TiM calls himself a "bitch"

submitted by herecomesthesass from self.GenderCritical

I live in the LGBT dorm at a university with a very liberal attitude. I'm bi, and I tend to keep to myself because I find the loud, tumblresque "uwu smoll heckin bean" brand of gay to be very annoying

My RA wanted to put together a group chat for everyone in the building, but a TiM messaged him saying that he and some friends already had one. So we all joined it

The TiM was annoying, and frankly, rude (Particularly towards my lesbian rommate when she asked a question) in many ways. But one thing that I thought was funny was how he constantly insisted that he was "pretentious." It was funny because NOBODY else was even acknowledging it when he said it and nobody led on that they thought that, but he wanted to be perceived that way so badly for some reason. Something less funny was how he called himself a "bitch." I already don't like it when people use that word, even women referring to themselves or their friends, but it bothered me even more to see a TiM using it. I don't know how to put it into words, but I'm sure you all understand how I feel. It's like he grew up and was socialized male, saw female oppression, and was somehow attracted to it and said "Yes THIS is what I want to experience. This is living life as a woman"

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[–]Killer_Danish 25 insightful - 3 fun25 insightful - 2 fun26 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

Men like that TiM are akin to poverty tourists. Remember Common People by Pulp? The rich woman in the song glamorizes what it must be like to live among the poor and do as they do... because she can always go back to her privileged life afterward.

[–]anonymale 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

'Cause everybody hates a tourist

Especially one who who thinks it's all such a laugh

Fun fact: William Shatner "sings" on this storming cover of Common People (fan video).

Like a dog lying in a corner

They will bite you and never warn you

Look out, they'll tear your insides out

[–]Poppy29252 15 insightful - 4 fun15 insightful - 3 fun16 insightful - 4 fun -  (1 child)

My favorite is seeing them call themselves "butch dykes."

I can't even decide what's more disgusting. Men acting and dressing like misogynistic caricatures and calling themselves "women," or men just growing their hair long and wearing slightly tighter clothes and calling themselves "butch dykes."

[–]shveya 10 insightful - 3 fun10 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Lol I did a search on reddit once for the term “high femme”, because I had a suspicion that there would be loads of men calling themselves that. I got a bingo!

[–]MezozoicGay 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Haven't you heard? Calling yourself as a "whore" and as a "bitch" is empowering to women. Libfems are ridiculous.

[–]jkfinn 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The "b" word is used in different ways, and one is "b" in the sense of being an owned sexy number of a arrogant or macho womanizer. So, I suppose this too is a kind of transgressive excitement fantasized by some MtF trans.

[–]unexpectedly_local 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I know you don't like it, but you can recognize a very different contextual tone when a woman calls herself a bitch vs when she calls her friends bitches vs 90% of the way men say bitch especially to a woman (I hope this makes sense). I would also feel bothered by a transwoman using that very male way of saying bitch.

[–]reluctant_commenter 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

"uwu smoll heckin bean" brand of gay to be very annoying

Is that where these words come from? I heard that stuff in college and was bewildered as to why people kept saying this weird cutesy-sounding stuff. It really bothers me, too. How the fuck did it even start..?

[–]Comatoast 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Was it in a Merrill Bainbridge kind of way? Women in the 90s were proudly wearing shirts with the word all over it. It was at flea markets everywhere.

[–]herecomesthesass[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I'm sorry, I'm not sure what you mean :0

[–]Comatoast 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Pffft. Shit, it was Meredith Brooks. I'm in my 30s, and the 90s were a very different time with the same ugly tapered leg pants.

https://youtu.be/_ivt_N2Zcts