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[–]adungitit 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Far more people are bi and openly so nowadays than they were 15 years ago.

I didn't mean to come off as offended by you complaining about men objectifying you, I just hate that objectification and submission to men are seen as such an essential and natural part of a woman's life that she's not ever allowed to take issue with it or even notice it, or she's labelled as an oppressor of men, religious fundamentalist, a feminazi and/or a transphobe. Meanwhile, trans people can freely talk about every little minutia of what makes them feel bad and dehumanised and everyone is supposed to bend over backwards to validate them. It makes me livid when the same trans people who tell women how privileged they are for being female try to sell any misogyny and fetishisation that they experience (both the bit that male trans people experience, and the permanent effects of misogyny in female trans people's lives) as "transphobia" and demand special treatment for it because they feel so entitled to validation and everyone walking on eggshells around them that sexism simply shouldn't apply to someone as special as them. Oh boo-hoo.

[–]peakingatthemomentTranssexual (natal male), HSTS 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I hear what you are saying and it makes sense to me. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

[–]adungitit 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I want to clarify that my issue isn't with any trans person expressing their frustration, but with how tone-deaf and frequently wilfully ignorant it can be when combined with telling women how privileged they are for being women.

[–]peakingatthemomentTranssexual (natal male), HSTS 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You are right. Even for me, the things I’ve been through because of transness are so miniscule compare to what I’ve been through because of “female appearing-ness.” I don’t even deal with all of it either. When it comes to sexual violence, I never have to fear pregnancy the way a female would in the same situation. Many other things are different too. Saying it is privileged to be a woman is just misogynistic nonsense.