Officially lost my best friend over gender theory

submitted by RealWomenResist from self.GenderCriticalUSA

She shared a post with the comment "read the caption". I did, and it was about 7 paragraphs of the usual gender nonsense, about how genitals do not equal sex. I would have just moved on (I know she's been a believer in basic trans stuff for a while), but then I saw the part about lesbians. How if lesbians have sex with strap ons, they should have no problem having sex with penises. And if you don't have sex with trans penis you're transphobic TERF.

As a woman who's attracted to men, I don't know what a strap on sex experience is like. But the tone was so violent, so shaming, telling women, lesbian women, what they were allowed to like or dislike in bed. So I replied to my friend (privately) that I was sorry, but I couldn't stand that part.

She went on to angrily and dismissively tell me I missed the whole point about mot gendering genitals and that lesbians aren't only interested in sex with women, duh.

I told her that yes, I AM confused because I must have never known the definition of lesbian to begin with.

And that appears to be the end of that friendship. I can't respect how deep in the la la land she is, and she thinks I'm an idiot bigot. I'm pretty heartbroken and feeling very alone.

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[–]bluetinfoilhat 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I am so sorry. It is weird how women will throw other women under the bus. Her post was homophobic. I would try joining radfem groups. They don't have to be political, just a way of meeting like minded women.

[–]TarshishJupiter 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That's awful. That's one of my fears - that I'll make a new friend just to find out that they'd reject me as their friend if they knew I held gender critical views. That's why I'm mostly quiet about my views. I don't know what I would have done in your situation, but I'm not sure I could have stayed silent there either.