityCritical in GenderCritical

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I'm pretty sure The first message is from the moderators who imbedded a quote from OP in their message as a note for what the ban is for (I assume a comment on the sub). The bottom "So, you're, like, a rape apologist?" was sent from OP to /r/AreTheStraightsOK mods.

I'm assuming the context for OP's quoted comment is in regards to Chris Chan, hence the rape thing.

Explains a lot by deusrhein in GenderCritical

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Before someone inevitably gets confused by the numbers, this does NOT mean 47.49% of their users post on r/mtf. It's a probability multiplier. Meaning, their users are 47.49 times more likely than the average redditor to participate in r/mtf.

Lesbians attacked at Paris Pride 2021 by trans activists (Résistance Lesbienne) by NutterButterFlutter in GetTheLOut

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Can anyone translate the chant and signs?

Am I the only one who tried to pass for a man online? by LeoneOkada in GenderCritical

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I've always used very gender neutral usernames and character names because I don't want to deal with that stuff. Nothing wrong with it. If you actually develop a friendship with someone you can get more personal then. For example when I used to play GTA V online I found my way into a female crew and felt comfortable doing voice chat with them.

Well, that was weird by WildwoodFlower in Lesbians

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My only time going outside of this/other gay subs (or whatever they're called on SaidIt) found the rest of the site is VERY misogynistic, racist and right wing.

Reddit behind the scenes by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Anyone know the context for the original photo?

A former actuallesbians mod speaks... comment was removed by censorshipment in GenderCritical

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Quote from the former mod's profile: "I am a trans woman who is a lesbian. I been on hrt for a long time."

They mod r/asktransgender, r/transpassing, and r/transexual (among others)

Interesting tidbit:According to a redditor, Aimee Challenor's husband,Nathaniel Knight is a mod for r/actuallesbians by SanityIsGC in GenderCritical

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Not the husband, the other one is a mod. Nekusume or something like that? They're another transwoman.

But yes Aimee (admin), Nekosume (actuallesbians mod), and husband are supposedly in a poly relationship.

A close friend of mine has decided she's non-binary now and I don't know how to react by sunzzy in LGBDropTheT

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You have to pick your battles. If you value this friendship just say "they" when required, or use their first name more often if you're hesitant. There's a difference between discussing your concerns about groups/trends online and having a personal interaction with someone you care about that can get hurt.

Personally, I don't have a problem with using people's chosen pronouns offline. For me, this stuff doesn't happen often and I don't care enough to stress about it offline; plus I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. If I feel weird about it or struggle to change someone's pronouns when speaking because of how I perceive them (such as someone who doesn't pass at all or only very recently came out), I just avoid using pronouns in general about them.

But that's just how I handle things, I'm not one for confrontation and have a hard time being purposely rude. If you want to burn this bridge that's up to you.

Why are religious people so obsessed with homosexuals? by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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Religions that focus on procreation thrive and spread (via generations upon generations of children being raised in that religion).

Are you people for real? by [deleted] in Lesbians

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I found the post you're referencing and I don't think that's what the OP intended, but I can understand how it can be read that way and how hurtful that can be when viewed through a certain lens. I'm not a survivor myself, just dated one and supported her through all the court/therapy/panic attack stuff.

I know for some people it can be a source of doubt in the confidence of their sexuality (or they may have been told by others it should be a source of doubt), so I can't imagine reading a post with similar vibes was fun. And anyway, it's not like sleeping with women magically negates the risk of flashbacks caused by sex. So I really don't see the idea OP was bringing up (survivors faking their sexuality to avoid sleeping with men or something) being something that happens much, if ever.

Anyway, I hope your night gets better.

"Her" favourite part of being a trans lesbian by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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I tracked down that thread. Pretty sure the user with removed comments (red) is a troll. People pointed out they had 0 post history prior to that post and now their profile is deleted entirely. It was on a trans sub and everyone was calling them out / disagreeing with OP. The person calling OP does appear to actually be trans from their profile.

Americans: who did you vote for? by chokeonartichoke in Lesbians

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Biden, and solid blue down ballot.

Joe Biden endorses child transing by WrongToy in GenderCritical

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It's not that I'm brushing off concerns stemming from this post, it's that this election has larger long term impacts looming. Right now, I'm more worried about the health of our nation (if you're also in the US) and the health of our planet than I am about trans stuff. COVID, health care, climate change, environmental regulations, the supreme court, etc. Get Trump and as many anti-science GOP members out of office first, worry about the rest next.

The point of my comment is that I don't want this one town hall question to be the reason GC people don't vote for Biden or don't vote blue down the ballot. The GOP is no friend to women's rights.

Joe Biden endorses child transing by WrongToy in GenderCritical

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Regardless, make sure you vote this election. I'm not a fan of Biden but there are significantly more pressing matters than this. We can't afford another 4 years of Trump.

Privileges of transitioning... by turtleduck23 in LGBDropTheT

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FYI when I looked up this user's profile (it's not properly censored) it looks like they're currently suspended from Reddit. So take this post with a giant grain of salt.

That was quick by FineIWillDoItMyself in Lesbians

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In case the images are hard to read, here's what they say:

Left image: "Maybe you just haven't had good dick-" .. "My girlfriend has a dick"

Right image: "When dudes with dicks ask me out" .. "When women with dicks ask me out"

Censorship Thursday - share your sub bans here! by NutterButterFlutter in LGBDropTheT

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I've been auto-banned from r/rape too for commenting on some sub (I forget which) that hit r/all. But the mods made it super easy to appeal, I sent them a PM because I had an actual post I wanted to make and they reversed the ban. I think their filters are just set to be super sensitive for a bunch of subreddits for some reason.

There is like 20 other flags and i have no idea what most are...why? by Somets in GenderCritical

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This is from Sims University isn't it? Were they all actually pride flags or just different colored banners, some of which are pride flags? I can't remember and I'm too lazy to wait my Sims game to load haha. I do remember there was a rainbow flag and a bisexual flag, because I've used those for a couple different characters.

Damn OP. You're going to make me want to play Sims again.

Sexuality is a personality trait, according to commenters on r/lgbt (but not upvotes?) by reluctant_commenter in LGBDropTheT

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Probably a lot of people just upvote and move on without reading comments. The ones who want to disagree with a post have more reason to comment about it.

Other places for lesbians? by Lesbianese in Lesbians

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r/ActuallyLesbian is decent for Reddit, but it's super small and rather quiet. They do allow trans users but don't allow trans topics (either direction). You can't really talk about anything controversial though, just casual discussions. I've seen trans people complain it's a "terf sub", and I've seen people on SaidIt complain about them allowing trans users. Seems like they're trying to be something in the middle and I'm guessing they'd risk getting banned pretty quick by reddit if they weren't.

But like I said it's small and quiet. I'm not aware of anywhere active unfortunately, even this place gets quiet (or I just forget about it frequently). There is a Discord server for TrueLesbians but I forget about that one too. Plus it's a chat room which isn't my favorite format, I like the Reddit/SaidIt forum style.

Deleted Reddit post: I'm so sick of trans women invading lesbian spaces by bastetkat in LGBDropTheT

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Blue means the user deleted the post, red means the mods removed it. So the link post was deleted by the OP (and is a year old)

...Unrepresented? by RippoffOfLove in LGBDropTheT

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What's with all the personal opinions from whoever made that. I've never heard anyone disliking the reclaiming of the upside down triangles.

So I forgot about Saidit and haven't been on in awhile. Have I missed out on anything here in s/Lesbians? Or just same old? by Jaded in Lesbians

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I end up forgetting about SaidIt too, and then go through a ton of threads catching up on what I missed once I remember again. I still browse Reddit so I miss having TL there.

Do we have a backup to saidit? by reluctant_commenter in LGBDropTheT

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I know some communities who moved here have backups on Ruppus, not sure about this one

Halloween Plans? by Tarohan in Lesbians

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Virtual Zoom party with friends

Have you seen Yaniv's new Twitter profile pic? by ekitten in GenderCritical

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It's a heavily edited, black and white beauty portrait. Here's a direct link:

https://pbs.twimg.com/profile_images/1214583324691165186/vilR7dxO_400x400.jpg

RGB has died by ekb88 in GenderCritical

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Your house burning down analogy is exactly how I feel whenever I see pro-Trump users on here.

A thought - mourning Ruth Bader Ginsburg, instrumental in the words "On The Basis of Sex" - has given us an opportunity to bring up gender ideology - so let's use it! by BEB in GenderCritical

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Where have you seen this? Out of curiosity I was on the r/trans and r/transgender threads about her death the other day and everyone seemed sad there.

What did you do today to Peak Trans another person? by BEB in GenderCritical

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100% without a doubt

[Spoilers] Saving Face (2004) — Film of the Week by piylot in Lesbians

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The Half of It, to me, is more about the friendship with the guy than the romance with the girl, but I still super enjoyed it.

It’s good to see women finally standing up to TIMs who say things like this... look at comments by [deleted] in GenderCritical

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Sounds like they received some backlash in the comments (not creating an account to read them), the same user posted a response video to those comments here:
https://www.tiktok.com/@spam.adea/video/6873278787883257089
And here:
https://www.tiktok.com/@spam.adea/video/6873280665866079490
And finally here:
https://www.tiktok.com/@spam.adea/video/6873290322575723777

[Penis News] Native American Two Spirit person becomes the first openly transgender official elected in the state of Maine by ArthnoldManacatsaman in GenderCritical

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For what it's worth, it's a tiny school district. This person received 155 votes. Runners up received 145, 122, 111, 89, 82, 51, and 31 votes each.

Edit: from their Instagram they just seem like an effeminate indigenous gay man who does drag and art, which cool, good for them! Is non-binary considered the same thing as trans? I don't think I understand non-binary at all.

[Penis News] Native American Two Spirit person becomes the first openly transgender official elected in the state of Maine by ArthnoldManacatsaman in GenderCritical

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Board members decide the otherall direction of a school district. Hire superintendents, approve budget / set spending priorities, approve curriculum / textbooks, decide school closures, stuff like that. The degree of power and responsibility really depends on the size of the district.

In this case the Passamaquoddy Indian Township Reservation only has like 700 people so it's a tiny tiny school district.

Giggle, the female only dating app, has added a dating feature. by 11mile_house in Lesbians

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After looking it up, seems you have to take a picture of your face and an AI program determines your sex. If it doesn't tag you as female the app team can review the photo (they said this happens to females 1 in 500 times). And if a male slips through you can report them.

What's wrong with being a gold star lesbian? by Gynephile in Lesbians

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Nothing, as long as you don't use it in a mean way. Which I've never heard of happening (I'm sure someone has somewhere, I mostly hear it used as a joke).

Would you guys vote for... Trump? by joy1090 in LGBDropTheT

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I'm pretty pessimistic about our future regardless of who wins the presidency. I miss how Obama being elected made me feel - yknow, actually having hope.

Would you guys vote for... Trump? by joy1090 in LGBDropTheT

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Agreed. I'm actually really surprised by some of the comments in here.

Would you guys vote for... Trump? by joy1090 in LGBDropTheT

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I legitimately have family moving to Canada if Trump is re-elected. (They already have dual US/Canadian citizenship but haven't lived in Canada in decades).

Would you guys vote for... Trump? by joy1090 in LGBDropTheT

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^ this 100%

Would you guys vote for... Trump? by joy1090 in LGBDropTheT

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Absolutely not. I'm not a fan of Biden but I'm still voting solid blue. Trans stuff has zero influence on politics for me, there's so many more important issues to worry about.

The Democrats' Priorities! (one guess what's on top...) by BEB in LGBDropTheT

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I'm voting solid blue in November but the order of priorities on this graphic still made me roll my eyes.

Anyway, make sure your voters registration is up to date and turn your ballot in early!

"You wouldn't even know the difference!" (More unscientific nonsense aimed at lesbians in order to coerce them into sleeping with trans women) by TarshishJupiter in LGBDropTheT

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"ActuallyNotLesbians" was such a good sub. I mostly lurked, but it gave people a much needed outlet to complain

Selfless bi woman advises lesbians to be nice to MTFs who surprise them with pulling out a dick before sex, because ''frustration is guaranteed'' when you have sex with men, lol by a_blue_bird in LGBDropTheT

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That's probably why that user added the part about taking rejections politely without demanding an explaination, because you're right, people absolutely push for one.

"You wouldn't even know the difference!" (More unscientific nonsense aimed at lesbians in order to coerce them into sleeping with trans women) by TarshishJupiter in LGBDropTheT

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Yep. There were a few comments that were like "a trans woman with a penis can still go down on you" and a really graphic one about prostates (user deleted that one pretty quick) that pissed me off.

I happen to LIKE bringing another woman pleasure, I don't care as much whether I receive anything in return (I'm dating someone with trauma that means she can't always return the favor, which I don't mind). I'm a gay woman. I like vaginas. I want nothing to do with prostates.

Selfless bi woman advises lesbians to be nice to MTFs who surprise them with pulling out a dick before sex, because ''frustration is guaranteed'' when you have sex with men, lol by a_blue_bird in LGBDropTheT

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That whole post was a disaster to witness. The bottom two comments in this screenshot weren't the only bad ones, the whole post got 200+ comments before getting locked.

quick edit - here's another post with screenshots from that same thread https://saidit.net/s/LGBDropTheT/comments/6dfn/you_wouldnt_even_know_the_difference_more/

My rapist has come out as trans (possible tw...) by Lilithe in GenderCritical

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Just take care of yourself, unfortunately not much you can do other than vent. Not having control over his actions towards others is probably going to make you feel worse, it might bring up some old emotions, so do what you need to feel safe. I don't use SaidIt super frequently but I'll leave it up for a little while tonight in case you need to talk or vent or whatever.

(Not a survivor myself, I've just been alongside someone who is and I've helped her through a lot of things. From talking to detectives to researching therapists). RAINN has lots of resources.

Do you treat women who you find out are lesbians differently? by RedditHatesLesbians in Lesbians

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I feel way more kinship with other lesbians. I'm generally a pretty quiet and shy person, but I'll open up if I suspect a stranger might be gay. Way more helpful and friendly with them.

Back in my old retail job days in college, helping a lesbian couple pick out stuff for their house (hardware store) always brightened my day.

I feel safer around other lesbians and am more protective of them, they're my tribe even if they're a stranger. For example, one time a woman who pinged my gaydar got off the bus at the same stop as me. She and two men got off via the front door, I used the back door. I was keeping an eye on her the whole way we walked just on the off chance she might need help or protection. (The dudes got really close to her, but they ended up just walking faster and went around her).

It's not that I wouldn't help "straight-passing" women, but I'm just more aware of women who seem like they're my people. Otherwise I tend to kinda zone out and be lost in my head, listening to earbuds or something.

[Spoilers Inside] But I'm A Cheerleader (1999) Discussion Thread by piylot in Lesbians

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This was one of the first gay movies I was introduced to and loved, it's so campy.

[Spoilers Inside] But I'm A Cheerleader (1999) Discussion Thread by piylot in Lesbians

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Right?? I don't think I found out she was straight until after Orange is the New Black. Blew my mind.

She has better chemistry with the ladies than Ruby Rose for goodness sake.

Mods, do you have enough Ovarit invites for all of us? by southpaw in Lesbians

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I'm super curious what the sub is that's getting banned (sounds like they don't want it mentioned in comments, so maybe PM me if someone knows what happened). I know this site can get pretty toxic outside of our little gay bubble so I never bother browsing around.

EDIT: Nevermind found context: https://saidit.net/s/SaidIt/comments/65k1/we_are_being_forced_by_our_server_company_to/nzrd

if you could have any super power, what would it be? by [deleted] in Lesbians

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I've watched enough Umbrella Academy recently to think this might be a bad idea hah

if you could have any super power, what would it be? by [deleted] in Lesbians

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If Buffy the Vampire Slayer taught me anything, it's that mass mind reading is a dangerous and potentially overwhelming power.

Is anyone else always surprised by their period? by reluctant_commenter in Lesbians

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Yes! I even have a period tracking app. "Why am I horny, why am I craving all the salty food, why am I breaking out, why am I depressed, why did I cry suddenly."

After a few days of that (or my girlfriend saying I'm probably close) I'll check my period app and go "oh.. it says I'm a couple days away from starting.."

EDIT - welp... 6 days after my initial comment, my period started and took me more by surprise than it has in quite a while. Middle of the night too! I saw signs, but was so confident it couldn't be that.

The Amish Keep to Themselves. And They’re Hiding a Horrifying Secret by Lady_Montgomery in GenderCritical

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Good article, thank you for sharing.

I also know even without raping siblings they have a huge problem with a shallow gene pool due to how tight knit the communities are. Years of inbreeding, frequently having to marry a cousin, causes a lot of birth defects. Example includes a higher than average rate of deafness. If I remember correctly all Amish communities can trace their ancestry back to just 200 people.

Also their farming techniques frequently don't meet EPA guidelines and the ground water around their farms are usually very polluted.

[meta] anyone else is disturbed by the kind of people on saidit? should we move somewhere else? by temp_d in Lesbians

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Yeeeah, even just s/memes is a disaster. Random comment thread about women I came across within 2 minutes of poking around there: https://saidit.net/s/memes/comments/5tto/feeling_liberated/mo8a

At least 24% of the thread posters on r/actuallesbians are male and 56% of the moderators are also male by strictly in LGBDropTheT

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I remember they've done a couple demographic studies before, but this is the first one (that I've noticed) in a few years.

At least 24% of the thread posters on r/actuallesbians are male and 56% of the moderators are also male by strictly in LGBDropTheT

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Maybe, but there also could be people who troll the sub and select trans when they're not. I think statistically it'll be a wash by the end of the day?

There was one commenter who got upset about the trans or cis question and refused to take the survey because of it, but they got heavily downvoted.

At least 24% of the thread posters on r/actuallesbians are male and 56% of the moderators are also male by strictly in LGBDropTheT

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The mods there are running a demographics survey right now. I'm curious what the results look like after they're posted.

American LGB (and allies): who will you vote for and why? by IAmSatan in LGBDropTheT

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I voted for Elizabeth Warren in the primaries, so I like her the best as a backup plan to Biden if something happens to him health-wise. But she might be better as senate majority leader.

My girlfriend voted for Kamala Harris in the primaries and a lot of people think she's a likely VP pick, but she might be better as attorney general.

I don't have a specific person in mind currently but I'm really curious when he'll announce his pick.

Edit - hey look, it's Kamala Harris afterall.

American LGB (and allies): who will you vote for and why? by IAmSatan in LGBDropTheT

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Fully agree with you. Honestly I'm not even thinking about gay rights this election. I'm far more concerned with the environment, protecting Roe v Wade, and RGB's health.

American LGB (and allies): who will you vote for and why? by IAmSatan in LGBDropTheT

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Biden, complete no-brainer.

He wasn't my pick in the primaries and I'm frustrated he's the Democrat candidate, but it is what it is at this point. When I cast my vote it won't be because I'm endorsing him as President, I'm endorsing the type of people he will be appointing. Cabinet members, advisers, judges, etc, that's what's important.

Maybe if I like his VP it'll make voting for him a little easier to swallow, but we gotta do what we gotta do.

Do you feel like it's ok for you to hit other women as a lesbian? by 3XP3NDABL3 in Lesbians

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What the fuck is this post

Lesbian Actually? by hatsofpotato in Lesbians

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/r/LesbianActually creators had personal beef with the top mods of /r/actuallesbians, which is why they split off. Disagreements with moderation style basically (AL is strict about no selfies and their top mods tend to remove things they personally disagree with). The sub that intentionally started with the goal of being a middle ground between AL and TL is /r/Actuallylesbian, but it's tiny.

Lesbian Actually? by hatsofpotato in Lesbians

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The creators of r/LesbianActually are former mods of /r/actuallesbians, and their whole thing is wanting limited moderation. They want the users to dictate the content, so that's why there's been a history of users having a little more freedom of speech. But it's also why there's been a huge influx in selfies.

It's essentially just AL with selfies and less moderation.