Anyone else have extremely good luck finding other bisexuals?

submitted by usehername from self.Bisexuals

That's all. It's been a few years now, but any time I was interested in a girl, she turned out to be bi, and there was a bi guy who called himself gay who was interested in me. I have a male partner now and he's also bi. None of these people came out beforehand and some of them are still closeted. I was not out for a lot of this, so it's not like closeted people thought they were "safer" from my rejection, and I was always the one who initiated.

For a while, I wondered whether we just sensed something in each other lol, a bi-dar of some kind. But now I think that bisexuality is much more common than is generally understood. I feel like if you're really interested in someone and you establish a good connection with them and they feel safe with you, more often than not, they'll be interested. And obviously there are people who are exclusively homosexual or heterosexual, but a lot of the people who think they're straight are not.

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[–]DiveBarDiva 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I feel like half the people I know are bi. I go to a lot of music festivals and I’ve made long lasting friends with people I meet there. maybe festivals draw in a certain subset of people. I have a crush on one of the girls who camps with us.. but I’m married and she’s seeing someone. In another life I would have really wanted to date her. My partner is bi. When I make new friends they end up telling me they are bi. Maybe I attract a certain type of person. I really don’t know what it is. I hang out with some gays and lesbians also. So I really couldn’t say.

[–]PriestTheyCalledHim 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes but two of my longest partnerships/relationships have been with other bisexual men. There is a 3rd bisexual man I am considering dating but he has yet to take any covid vaccines and we live in an area with a super high population and many people have or have had covid.I am vaccinated.

[–]PatsyStone 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

No

[–]usehername[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Why do you think this happened then? Luck? Or do you think there's some kind of subconscious bi-dar?

[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Nope. I try to connect with bi women online.

Last bi woman I had a friend just was a horrible person, horrible friend and perpetuated all the stereotypes of bi women. Most bi women are into gender ideology which makes it 10000+ harder to connect with.

[–]wendyokoopa1 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I too had a bi friend many years ago. She wasn't into the gender stuff she was just a stubborn toxic idiot.

[–]clitoriana 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I don't think I have a bi-dar (I've seen it called "bi-fi" haha!) but somehow I always end up getting along well with bisexual co-workers. I only know they're bi because they randomly told me. I guess they felt comfortable enough around me to discuss it. I took all this to mean that we bis are quite common, and that extraverted people feel like they can tell me their business because I don't gossip or start drama in the workplace, so that's why they told me about being bi. I love chatting with other bisexuals, we're all so different but it's still fun to shoot the shit. Once, I even had a mini crush on a bi woman I worked with AND her husband (they worked in different departments). They were both cute. I couldn't help myself! 😂