Masterful virtue signalling- but skirt still go spinny by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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I don't get how this is racism. Race has nothing to do with the earlier poster's statement. They were just saying that outside of Western Europe, countries tend to be more conservative and restrictive when it comes to gender, which is the reality of the situation, regardless of the ethnic or racial background these people have. You don't agree with this statement?

I don't know by lolwhat in LGBDropTheT

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I agree about your best solution, but if there's no other speaker on the behalf of LGB people except radicals, well... I'm not really interested in that. But I wonder if that's really the case ?

Being radical usually does get the public's notice, and it usually brings about change. Imagine if LGBs just let the police walk over them and didn't fight the unfair laws against homosexuality and homosexual acts? Where would we be now?

I don't know by lolwhat in LGBDropTheT

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I just think this sub is full of childish people...Most of the time

Then why do you stay and reply to these so-called childish people? Please, use your time more wisely if that's indeed the case.

Masterful virtue signalling- but skirt still go spinny by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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As someone who has family in Eastern Europe, I kinda agree that gender roles are extremely strict, especially when the country (Serbia in this case) is highly religious and traditional. Can't speak for the rest of non-Western Europe, but family friends from neighbouring countries are about the same in regards to gender roles and responsibilities.

So I found this little piece of hypocritical garbage being an official in-game object (The Sims 4) by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

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And why is everyone in the picture grossly overweight?

Dude won’t feel complete until he gives birth. Shockingly can’t find a boyfriend either, so sad. by EveSerpent in LGBDropTheT

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The worst part is that a functioning uterus will be wasted on a man, when it could be given to a woman who has some chance of it working in her body.

How was your experience as a gay or bi person in high school? by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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"Escape to the Country...with your City Boyfriend"

How was your experience as a gay or bi person in high school? by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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There's a reason why fag hag exists as a term. Straight women can be extremely predatory towards gay men, and it's difficult to get rid of them simply because men aren't believed/are ridiculed when they say women are harassing them.

How was your experience as a gay or bi person in high school? by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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  1. Would you consider that your experience was positive or negative overall? Why?

I didn't realise I was a lesbian until the start of university, mostly because I went to an all girl's school, had very limited to no contact with guys my age and didn't have a friendship group that talked about guys (even though all of them are straight, there was one lesbian acquaintance who was openly lesbian). So I'd say positive only because of the absence of homophobia.

  1. Do you feel like you missed out on certain things because you were gay or bi? If so, which things? (ex: dating, lack of friends because of bullying/not being able to relate/etc etc)

I feel I missed out on pursuing girls at an earlier age, especially since I'd convinced myself that I was straight and should be interested in guys. I only realised later that I only liked men on an aesthetic level (as in 'that man looks handsome aesthetically) and if any of them flirted or got close to me, I felt physically repulsed.

  1. How do you feel being gay/bi has impacted you as a person? (On a positive side for example, do you feel you became a more open minded and non judgemental person? On a negative side, do you feel you became a more anxious person? Etc etc)

As an adult, I don't mind listening to girl friends talking about their boyfriends (I love gossip and drama, shoot me), but I'm glad I have a friendship circle that accepts and embraces me as I am and will happily listen to me talking about women. Positively, I'm glad I don't have to worry about 'finding Mr Right', considering the reputation straight men have when it comes to expectations, behaviour, etc. Negatively, it's incredibly difficult to find a woman who a) actually is lesbian or bi, not just faking for attention/bicurious, and b) one that's not embroiled in TQ nonsense. Considering there's such a tiny percentage of lesbians, it's a bit disheartening. I've recently found a perfect match, but she's into TQ stuff, which can make things difficult.

  1. Do you feel like it's important for you to have other gay friends or is it indifferent?

Yes, if they're not into TQ stuff. I have an old friend who's bi, but she believes bi means attraction to two or more genders so I'll leave it at that. My straight friends are far more reasonable, thankfully, so if anything, I'd prefer straight friends.

This image is painful because of its uncompromising accuracy. by SexualityCritical in LGBDropTheT

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The B looks somewhat irritated, even though they're being used for a ton of TQ exceptions and excuses which harm them and monosexuals.

Sure, Jan. by julesburm1891 in LGBDropTheT

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Not to mention the lack of gendered definite (and indefinite) articles/words/verbs in the English language makes it easier to hijack and change, whereas in something like Serbian, everything is gendered to the point that some tenses would sound bizarre if you had a man saying he was wearing something but using the female past tense for third person: On je nosio vs On je nosila (it's usually 'ona je nosila' for women). Not sure if it's the case in Italian?

"'I’m not attracted to trans people' is based on the idea that you actually CAN exclude trans folks from your dating pool, and you absolutely positively can’t" by ThrowMeAway2879 in LGBDropTheT

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Thou shalt worship the lady appendage and masculine alternate entrance

Good: fuck each others and leave real lesbians alone by Elvira95 in LGBDropTheT

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Don't worry, we know you guys aren't into that mix n match shit. That's not saying they aren't some, but it's a very annoying vocal minority that insist you are.

Good: fuck each others and leave real lesbians alone by Elvira95 in LGBDropTheT

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Also if only the entire world was bi catered to our fetish so we didn't have to worry about being trans ending relationships fucking over our partners and kids.

Fixed that for them.

Saying out loud what we already knew by DiveBarDiva in LGBDropTheT

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This almost plays like a speech he's making before he Buffalo Bills a 'pretty girl' that he wants to be, not be with.

My pain condensed for amusement by julesburm1891 in LGBDropTheT

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That was a really good read. I remember the Jackson controversy, and one thing they didn't mention was how authors had to 'come out' to prove that they were #ownvoices writers, as was the case with Becky Albertalli.

My pain condensed for amusement by julesburm1891 in LGBDropTheT

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My favourite was the (essentially) master/slave yaoi fanfic Docile that was published by Tor because it was written by a 'gay' trans man.

My pain condensed for amusement by julesburm1891 in LGBDropTheT

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I keep coming across propaganda books for teens and YA, and it's really sickening. The name escapes me now (something with perfect in the title) but there's a book that's just come out about a lesbian who plays Romeo in a school play, but the thing is...she actually feels like a Romeo rather than a Juliet. The cover has some pretty insidious messages too, because the way the character is drawn is straight up male, even though she hasn't had any hormones, surgery, zilch. Playing male roles in plays ≠ being trans actually.

My friends are f*ggots and do are you by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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But you can't call them out on it until everything falls through, and then they can always say that they thought they were X or Y, but turns out...

My fellow "cis" gay men, let us fulfil this Aeydyn's dream and be utterly insufferable by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Why does the 'man' look like an utterly miserable Freddie Mercury? It should be the happiest experience of his life.

Conservative media The Daily Wire runs article about elementary school children being given access to sexually complicit content at school -- and adds a rainbow flag as its article image by reluctant_commenter in LGBDropTheT

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Because that's why Grindr exists. To help you avoid gay men in your vicinity and nothing else 👀

Only women like these truly understand the nature of being lesbian by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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It's because women's boundaries are never respected by society men - especially lesbians not by men who call themselves lesbians. Lesbian means you're a woman who loves women.

Fixed it.

My friends are f*ggots and do are you by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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I'd say it's definitely more laziness, but there might be those who are completely aware that it's an act and they don't have to do much to get woke points, or at least go to the extremes some go to.

Meanwhile in Tasmania - lesbian events without men are unlawful by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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I haven't been down there yet, but I can imagine you'd have to go out of your way to find the backwater parts, maybe in the mountains?

Meanwhile in Tasmania - lesbian events without men are unlawful by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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A study just came out where they found that about half of Tasmania's population is illiterate and their income is about 26 percent under the national average, making them the poorest state. Maybe not backward, but not forward either.

Gaslight harder... by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

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If we call jellyfish fish but they're not actually fish, then everything else is fair game.

My friends are f*ggots and do are you by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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I was wondering how old her friends were.

My friends are f*ggots and do are you by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Or have any lasting effects if the tide turns and they eventually go back to being straight woman, which they will.

"He" sees your hypocrisy, you tiddiephobic cis gays by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Probably because they're often very much under the radar (autistic women don't always fit the model of autism since the criteria was made based on the observation of autistic men and boys) and they're more likely to be gender non-conforming due to the nature of restrictiveness and discomfort that women's clothing and footwear have. For what it's worth, I bought into the whole TQ bullshit when it was first gaining speed, thinking I was genderfluid because I would wear more masculine clothing some days and more feminine clothing other days.

Thankfully I changed my mind, but I worry for the autistic women who gain an obsessive interest in TQ ideology and buy into it wholeheartedly, knowing how difficult and nigh impossible it is to change a special (or obsessive) interest. (I apologise for the essay length response :/)

Can We Not? by julesburm1891 in LGBDropTheT

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And we have to understand that neither group is always going to agree or disagree with everything that's said, hell, every individual has different views and feelings, and that's perfectly fine as long as everything is kept civil and not finger-pointy.

Take your hole pills you stupid f*gs by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Nah, it'd give them gender euphoria 🤢

"He" sees your hypocrisy, you tiddiephobic cis gays by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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I'd say 9/10 people who say they've got autism are self-diagnosers, especially if they're a bit socially awkward (but not to the extent that would be considered pervasive and affecting their life in a variety of aspects). I can certainly pick out autistic people when people watching IRL, but it's pretty hard to tell over still images/text, or without seeing their entire body's language, not just their face.

Some Discussion Questions for You Guys by Horror-Swordfish in LGBDropTheT

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That doesn't negate my point. Are you trying to say people of colour can't be racist because white people are really racist in that specific case?

Some Discussion Questions for You Guys by Horror-Swordfish in LGBDropTheT

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Ah, that explains a few things.

Some Discussion Questions for You Guys by Horror-Swordfish in LGBDropTheT

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They're clearly fine with LGB if they're useful, but won't let them marry legally and adopt. Hopefully you guys are little better off and not as Orthodox Christian focused? (I'm not over in Serbia right now, but I've been quite a few times and hear from family over there)

"He" sees your hypocrisy, you tiddiephobic cis gays by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Because diversity is celebrated to the point where people want to be minorities, so they pick minority traits that they can fake. Race isn't that easy to fake, so they fake disabilities instead.

Some Discussion Questions for You Guys by Horror-Swordfish in LGBDropTheT

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Everyone seems to forget Rwanda these days, even though it was relatively recent.

Some Discussion Questions for You Guys by Horror-Swordfish in LGBDropTheT

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Most people are racist to some degree, not just white people.

My lesbian friend is now trans and is trying to convince me that I am too by SillyGoose in LGBDropTheT

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They don't deserve to know that about her. They'll treat her poorly regardless because she doesn't fit the straight mould.

Some Discussion Questions for You Guys by Horror-Swordfish in LGBDropTheT

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People still think homosexuality is a mental illness. I can't tell my family in Serbia that I'm a lesbian because about 60% of the population still think it's an illness. So it's not as recent as 30-40 years. It's still going on, even in western countries.

Did your special affliction make the cut? by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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what

LGBT...D??? by WildApples in LGBDropTheT

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Because most media and events portray being gay as a 24 hour party, and straight people want in on that. What they don't realise is that being lesbian or gay (or same sex bi) is the same as being straight, except for the homophobia and the fact that we can't reproduce with the same sex.

The "lesbian" dream - uhhh… by Rag3 in LGBDropTheT

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Animation in general is more attractive to autistic people, exactly because smaller gestures/expressions are more obvious and expressive than real life. I'm personally obsessed with good quality/fluid animation in anime, so the expressions and over the top nature does nothing for me. I harbour some doubt that there are as many autistic trans people as people claim there are, though. Often they're socially awkward (but not pervasively so) self diagnosers who act 'autistic' (i.e. read about it and start applying that to their own behaviour) and say they are, but don't actually meet the criteria for it.

There are, on the other hand, many people who are on the spectrum and are gender non-conforming due to the lack of awareness/caring for gender expectations/presentation (I fall under this category), and as a result, many are convinced by peers, parents, psychologists or by online circles/forums that they're trans, and once an autistic person has a special (obsessive) interest in something, it's very difficult to change their mind. Becoming trans also allows them to feel like they belong somewhere, since the trans community is notorious for being inclusive and welcoming (so long as you don't desist).

Did your special affliction make the cut? by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Is maverique being sexually attracted to the volleyball scene in Top Gun?

The "lesbian" dream - uhhh… by Rag3 in LGBDropTheT

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From that alone, you realise it's a male fantasy. That's probably what guys thought women did in the 50s.

The "lesbian" dream - uhhh… by Rag3 in LGBDropTheT

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Because anime has a ton of fetishisation in the shows themselves, outside of being fetishists by fans. You're not as likely to see panty shots and harems and horny antics in western media. Not to mention the entire subgenre of "cute girls doing cute things" that usually has underage teenage girls as main characters which get fetishised to all hell.

The "lesbian" dream - uhhh… by Rag3 in LGBDropTheT

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Just a reminder these characters are 15-16

Cis people cannot be trusted with any leeway by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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So you're telling me a "gay" transwoman wouldn't be disappointed if the lesbian she wanted to sleep with had a penis. Got it.

I don't think you can have a "community" based both on sex-based attraction and gender identity by JulienMayfair in LGBDropTheT

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It didn't help that straight women used them as a place to get away from those pesky heterosexual men...without caring about the fact that LGB need a space away from heterosexuals too.

I don't think you can have a "community" based both on sex-based attraction and gender identity by JulienMayfair in LGBDropTheT

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"You need to suck the cockadoodie girl dick!"

B in LG spaces dilemma by lazy-summer-god in LGBDropTheT

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Yep

B in LG spaces dilemma by lazy-summer-god in LGBDropTheT

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Well said.

B in LG spaces dilemma by lazy-summer-god in LGBDropTheT

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Don't waste your time with him. He's a troll and keeps making alts.

B in LG spaces dilemma by lazy-summer-god in LGBDropTheT

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I had a friend who used called herself 'gay' around her parents because she said it was easier than to explain to them that she identifies as one of the flavours of LGBTQ+++++.

B in LG spaces dilemma by lazy-summer-god in LGBDropTheT

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Lesbians barely experience actual, real homophobia

Gee, if I didn't know you better, I'd say you have a hatred of lack of understanding of bisexuals and lesbians

B in LG spaces dilemma by lazy-summer-god in LGBDropTheT

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I'd say invisibility/erasure might be due to the extreme variety that bisexuals come in when it comes to attractions. It's not often that it's an even split or 50/50 male female attraction, and then there's sheer numbers against you. You're more likely to find a straight/bi man as a woman and a straight/bi woman as a man, even though you're attracted to some degree to both.

That's not to say there aren't bi people who overstate their attraction to the same sex. I have a friend who talked about how 'gay' she was (she's bi), and how much she adores women, but she has only once had a brief relationship with a woman (like a few days before they broke up) and never tried to find dates with other women, despite her insistence that she's more attracted to women. She's in a relationship with a man, but still insists she's more attracted to women. Yes, I know numbers are not on her side, but she has not shown any interest in looking for women on dating sites or trying to meet them through groups/meetups. You can see why sometime people might mistake bisexuals for just straight people, especially if they've known them for years.

B in LG spaces dilemma by lazy-summer-god in LGBDropTheT

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I think it's more of an issue when bisexual people on gay or lesbian subs don't state that they're bi, and then say that they're also attracted to the opposite sex. They know they're bi, but other people don't, and it gives the impression that gay men/lesbians might be capable or willing to be with the opposite sex, which isn't the case.

Is the word "homosexual" a slur, like GLAAD and TQs say? Should it not be used because "it's offensive" or "it's clinical"? by Fastandthecurious in LGBDropTheT

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Queer has always been an insult. Queer means strange, not normal, weird. Gay has been used as an insult but at its root, it means happy/joyous. That's why it can be reclaimed.

Homosexual is clinical, but why isn't heterosexual also considered clinical and offensive? Is it because it hasn't been used with derision, because that seems to be the case these days. Also I weirdly find homosexual non-offensive if it's said with four syllables rather than five, if that makes sense?

Is the word "homosexual" a slur, like GLAAD and TQs say? Should it not be used because "it's offensive" or "it's clinical"? by Fastandthecurious in LGBDropTheT

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It stops us from pursuing the wrong person. If I know a woman is straight, I won't waste my time flirting with her. Easy as that. Not that it stops some people, but most people are reasonable.

Is the word "homosexual" a slur, like GLAAD and TQs say? Should it not be used because "it's offensive" or "it's clinical"? by Fastandthecurious in LGBDropTheT

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As a rule, try to avoid labeling an activity, emotion or relationship gay, lesbian, or bisexual unless you would call the same activity, emotion or relationship "straight" if engaged in by someone of another orientation. In most cases, your readers, viewers or listeners will be able to discern people's sexes and/or orientations through the names of the parties involved, your depictions of their relationships, and your use of pronouns.

Except this isn't the case anymore. When pronouns are contradictory, biological sex doesn't exist, and label/orientations are increasingly idiotic/gender based, you have to use homosexual because there is no other option.

For example: Chris and Jess are a couple. One uses they/him pronouns, the other uses just they/them. Good luck.

"Lesbian bottom" happy for first time with transbian by Elvira95 in LGBDropTheT

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Maybe they identify as clothing?

Beware the Queer Wave by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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But we've already got queer T.

Beware the Queer Wave by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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I wonder why 💭

How to undo half a century of hard slog to improve the lives of LGB people by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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People also tend to conflate gay with gender woo woo, or people use gay as shorthand for 'sexual and gender minorities'. I used to have a friend who was getting into gender identity politics, and she used to tell her parents she was gay even though she was not really interested in anyone, simply because it was easier to explain. She said this to me, a lesbian, who had told her time and time again how much it bothers me that people use the wrong labels for their own convenience (bisexual women using lesbian, etc).

"Lesbian bottom" happy for first time with transbian by Elvira95 in LGBDropTheT

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Nobody was going to love these creeps for their body, let alone their personality, so they made an entire movement where you're a bigot and monster if you even think about rejecting them.

Words that straight people don't know by RedJackal in LGBDropTheT

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Pretty sure having sex with your own clone falls under the masturbation banner???

How to undo half a century of hard slog to improve the lives of LGB people by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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This is clearly meant to be facetious, but they did not account for how many people would take it literally. And now gay people have to pay the price for this fun little stunt.

It took way too long to reach this comment.

It's soooooooo awkward by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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I though that was Fred Armisen for a second.

Trans ppl got offended and banned a group for lesbians for not allowing d!ck in their spaces. by theytookourjerbs in LGBDropTheT

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But they were discriminating against a gender minority by simply existing. Completely legal to shut them down.

Hitler snubbed by the Stonewall Pride reception by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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"Hitler threw the first brick at the Berlin Wall!"

"But Hitler was dead before it-"

"Stfu terf!"

Hitler snubbed by the Stonewall Pride reception by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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"it's peoplesplain, sir. I use they/them pronouns"

The Handmaid's Tale by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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And it worked.

She’s no longer penis repulsed! Unlearn your genital preferences transphobes. by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Thank you!

The Six Million Dollar Nebularomantic DemiMan by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Ah, gotcha. That does make a bit more sense, if that's the case for her.

She’s no longer penis repulsed! Unlearn your genital preferences transphobes. by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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What book was that?

The passage of a moral beliefs health care bill in Ohio is entirely the fault of transphobic cunts on /r/AGB by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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They remove the trappings of racism and colonization by wrapping themselves in the garb of non-white races and rolling around the floor to remove the colonization. If they roll around fast enough, their brains might roll out of their skulls, as God intended 🙏

Lol, I dunno. They assume everything exists due to colonisation, including gender and sex, so who knows what they mean.

The passage of a moral beliefs health care bill in Ohio is entirely the fault of transphobic cunts on /r/AGB by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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I think their rights would be perfectly fine if they didn't encroach and endanger the rights of others. Gay rights didn't affect anyone except for gay people, trans rights affect everyone.

Do gay men lust after straight women. If not, why not? by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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The response to that was perfect:

With nutrition you say, well that changes everything...

Do gay men lust after straight women. If not, why not? by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Yikes, some comments. Look, as a guy who isn't exactly curious or excited about the idea of sex with a trans guy, I just don't get why some of you have to be so aggressive and insensitive. You can just say "no" smh. Sometimes I wonder if most people on this sub are like 35+ and from conservative areas or something?

This comment screams FTM.

TFW you stay at home a little too long and suddenly your whole ass sexuality changes by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

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I finished off craft projects, but things have been pretty relaxed here since mid-July last year, so I didn't have a lot of time on my hands outside of uni and work.

TFW you stay at home a little too long and suddenly your whole ass sexuality changes by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

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The problem is that people will do this shit and grow out of it in a few years and go back to being boring. But everything will likely be blamed on LGB and we'll take the brunt of the backlash and acceptance will be at an all time low.

We Made It! by julesburm1891 in LGBDropTheT

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There's always the possibility that other countries will start promoting trans athletes in the hopes that they'll appear both woke and have a fighting chance in the next Olympics.

We Made It! by julesburm1891 in LGBDropTheT

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I think people will start peaking when Laurel starts sweeping all of the events he's in, especially since other countries will have sent actual women to represent them.

Pride is "kicking out T**FS that try to crash the party because there is no community without trans magic" by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Wouldn't it be WAB in her case?

You SIR are no lesbian by DiveBarDiva in LGBDropTheT

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This is almost a Louis C K situation, where he's openly saying how much he hates women and sends them dick pics, but everyone thinks it's an act.

Lesbians at Paris Pride intimidated & attacked by trans-identified males (video) by BEB in LGBDropTheT

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Didn't one of the major Pride parades ban the police recently?

Is the B in LGBTQ Being Erased? (PSYCHOLOGY TODAY article) by BEB in LGBDropTheT

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The argument you could try is that while you're more attracted to women, you're statistically more likely to find a heterosexual/bisexual male partner than a bisexual female/lesbian partner. But don't waste your breath on them. They don't deserve it.

Please just delete us altogether from this insulting abomination by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Don't you know that white is racist by default????

Remember, "lesbian" is just a porn category... - Coca-Cola criticised for banning the word ‘lesbian’ on customisable Pride bottles by reluctant_commenter in LGBDropTheT

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Now all I can think of is a guy with a tight skirt and cropped tee with a beer gut drinking from a coke bottle with lesbian on the label, making the cheers motion at women who pass by.

French lesbians drop the T at Paris pride! by louisa_emythox in LGBDropTheT

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You missed the best slogan:

Cock + skirt ≠ lesbian

Woman Rightfully Goes Off After Seeing A Man Exposing Himself In Front Of Little Girls At A Spa! by Palpatine in LGBDropTheT

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But he was protecting a 'woman'

Even gay furries are not safe from genital preferences policing by the genderosexuals by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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And why the infantile language? Man parts doesn't have that special underage flavour, I guess.

Even r/dinosaurs isn't safe from virtue signalling by TumbleweedFireflies in LGBDropTheT

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That's often the analogy I use when people say that gender reassignment helps people.

"Don't forget that in its day, the invention of the lobotomy won the Nobel Prize and was seen as a safe and helpful procedure for mental health conditions and, in the case of the Kennedy daughter, teenage willfulness."

Woman Rightfully Goes Off After Seeing A Man Exposing Himself In Front Of Little Girls At A Spa! by Palpatine in LGBDropTheT

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I don't think she has a point about gay men seeing a naked woman. Yes, they wouldn't like it, but it makes the implication that only lesbians wouldn't welcome a penis bearer in a same sex spa dressing room. Most women don't appreciate penis bearers in their same sex spaces. It's not the best argument, imo.

The Czech president sure has opinions: "I can understand gays, lesbians [...] But do you know who I do not understand at all? These transgender people." by LeoneOkada in LGBDropTheT

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I think they meant sex, but because that's a no-no word in TRA circles, they put sexuality, which makes no sense.

Even r/dinosaurs isn't safe from virtue signalling by TumbleweedFireflies in LGBDropTheT

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No gay dinosaurs?

Should I talk to my sister-in-law about this stuff? by justagaydude123 in LGBDropTheT

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I think mentioning the pedophiles might be a step too far in the 'conspiracy nut' range. Yes, it is true in many aspects, but LGB is still squarely attached to T, which can bring up unfortunate implications, especially since gay men are still seen as predatory by many.

Prominent pioneering transgender activist explains how the T targeted the gay rights movement for infiltration (2015 New York Times interview) by BEB in LGBDropTheT

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No, the best thing to do is ruin it for everyone even though you weren't keen on coming in on Sundays anyway.

Thoughts on Luca (movie)? by julesburm1891 in LGBDropTheT

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They only call it queerbaiting because nobody seems to understand that male platonic friendship does not equal romance if they're not bro-y dudes.

Thoughts on Luca (movie)? by julesburm1891 in LGBDropTheT

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Out of all of Pixar's 24 movies, only two have a single female protagonist or two primary female leads. The rest are male leads, with a few cases of male/female duos.