Can you pick up the energy of another girl who is into you? Are your inklings usually correct even before speaking to her?

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[–]TalerTest 9 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 2 fun -  (7 children)

I don't mean to mock, but assuming a strong connection with someone I've never even spoken to sounds a little stalker-ish. I've been intensely drawn to women before but that's all on me. If she keeps looking at me she's probably just thinking why does that woman keep staring at me? so it would be pretty bold to take stolen glances as a sign of romantic interest.

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 4 fun3 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 4 fun -  (1 child)

Loooooooooooooooooooolllllllllllll

Agreed.

[–]Spiritual_ 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

hahah yessssss!

[–]Spiritual_ 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (4 children)

Hm i guess just knowing that youll hit it off, then actually speaking with them and being correct about it. Just finding someone on the same frequency as you. I guess being an empath its easier for me to pick up on these things haha.

[–]RedditHatesLesbians 6 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 3 fun -  (3 children)

I always see people calling themselves empaths but what does it actually mean? What would non-empaths be? Sociopaths? Sorry if I sound ignorant, just something I've bumped into a lot but never bothered to look into.

[–]Spiritual_ 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

No need to be sorry, I can see how it can be confusing/weird especially if you don't experience it yourself. I pick up on other people's energy/feelings as if they are my own. I'm highly sensitive and even dislike going to overly crowded places like the mall for example, i just get so drained because I'm hyper aware of everyone's energy. There were a few times I picked up on others pain/energy who had cancer without them telling me and it made me instantly aware that i knew something was wrong. To put it simply, with some people I can just feel how theyre feeling.. I can see how my question seems stalker-ish which I'm guilty of looking at a crush's social media during the infatuation phase but once I realize doing such silly things is a waste of time and an invasion of privacy, I go on with my life and realize that I have to just flow with the universe and trust that is meant for me will come. And no I'm not a sociopath, but thanks for checking.. lol, I am in tune to other's feelings and understand where they're coming from down to a T.

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 5 fun3 insightful - 4 fun4 insightful - 5 fun -  (1 child)

Maybe you can use your powers to tell people who have cancer they have it so they don’t die. That would have helped some people i love who didn’t have any empaths around

[–]Spiritual_ 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

:/

[–]RedditHatesLesbians 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

This has never happened to me, sounds like something straight out of a Disney film though! I've definitely thought women were very attractive without ever speaking to them (duh) so maybe stared at them a little too obviously, but under those circumstances I've always just felt creepy. Not that it was being reciprocated.

[–]Spiritual_ 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

definitely creepy to just stare. but I mean if she is stealing furtive glances at you, it catches your eye, and you do it right back, is a fun little game to play but what sucks about being a gay girl is that probably no one is going to make the first move. I've had intense contact with someone but had to break it because I didn't want to be creepy and be that gay girl who is a predator with eye contact.

[–]begonia_skies 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

I have never developed a special love language with someone I have never spoken to before. I mean, when I was in my 20s and hanging out in the clubs/bars, yeah you can pretty much pick up if someone is into you by the way they are looking at you, but outside of that environment, I wouldn't pick up on something like that. I would probably be confused about why they were looking at me intensely.

[–]Spiritual_ 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I would never advise looking intensely at someone before meeting them or actually forming a connection just because that is creepy and would make someone incredibly uncomfortable quickly. Totally connect with what youre saying about picking up if someone is into you by the way they are looking at you, and that's pretty much what I meant by this post. I just think it's cool how most women are in tune with vibes and such, I've met a few men like this, mostly in hot yoga classes lol but it's really rare elsewhere.

[–]Lizzythelezzo 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

I think there is something to this, because I've never had a serious crush on someone who wasn't also interested in me. Of course I've swiped right on women on dating apps who didn't swipe right on me, but I've never had a serious crush who didn't return my feelings. That's not to say these women were always emotionally available, compatible, etc. But the feelings always seem to be mutual, so I think we both pick up on it. I've even had this happen through online groups where I barely interacted with the person, which is interesting.

[Edit] By the way, when I am saying women return my interest, I mean they actually take initiative to flirt, ask me out, tell me they like me, etc. I'm not reading into random glances across a room.

[–]Spiritual_ 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Yes!! like you're intuitive to how it could turn into something like an actual crush? When you pick up on such feelings and interest, do you sometimes initiate things as well? Or wait for the other person to do it?

[–]Lizzythelezzo 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Usually I've waited for the other person to initiate first, or until circumstances brought us together unexpectedly. I'd like to start being a bit more confident and take more initiative in future, though.

[–]Spiritual_ 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That's awesome that you have them coming to you though, hahaha that is a dream. And same, I'd like to just go for it but unfortunately overthinking ruins it for me. Trying to be more mindful.

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    [–]Spiritual_ 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

    This!!! yes know exactly what you mean, how did it turn out between you two? probably a passionate real relationship?

    [–]carrotcake 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    I guess your username says a lot, and since I'm not spiritual at all its impossible for me to think in terms of energy or before meeting strong connections. But like some people said, I have never been interested in women that weren't into women and I only had strong crushes on people that also felt the same for me. I feel like reciprocity plays a good part in my interest for people because if they're not into me at start I feel like a creep and loose interest easily. I can also usually tell if someone has a crush on me but I'd say it's because I'm fairly good at reading people. Nothing before speaking to someone.