This "friend" came out to me last year that he was going to transition from male to female. I, of course, showed support because he is an adult and can make his own decisions regarding his life. As recently as a few days ago, I said I support his use of female pronouns and names, because that's what friends do, right?
Shortly thereafter, he started sending our group texts of him in caked on make up, making gross duck faces in his selfies, and asking how he looked. Again, I tried to be supportive of him because I'm sure this was a tough time for him. But the "fishing for compliments" pictures never stopped. So I started offering suggestions on how to take better pictures (have the light behind the camera so you don't look washed out, that's basic stuff!) and he would snap back at me.
He confided in me how happy he was to be growing breasts. I have large breasts so I would joke about how lucky he was so have small breasts. He would retort about how lucky I was to have had breasts all this time, like I won some kind of lottery? Lol
But I noticed last month that he would fly off the handle if anyone made any kind of remark about LGB or trans issues and how personally attacked he felt. It came to a head today, when our friends were texting about how women's clothes don't often have pockets. He said he wanted yoga pants with pickets so he could go running.
I used to do hot yoga before the pandemic, and I know that yoga pants are the worst thing to wear when you get hot and sweaty. So I told him that. He shoots back, saying I'm mansplaining clothing and exercise to him.
So I lost my mind. I told him mansplaining is when a man explains a women's issue to a woman. Yoga pants are NOT a women's issue. And saying that is insulting, and he clearly doesn't understand women's issues at all.
He called me a TERF, and I ended our friendship. The fact that he could not see how misogynistic that comment was really tipped me over the edge. And I'm honestly not upset about losing this friendship, because he was always my husband's friend first.
But it just boggles my mind that he claimed a woman was mansplaining to a TIM. It's just insane to me how deluded he truly is. That Kool-aid must taste real good if he's consumed so much of it.
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