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[–][deleted] 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Don’t change just to attract anyone because then it will be fake. I think it’s just how life is

[–][deleted] 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Aside from maximizing your profile's appeal (making sure you have good pictures, making sure your first picture is the best, writing a bio that is interesting or at least not off-putting), I don't know that there's much you can do. There's any number of reasons they might not be matching back ranging from genuinely uninterested to inactive profile.

From what I've heard from people who pay the fee to see who swiped right on them, those match numbers they show are usually from people outside of your age / distance range.

Also, if you're in an area heavily affected by the pandemic, I wouldn't sweat the disappointing return. I started up some profiles again in March / April-ish when I heard people were using dating apps to meet others, but that was NOT my experience. I got maybe a third or a fourth of the number of matches I had gotten in past iterations, and of those who matched, they were much less likely to message, and of those who messaged, it was much less likely to go anywhere and just resulted in boring in-app pen pal conversations that one of us would eventually give up on.

[–][deleted] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Put key words or phrases on your profile that will attract like minded people, or even pictures. I think Tinder allows you to choose interests now. Example: I used to have a picture of me dressed as Ash Ketchum and for some reason, I get lots of likes when I have it on my profile. I recently tried Tinder again and took it off - not as many. 🤷‍♀️

[–]endlesssummer[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Ooh thank you, I'll definitely look at my bio and add some key phrases. That Ash picture sounds fun!

[–]Rubyredpython 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

If you're able to send them a message or an intro, I would do that. Dating app filters are very weird and you might not show up for them but they might still like you. I've had a lot more success and connections on dating apps since I've started doing this. The opposite has also happened to me when someone who wasn't in my results messaged me and I liked them so we started talking.

[–]endlesssummer[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Definitely going to do this, thanks!

[–]beereadit 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Unpopular opinion but maybe lower your standards?

[–]endlesssummer[S] 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm looking for someone that will make me happy, and that I can make happy too. I'd rather be single than with someone who makes me unhappy, but thanks

[–]HelloMomo 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

There was this one girl I saw on an app once, and her profile picture was like her on a moor wearing a shawl. I was so in awe. I have not yet been able to do a wood-witch photoshoot of my own, so I cannot conform that this gets you more attention on apps. But I am quite confident that like 80% of lesbians, a wood-witch is all they want in a wife.