The other day, Radicalwhirl wrote that:
Most men and women deserve and complement each other.
https://saidit.net/s/BlackPillFeminism/comments/74vw/the_extreme_male_brain_and_the_extreme_female/
This reminded me of a scene in a comedy movie in which a therapist tells a couple that hates each other that they deserve each other. Upon which both of them get angry at the therapist. And this really is how it is.
In a way, one could go even further by saying that toxic masculinity and toxic femininity "complement each other." That doesn't necessarily mean that they are equal from a moral standpoint: women being pathetic, stupid, and gullible do not cause as much harm as men being sadistic psychopaths, driven by a desire to rape and kill. But from a systemic standpoint, they absolutely do complement each other and they do work in accordance with each other. It's not just other men who are gatekeepers of masculinity. Women (with their obsession over "real" men) are at least equally important when it comes to gatekeeping masculinity.
Women loving men and women hating men for all the wrong reasons are two sides of the same coin. After having spent some time in various feminist circles, I have reached a point at which I find women hating men for all the wrong reasons (when they are not sufficiently "masculine", gender non-conforming, bisexual, sexually undominant, etc.) just as cringe as women loving men up to a point of self-denial and self-destructiveness.
Looking at this from the perspective of an outsider (a lesbian woman), I have come to the regrettable conclusion, that one of the most common talking points in misogynist circles is absolutely correct. And by this talking point, I mean the notion that what women say they want and what they actually want are two completely different things. Even more: that while they are saying all kinds of woke BS, they deeply despise any kind of gender non-conformity in men and are almost exclusively attracted to the hyper-masculine. Feminism is nothing but a love/hate Daddy issue relationship they have with and towards tall, straight, white, blond, bearded Daddydom types. Or tall, straight, black, bearded Daddydom types. At least that's the tendency.
I have stopped participating in r/GenderCritical long before it was banned because I have repeatedly come across posts from women hating on bisexual men ... for being bisexual. Not because they were men - but because they were not 100% heterosexual, lol. This is an example of what I mean, an example for women loving their "masculine" men (their husbands, boyfriends, sons, etc.) while hating on men for the most cringe BS reasons. And because these women were exclusively focusing on a minority of transsexual men while continuing to love their masculine husbands, boyfriends, and sons. (Which reminds me of anti-Islamic right-wing communities. Not that I have any sympathies for Islam and for Islamic men - but why would I want to be part of a community that exclusively focuses on a group of men that is a minority in the West [and often bombed and murdered in the Middle East] while worshiping men of "their" race and religion?)
KT commented in the thread above that she considers women who do not want to be sexually dominated by men another sexual minority. Which is an interesting take. In a way, lesbian women, asexual women, sexually dominant women, and women who simply have no interest in that type of masculinity might be like the four sexual minorities who, together, form a TINY niche of "outliers" who, right now, can take nothing but what the description of the sub here says:
Take the Black Pill, sit back, and enjoy the ride to hell.
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