I posted this to a comment when someone else mentioned why a wig would make a difference, and I had to think about that, and a few thoughts came to mind. Sadly, it all got erased because I clicked somewhere else on the screen, so I thought I would make a post.

I want a serious chat about this, whether you have an education which is formal or not.

I think this needs to be written about.

I mentioned in another post a friend of a friend who admitted to me when I asked him why as a dom who hits women into bdsm, he wears dresses, heels, make up, and goes full cross dressing. He stated the first time he went to a party convention type thing as a male in male garb women thought him creepy and did not want him to touch them, but he got the idea that he would make women more comfortable if he dressed like one. And it worked. They flocked to him, and have for over a decade now.

I have a varied education—many flavors of different disciplines.

This is going to tie in a few different things.

Dr Daniel Brown, among other Psychologists have talked about the internal maps and schemas in which we operate. To bring things down to street level, if we talk about internal working maps, lets start with a cat. Say you are two or three, however old you are and the first animal you see is a cat. Except you do not know it is a cat, but your Mom teaches you the word cat. The word cat is now in your brain and it is tied to features—fur, four legs, whiskers, etc. The next animal you see is a dog, except you do not know it is a dog, your brain sees it, and evaluates it against the working map it has, and your brain says, “cat!” but your mom says, “no that’s a dog.” You are a bit confused, because that really looks like the cat you saw, but it has some differences, so you keep running into different animals, and your internal working maps are becoming quite detailed and able to differentiate between differences not just in cats, but types of cats, and types of dogs based on shape of snout, coat markings, size, etc.

And one day you get bit by a dog, and your amygdala now becomes involved, and you now have a fear response associated with your internal working of what a dog is. You might have terrible panic attacks around dogs for a time, but cats still make you a bit jumpy too. Your emotions and that amygdala are now tied to those internal working maps, and if you see a dog again, your amygdala goes for the fastest route, scanning all available maps for information and making a snap second or less decision—is this thing in front of me safe?

Now let’s talk about emotions. You have emotions tied into your maps which are tied into your HPA axis and many different areas—we would have to talk about this for weeks if not a month to really dive deep in, but this is how people develop PTSD—say soldiers in war time getting extreme panic over fireworks or a car engine backfiring. Their internal working maps have been sullied even with this one instant.

On the flip side, you can have no bad experiences, and the majority of your internal working maps are not tainted.

Females. Females have different internal working maps than men. We process trauma differently. We have differences in the way we do that, not just due to estrogen in the blood, and taking a cross sex hormone is not going to change all that is. We also have society pressure, and how we have boundaries violated, many of us, regardless of situation. People who call themselves empaths or HSP—you had trauma and a blurring of boundaries, that is fact (see Jasmin Cori book on Emotionally absent mother) and why you have this fine tuning to please people, let people runover you, and think you can feel others, it is because you had to for your own survival, whether it be in your upbringing in your home or in an abusive relationship where you walked on egg shells. On the flip side, they were NOT attuned to you and did not provide your needs. I remember when I learned about this my mind was blown.

Females are also more compassionate. We are by biology and by grooming of society, and we are also made to feel more, feel the pain of others, do the emotional labor, and accept things no male would accept—ever.

The reasons I believe females are accepting TWAW and the TiMs in our bathrooms and spaces, those who do, have the combination of those things going on, and their internal workings show that a wig means safe. Long hair means safe. Is not a male. Make excuses. It is OK, this person went through a tough life. Turn on the empathy. Boundaries blurred. Empaths accept the trans. Must have a reason why they are like that. Must feel pity, and so on.

Pretty certain, without doing anything more than sitting at my desk the last few minutes thinking about it, that there is some truth to that.

The reason why that dom guy decided to start being a CD to abuse women in BDSM is because of the combo of those things—internal working maps of believing women are safer, especially when they present in a more stereotypical feminine way—full makeup, long nails, dress, and jewelry, and to play the submissive, while going off those maps, not wanting to rock the boat, and having their boundaries violated. All those women that have let this male beat them up because he put on a wig and a dress, he took advantage of them. He took advantage of their enmeshment, their inner working maps, their blurred lines, their attunement to pleasing men, and to having their boundaries violated because it is safer to be around these males.

Point of fact, lots of people are complaining that a male with a beard calling himself trans is “not as accepted” as someone in a wig, or at least who is, “trying”

Please correct me, argue back, and provide additional info! I am game.

Over 60% of all women have been violated. Over 80% harassed by males. I am curious what others think. I am trying to find peer review articles and am coming up short on any investigation into why this is.

Edit: words/grammar