how can i best explain why a white man cannot identify as a black lesbian? by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Gender is a social category that is not based in heritage (women don't only give birth to women), not genetic (even if you don't count trans people, there are XY women and XX men)

While the male-determining gene (SRY) may not be located on the Y chromosome due to atypical development... how does this disprove that biological sex is not genetic?

Stop all the moral panic over drag queen story time. No, wait… by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Leave the kids alone. Just be a good role model and kids will look up to you on their own.

Could he be a he/they lesbian? 🤣 the mind boggles, it really does by Chocolatepudding in LGBDropTheT

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The past one-two years I’ve come more to terms with being gay and primarily liking men

Is that really something you have to come to terms with? Female people being attracted to men is very common.

It's a choice again, huh? by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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it's my choice to exclude the opposite sex [...] from my dating and shagging pool

Curious about your use of "choice" here.

I swear, if someone talked to me like that in real life... by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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internalized sex essentialism

The understanding that there are only 2 sexes? Or?

This little cultist is here to scare you into looking past your "tastes" and fucking straight women instead! by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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examine your tastes for influence from unconscious biases

If your sexual orientation could be influenced, no one would be gay. Society only pressures people to be attracted to the opposite sex.

Truth telling: Realized my AGP was just a way for me to justify not being homosexual by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Sounds like pseudo-science, but what do I know.

The unbearable wokeness of queering by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Seems like labeling yourself as woke is just an invitation for others to scrutinize you.

How can you say this when r/actuallesbians has probably more dicks than r/askgaybros? by CancelPower in LGBDropTheT

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And absolutely refused to deal with the fact that sometimes preferences are shaped by society.

In a post complaining that lesbians are not interested in male people. In this reality, society is telling women not to be with men.

The clown jumped out.

Look what you’re missing out on by being transphobic you silly silly cissies NSFW by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Are they going to have a temper tantrum if you at any point stop pretending it's real?

Now Taking Bets On The Next Pride Flag! by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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Oh god option 4.

I kind of don't hate this version of the BLM rainbow flag. I think the design of it gives the impression that it isn't made to be used as the official flag, but in the relevant context.

They could have done something similar with the trans flag, but no. We get that visual abomination.

Nash Romi strikes once again by CancelPower in LGBDropTheT

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Gays and lesbians also do things separate from one another, yes. There's no animosity or forced exclusion however, because we shockingly have the decency not to include ourselves in spaces that are not for us.

Miss Seahorse Regrets by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Haters will say it's photoshop.

As long as the current thing has a colour scheme, then it's good to go on the modern pride flag. by MarkJefferson in LGBDropTheT

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Any new thing added to the flag moves the conversation away from same-sex.

As long as the current thing has a colour scheme, then it's good to go on the modern pride flag. by MarkJefferson in LGBDropTheT

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Ukraine. Which is a nice sentiment, but uhh... feels misplaced?

Because no gay man ever disagrees with the gender cult by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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How often do they think that happens?

Redditor is triggered by real woman, dreams about committing violence against her. "She inflicts so much pain on me by making me feel ugly, worthless, and masculine sends me into a fucking rage." Pretty male reaction there, bud. by Chipit in LGBDropTheT

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My big awkward body that will never look feminine or attractive

You can still look feminine in relation to the common man, if that matters to you. I guess that won't be good enough.

Attractive is subjective. Chances are someone is already attracted to your body type.

8 outrageous things gay men say to women identifying as men by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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My dick is not a figment of my imagination. Last I checked, it worked fine. Sometimes it's not very big and other times I have to strap it on, but it's definitely real.

Oh, let me guess... you're really curious about my genitalia. Surprise, surprise.

I don't see the benefit in dating a person with whom you can't even reference their actual body. Wouldn't it be easier to go with a person you wouldn't have to walk on eggshells with? If having a sexual orientation ✨genital fetish✨ is an unforgivable sin to some people... why choose those people over others?

When you forget you're in public and accidentally say the quiet bit out loud by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Banning therapy to become comfortable as gay IS the pressure to live as straight.

English is not my first language, so I'm having difficulty in parsing this sentence. If someone could elaborate that would be kind.

According to this idiot, falling in love with someone who later goes trans means you were always whatever sexuality would have made you attracted to their new gender identity all along. Logic, what is it? by CleverFoolOfEarth in LGBDropTheT

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take that if you are married to [...] one that you thought was a woman

You're fucking gay. Get over it.

If you think it's somehow homophobic of me to say that

What a loon.

Look at this abomination. by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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Just use multiple flags. This is an eyesore.

I can’t believe it’s not satire by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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I'm mad at how well this applies.

Bigoted bi guys dare to have "genital preferences" when hot guy flashes his vulva at them by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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It's like they're blaming them for being surprised. Their profile stated that they were a man (I'm assuming they didn't have a face pic). Then they send unsolicited pics of their entire vajine. I'd be taken aback too.

I swear, those black transwomen must've been working in the shadows! by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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Who knew Karl Heinrich Ulrichs and Karl-Maria Kertbeny, grandfathers of the modern gay rights movement back in 1867, were secretly black transwomen all along?

QT+++++ disproportionately affected but guess who don’t get a mention by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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The ✨LGBTQ+ community✨ contains a large amount of men. If they're referring to bi women, say bi women.

But I don't actually know what they're trying to say here. The ✨community✨ is at higher risk of homelessness, which is a factor, but then why not just say homeless women?

EDIT: Replaced lesbians with bi women because of... logic.

When did "gender" and "sex" start having different meanings? by CancelPower in LGBDropTheT

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You can see that in action when people start talking about "sexuality" as being "who you have sex with" as opposed to "what sex you are attracted to."

I can't tell you how much I hate the former. Really messed with my head back when I was coming to terms with being gay.

What he said by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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I don't know about this person specifically, but... a person has no credibility if they advocate for transitioning in minors without being honest about both side effects, and the fact that it isn't appropriate in every case.

Magazine he's talking about is from only 9 years ago! Read the whole thread. by xandit in LGBDropTheT

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"Queer" and "LGBT" doesn't help. I'm beginning to value specificity more and more. If something relates to gay men, it should be natural to refer to it as such, not "2SLGBTQQIA+".

No organisation left uncaptured by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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I wear men's clothes because of the way my body is shaped... as a result of being male. I don't think dresses or skirts that accentuate my hips would be particularly flattering for me, for the same reason I don't try to highlight my breasts. I don't have that body shape.

Some parts of fashion are arbitrary and artificial (gender), some are a result of men and women being shaped differently (sex).

No organisation left uncaptured by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Most people do not have a gender identity. Most people don't have special requirements of how others are allowed to refer to them in third person (when they are not even present).

Is not wanting to have sex with trans people transphobic? I’m trans, here’s what I think. by Rage-Xion in LGBDropTheT

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People shouldn't be shamed for only being interested in one of the sexes, nor should they be shamed for not being into mixed sex characteristics.

I'm assuming most people who are interested in male people lose interest when those males have breast implants.

Heartstopper by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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I'm assuming it means there can be no conflict stemming from a character being gay, if they're not referenced as being gay.

On one hand I'm not opposed to skipping labels in media, since that tends to come across as cringe, as long as it's understood that the characters are indeed gay. It is undermined entirely when these supposed gay men date female people.

Heartstopper by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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It's the straight-girl-from-tumblr way of looking at gay people. Can't believe people thought it was well-written in any way.

Also, if the characters are around 14 years old, why are they acting like they're 8?

Oh, the affirmation she gets from those cis gays pursuing an hourglass figure by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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effeminate twink-ish guy

hyper masc top

Hard for me to take any of that seriously, lol. Both of those are just performances. The former for online attention (I assume, I don't know if the male hourglass is actually popular in the dating scene), the latter for... his father's approval, idk?

Oh, the affirmation she gets from those cis gays pursuing an hourglass figure by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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I call it mixed-sex characteristics. I'd assume most people who are attracted to men would prefer them without breast implants, for example.

Oh, the affirmation she gets from those cis gays pursuing an hourglass figure by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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I think that person was just looking for online attention, but whatever. Most gay men do gym training, not corset training.

Giga Chad Super Gay: You're a woman. by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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"The only good gay man is a straight one"

Woman says having a more difficult time catfishing men is having an impact on her emotional well-being. by julesburm1891 in LGBDropTheT

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She seems to acknowledge that the gay men she talks to on Grindr don't actually want any of what she has to offer. She should have the decency to delete the app instead of treating it as her personal gay zoo.

It's taken some work but we have reached peak victim by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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my gender is Queer as I'm both Intersex and Gender Non-Conforming

Neither of those relate to gender identity (or same-sex attraction). How do they make you ✨queer✨?

Another brave transwoman of color we are indebted too by xandit in LGBDropTheT

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Declassifying homosexuality as a mental illness is one milestone in same-sex history where the Americans were in fact first. We love to see it.

The struggle of coming out as a straight woman trapped in a straight woman's body by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Somehow deep down I knew I was queer even when I thought I was a straight cis woman.


I rejected any suggestion that I might be gay

You wouldn't have this inner turmoil if you understood that gay describes a homosexual person.

Pride is coming up, what's the most innocuous LGB quote I could have that wouldn't get me immediately kicked out? by hufflepuff-poet in LGBDropTheT

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I'd work in "same-sex" somewhere. That's what the activists cannot stand, but everyone else don't see a problem with.

'Gender affirming' surgeon admits children who undergo transition before puberty NEVER attain sexual satisfaction by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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I wonder if some do know. My child is acting what I think a gay person acts like - let's nip that in the bud.

Iddly Diddly, Strictly Dickly by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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People being repulsed by certain genitals isn't uncommon. While some gay men can be quite explicit about it, I imagine it's a type of bonding of shared experiences, and the expression of it is simply exaggerated.

But of course, some people take things we say so literally when they want to. I remember people making a huge stink about the term "gold star gay" some time ago, describing it as an exclusive club and something that determined your "worth in the community". It's really not that serious.

Psychotically homophobic (against males) in aleatory Ovarit topic by jamescherry in LGBDropTheT

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There is a reason why the harshest critic of gay men that are Republican yet also want to stomp on women's rights exist... and that is because he is still wearing his mask. ;)

It's a common theme for straight people in general to call very evil heterosexual men "secretly gay".

I've seen it too, and I hate it. People calling homophobic politicians like Mike Pence secretly gay. It feels like pushing the blame of homophobia onto gay people.

Don't miss out on a copy of Stonewall UK's 2022 Lesbian Visibility Calendar by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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✨Lesbian culture is so rich and diverse.✨

Extreme Homophobia on Ovarit (the norm) by stunaep in LGBDropTheT

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I have a hard time taking that as a personal offense, to be honest. I imagine they're referring to some bad experiences they've had, and not to every man on an individual level.

We need to listen to experts like this one - there is no such thing as same-sex attraction by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Right? If attraction based on gender refers to the self-identification of others, then how would you ever know? You would never be able to think a stranger looks attractive at a glance.

If attraction based on gender refers to the gender role(s) that a person may perform, then isn't that borderline offensive? This person wears the woman costume imposed by society, regardless of who they are, so therefore I'm attracted to them?

We need to listen to experts like this one - there is no such thing as same-sex attraction by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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If I happened to see a trans man that was somehow both my type and also could not be clocked as a woman (I know that I'm talking about unicorn, but let's roll with it), I'd probably experience some attraction. As soon as I find out that attractive man has a vagina, all of my attraction would be lost.

I think attraction is largely based on your assumptions of a person. When your assumption is proven wrong, it's natural to lose attraction, if you can even call it that in such an early stage.

Lesbian Visibility Day: L with the T by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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we chat to former Staff Pride Network Co-Chair and Trans & Non-Binary Officer Rosie about what lesbian visibility means to her

Does it matter what Rosie thinks about lesbian visibility? He's not a lesbian.

The problem of bisexual rhetorics being applied to homosexuals discussed on r/askgaybros by lazy-summer-god in LGBDropTheT

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If people spoke of their own experiences, we wouldn't have a problem. Saying that sexuality is fluid for everyone is quite offensive to us homosexuals.

Article about "anti-LGBTQ+ bills" with only a passing mention of anything concerning LGB by JulienMayfair in LGBDropTheT

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Frustrating. Specify the group you are referring to, in this case trans. ✨LGBTQ+✨ doesn't clue the reader in on who you are talking about.

A Solicitation for Participation in Pride -- All About Trans. Don't look for the word 'gay.' You won't find it. by JulienMayfair in LGBDropTheT

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How does this relate to or benefit homosexuals by the way?

use the bathroom matching their gender identity

Bathrooms are segregated by sex, not ✨gender identity✨. It's the reason why only one of the two have urinals, which only male people can utilize.

Those senile and transphobic elderly over 21 year olds on AGB by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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you would think that a community built off the backs of trans people and people of color

Source please. From what I can gather, modern gay activism started in Germany and Austria in the 1860s, and it was centered around homosexual men.

Introducing the new Martin Luther King by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Conversion therapy kills

The conversion therapy that same-sex attracted people go through is not the same thing as seeking out the underlying reason that a young person may want to transition. Conflating the two is appropriating the struggles of same-sex attracted people.

Eldena Doubleca5t: "dear lesbians, transwomen have never tried to force you to sleep with them, you're just being irrational" by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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The only time they acknowledge the problems of their community is when they deny that they exist.

All discussion and dissent must be silenced by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Here's the Irish Times article.

Some excerpts, but do read the article yourselves:

Sexual orientation and gender identity are very different things and they should not be conflated. Sexual orientation is the enduring pattern of romantic or sexual attraction to the opposite sex, your own sex or both. We know it is enduring because, among other evidence, we know gay conversion therapy does not work, and tragically many people took their own lives rather than live an outright lie.

Not everyone feels they possess a gender identity, but we all have a sexual orientation, another reason for not conflating the two.

The proposed wording of the Bill leaves therapists and clinicians unsure to what extent it is permissible to employ therapeutic interventions around a person’s gender identity. Gender dysphoria for example, may have many underlying causes not necessarily related to being transgender. If we explore this, will therapists find themselves accused of practising conversion therapy?

There has been a very sharp increase in adolescents presenting with gender dysphoria or gender questioning or simply identifying as trans, particularly in the last three years. Not all will go on to socially or medically transition, nor should they, as not all gender dysphoria means an underlying trans identity.

Gender-non-conforming behaviours in children may continue into adulthood, but such behaviours are not necessarily indicative of gender dysphoria and a need for treatment. Studies also consistently show an association between childhood gender dysphoria and homosexuality and bisexuality in adulthood. An important statistic to keep in mind is that of the “gender non-conforming” or gender-dysphoric children who go through the natural puberty related to their natal sex, approximately 70 per cent go on to realise they are gay, lesbian or bisexual. So, to affirm a 13 year old with recent gender dysphoria as “trans” when they are in fact gay could certainly leave therapists open to accusations of conversion therapy after the client has completed adolescence.

If therapists are fearful of accusations of “conversion” therapy, first the majority won’t work in the area of gender and, second, there will be no chance for gender-questioning clients of this age to explore or be challenged. No room for growth, no time for reflection or self-discovery. The result of which would be a rigidity most alien to both effective psychological therapy and every single child development model that has every existed. It is bad practice. As ethical therapists and clinicians, we should not support it.

Good points that need to be discussed. It would be interesting to hear what the genderqueer crowd's rebuttal would be, if they could ever hold a debate or form a coherent argument.

@BearPArtyNYC gets attacked for defending gay spaces from TRA activists by Hannibalboy93 in LGBDropTheT

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Because the real problem isn't individuals at all.

It's the ideology itself.

Ultimately, transgenderism holds that biological sex must give way to gender. And gender is the source of both women's status as inferior, and the stigmatization of same-sex attraction.

This is exactly it. Picking out individuals is pointless. If they all share the same ideology, that biological sex is to be erased and replaced with gender identity, which in turn wouldn't exist without the harmful expectations imposed upon women, then target the ideology. You can at least hold a debate that way.

I love how we just teach lies in school now by lunarstrain in LGBDropTheT

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Neither Pride nor the Stonewall riots are important enough to me that I would lie to invent heroes out of any of the people who were there. There were other milestones, both before and after, but why talk about those?

Once again, we're a stepping stone by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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The idea that we are all in one big community is a joke. The same-sex-attracted side can't relate to the gender identity side, and vice versa. There isn't a characteristic that all members have in common.

If we were considered separately this wouldn't be a problem; conversion therapy based on sexual orientation should be banned, and the bill shouldn't be pulled just because it is unrelated to this other group.

Dragging us down with them by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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Would going to a therapist to seek out the underlying reason that a young person may want to transition (which can be many things mind you), constitute as trans conversion therapy?

Can we just redefine "transphobia" the way they redefine words for their own purpose? by JohnWhy in LGBDropTheT

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I mean... you get called transphobic for breathing whilst homosexual.

Either the word is used when it doesn't apply.

Or the word really refers to a person who won't undergo conversion therapy for the whims of strangers. In which case the word has no weight behind it since it applies to everyone.

Straight woman choosing to wear a dress to her wedding is suddenly a “queer” issue. by julesburm1891 in LGBDropTheT

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When I searched for “queer wedding,” I found images of happy, nontraditional ceremonies: husbands hugging, wives kissing. Many of them were masculine-feminine couples. [...] It is beautiful, sure, but it was more of the same: male/female, masculine/feminine, and suit/gown. I couldn’t envision myself in those roles. My sense of being the odd one out intensified.

Imagine being this obsessed with gender stereotypes that you think everyone around you is performing gender to the extent that you are.

Pondering who the wo/man in a same-sex relationship is says a lot about you, Claire.

Same-sex attraction is degeneracy, says a 'he/his, queer cis gay boy' by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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A lack of repeated exposure makes it difficult for straight society to empathize with us. Most people don't seek us out to engage with us or our issues.

But everyone has a gay cousin. Same-sex attracted people being less afraid to share their lives and experiences with their families does have a positive impact.

wasn't meant to be

Nothing is meant to be. We are able to influence how society views us.

You get to be a lesbian and you get to be a lesbian and YOU get to be a lesbian... by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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I don’t mind my breast but if I have top surgery in the future

I would recommend not removing parts of your body unless medically necessary. This person has no problem with having breasts, but still may remove them in the future?

"Lesbian" who's "dealing with CompHet" is jealous of coming out experiences. by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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Another person who goes from being attracted to the opposite sex, to being attracted to the opposite sex. Groundbreaking.

Feeling so invalidated as a demibinary genitoromantic quasihomosexual - where's MY day of remembrance? by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Is that a Harry Potter spell?

All lesbians gone in 3... 2... 1... by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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Dumb question, but are trans users more lucrative for them or something? With this post and the other one, they seem quite hostile to their lesbian userbase. Is there an economic reason that they're alienating their larger demographic, instead of avoiding to comment and taking on an "everyone is welcome" approach?

Brown-nosing to the fullest by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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Wow, that's embarrassing.

HEARTBREAKING: American Gender Folx Are Dropping Like Flies Because Selfish Gays and Bis Say No by lunarstrain in LGBDropTheT

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No, homosexuals are not going to undergo conversion therapy for you. Gays and lesbians are not the ones committing violence against trans people. Stop blaming us.

Explaining LGBTQ+ to people by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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There are two sexes. Society has different expectations of people, based on which of the sexes they are. The term gender historically either referred to these two sets of expectations, or as a synonym for the two sexes when the word sex could be misinterpreted or deemed inappropriate.

The 85 genders refers to... what exactly?

That's not how it works??? by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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Opposite-sex relationships don't need us to highlight them. They're doing quite fine at the moment.

Is there any popular site on the net that hasn't degraded into a far-left echo chamber that eliminates all dissent? It's downright dystopian to not even be allowed to civilly disagree. by JohnWhy in LGBDropTheT

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If you want to vent about anything in general, be best places for that are:

  • Saidit (right here)

This is exactly what I do. Reddit for gaming or whatever, and whenever I see something that frustrates me, I come here.

Reposted by request - Oscar winner is first person of alphabet to win Academy Award by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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"person of alphabet" stoppp

Leave. Bisexuals. Alone. Sincerely, a lesbian ally by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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There seems to be some overlap between being attracted to trans people, and being trans yourself. Men attracted to transwomen are more likely to experience autogynephilia themselves, than those who are not. Cambridge article | Wikipedia paragraph

A whole lotta gobbledygook by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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Thank you. They always gloss over this part.

Why words need nonwoke definitions by CleverFoolOfEarth in LGBDropTheT

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If you start off with two whack statements, of course your conclusion is going to be whack.

The slackers we got stuck with for the group project with aren't pleased with us doing all the work and getting them a passing grade by spanishprofanity in LGBDropTheT

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The same-sex attracted community is very different from the trans/gender/queer community, including in what they wish to accomplish (and what they demand from strangers).

The idea that all minority communities have the same goals and ideologies is very strange to me. A few of them would love for homosexuality to not exist at all.

Single. You're single. by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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I'm basically aro until I make a relationship/bond/connection with someone

I was under the assumption that aro meant you didn't have romantic connections with people. This person doesn't have romantic connections with people... until they have a romantic connection with them? What?

Masculine Gay & Bi Men Gaslighting Feminine Gay Men to believe they are Trans? by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

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I would try not to internalize that. Some men are going to dismiss you for being feminine, whether their justification is that they don't like male femininity, or that they try to "explain you away" with calling you trans, it's the same thing in the end.

I think this is a riddle by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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Interesting to note that men attracted to transwomen are more likely to experience autogynephilia themselves, than those who are not. Cambridge article | Wikipedia paragraph

Little research done on the transman counterpart, however.

Advice on dealing with the insanity of the queer movement. by notmuchunique in LGBDropTheT

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I think people mean well. As condescending as it sounds, when people promote ideology that is ultimately not in the best interests of women, same-sex attracted people, or children, I think that they genuinely haven't thought of how it can affect others.

When people bring up transitioning as "being your true self", it's easy to get people on board. But when you bring up transitioning for children, how the methodology is not scientific, and how gender non-conformity in children is often not permanent and a sign of something other than gender identity, you'd make a lot of people uncomfortable.

Hear, hear! There's a new perfect emoji for gay bottoms! 🤰 by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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I mean... just use the 🍑 or ⬇️ emojis?

On the dangers of coming out as LGBTIQQAAXYZWTF by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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an aro ace-spec demigirl

The comedy of this sentence aside... she's on the "ace spectrum", so she has sex or experiences sexual attraction sometimes. But who is she attracted to?

The problem with putting the "a spectrum" in the same category as homo/bi/heterosexuality is that you don't actually describe which people this person is attracted to, in whatever way she is. It'd be much more clear if she described herself as a heterosexual (I'm assuming) who is not interested in relationships, with a low libido.

I don't know how LGB people can watch a video like this and still go along with gender ideology. by xandit in LGBDropTheT

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Gender ideology is framed as more progressive; this person clearly feels enlightened and is ready to preach.

Same-sex attracted people need to consider what they can relate to, and what is actually beneficial for them.

If gender is on a spectrum

"Gender" in this context is arbitrary and pointless. There are infinitely many ways to express yourself, and infinitely many words to use to describe yourself. This isn't profound.

then homosexuality doesn't really exist

Sexual orientation, including homosexuality, is based on biological sex. Biological sex exists even for people with gender identities.

And this is why I don't go on Twitter myself and leave it for other rubes to take the screenshots. Too much stupid. by CleverFoolOfEarth in LGBDropTheT

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it's a bad look to equate manhood with penises

They're relating manhood to being male. A penis is a result of normal development whilst male.

Minds being lost over Florida bill by JulienMayfair in LGBDropTheT

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(gay children don’t exist)

More and more, I'm starting to think this is true. [...] Sexual orientation requires sexual desire and feelings and an ability to process that

While I didn't know I was gay at the time, or what gay was, I remember being very interested in the older boys when I was in 3rd grade (so around 8–9 I guess). And showing no such interest in the girls. I don't think sexual desire is the only component of being same-sex attracted, all I wanted was a hug.

Tucking for trans toddlers by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Being friends is queer y'all by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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"It isn't arbitrary" killed me.

Everyone is a menace! by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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They say out loud that they're not into dick... and you think they're joking? The narcissism.

You just can't compliment people without being attracted to them! by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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What a juvenile idea of sexuality/attraction.

Teaching activities for preschoolers on exploring their sexuality and gender identity by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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They really thought they did something.

"they are obsessed with dick", "d*ck lovers should just call themselves d*ck lovers instead of calling themselves gay" by motss-pb in LGBDropTheT

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Superstraight and Supergay existed for a moment. I guess those are not dehumanising enough. They really want you to feel shame for being a homosexual.

No one's fully gay or straight, folks!!!! by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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Maybe this confusion is why you got so upset.

That's quite condescending.

No one's fully gay or straight, folks!!!! by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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Is this in response to what I wrote?


No one's fully gay or straight, folks!!!! by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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I wish bisexual and bicurious people would just stick to speaking on behalf of their own community. Your understanding of your own sexuality changing doesn't mean the sexuality of everyone else is up for debate. Telling homosexuals we don't actually know our own lived experiences is very condescending.

No one's fully gay or straight, folks!!!! by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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it starts to feel strange to put men in categories based on this aspect of personality

"Gay" doesn't describe a personality type... it describes exclusive same-sex attraction.

No one's fully gay or straight, folks!!!! by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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Some truth to it, for you.

Queerty complains about gay liking "cis" men by Rage-Xion in LGBDropTheT

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Clearly they aren't claiming to actually be speaking for every gay person. (cough every gay male is exclusively interested in other males though cough)

Some sanity is coming to Sweden by justagaydude123 in LGBDropTheT

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You may have gotten a skewed view of Sweden. Most of the TRA stuff was only supported by default, or "because it's the right thing to do". If you were to bring up specific points of how TRA activism actually manifests, you would get a lot more dissent.