First of all, dear God the template to create a post on this website is ugly.
Anyways, I think I am in need of some advice from my favorite group of level-headed lesbians.
My GF (28) and I (24) have been dating for 6 months now. Honestly it has been the best relationship I ever had, she has been there for me through the death of my mother a few months ago, is super kind, funny and very intelligent.
Before dating me she had a bit of a wild period where she had a few one-night stands and some flirting with girls. One of this girls was A, a friend of my gf's best friend. A and my GF were flirting a lot, planning to hook-up, but A had (and still has) a GF and they rejected my now GF. This was back in october.
Beginning of this month, my GF started playing soccer in a new football team where her group of 5 best friends play aswell. A was also interested in playing there. My GF told me she didn't want to see her and asked me numerous times how to act. I told her to be kind and cordial, after all, they are all adults.
I have always trusted my GF 200%. Despite being physically cheated on in my 2 previous relationships.
Anyway, long story short: I discovered on Sunday that she had been having conversations with A that were a bit too friendly. For exemple, my GF made a joke about how 'Maybe she should get a little bit closer with A', or how she was the only person she could talk for hours to, and my GF asked her to meet up.
The girl said it wasn't a good idea since they both have GF's and they said, 'You say you are in a happy relationship but here we are...'
It continued a bit like that.
When I found out and confronted my GF about this she told me that she had called the girl and told her they should stop talking. in the end I discovered she never did, she also told me her best friends try to set her up with A, despite both of them being in a relationship.
I admit that I freaked out a bit and that my reaction was very out of character, I contacted both the GF of A to let her know and the mutual friend to ask them if what my GF told them was true, she neither confirmed nor denied.
I found out my GF had been telling all her friends how she couldn't stop thinking about A etc. My GF explained me that in fact she wanted to take revenge on A by rejecting her the way A had rejected her back in October, but that she had never wanted anything with A.
Her friends have been 'bashing' and blaming me. They think it were only messages so it wasn't that bad, my GF blocked A but they think it's a bad idea to block A since this way 'My GF can't prove her loyalty to me', they also think I was in the wrong to talk to the mutual friend and that my GF should not be doing any efforts for me to get me back.
I just feel empty, my feelings are not the same anymore and I'm not sure what to think and if I'm overreacting?
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