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[–]WildApples 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This is the outrageous level of narcissistic entitlement that using pronouns just to be nice leads to. The object of the compliment does not get to dictate what kind of compliments others give. They are trying to control, not just the language people use (which is bad enough), but the very way people perceive the world around them. The sooner these people learn that no one gets to control how others experience the world, the happier they will be. So much of their frustration is borne of the unreasonable expectation that they have the power to micromanage other people’s realities.

[–]MarkTwainiac 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

If/when this insufferable narcissist's poor BF starts giving her the compliments she wants worded exactly as she insists, you can bet she'll immediately start complaining that he's not using the right tone of voice and that he doesn't seem sincere.

No, not like that. Say it like you really mean it. Put some oomph in it. Use some emotional elbow grease. Show some enthusiasm. Make me believe you.

[–]jjdub7Gay Male Guest Commentator 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This is the worst of what I’d imagine an insecure, needy girlfriend to be like in a straight relationship (of which of course this is). You shouldn’t need your man’s constant stream of validation to be secure in who you are…