I used to go to an ultra religious all girls camp. during the summers I was in camp I was very in denial about my sexuality. I knew I liked girls but I also thought it was something I'd outgrow
there was this one older staff member who was a creep. she would constantly harrass and kiss underage girls on the cheek to the extent that it was highly inappropriate.
my best friend was targeted by her. remember this was an ultra religious camp, so most of the girls were quite naive. however this friend of mine was even more naive than everyone else. in fact she was willfully ignorant. I've tried to tell her the bare minimum details about straight sex but she always got very upset and didn't want to hear it
when I was 17 there was another girl at camp that year who I was into, and the feeling was mutual. we didn't really do anything more intimate than briefly holding hands, but the vibe was very much there, and we'd always be flirting with each other. she once told me that she gets crushes on girls, and I told her that I also do but that I dont act on it
both of us noticed the situation with the older staff member being creepy towards our friend. I think the fact that we were both lesbians helped us see the bullshit, because everyone was really sheltered and they were not aware of the existence of same sex attraction, so they didn't see the inappropriateness for what it was. we told the owner of the camp about it but she didn't do anything concrete to stop it. I still feel guilty that we didn't do more to stop it, however we did what we thought was best with the power that we thought we had
I haven't really been able to keep in touch with my friend for various reasons. however I know that if I try to rekindle the relationship with my friend it wouldn't work. a few months ago I called her house, her sister answered the phone and said that she'd call me back, but she never did. I'm fully out of the closet and she is probably still willfully ignorant about sex and sexuality. I'm pretty sure that her close mindedness is a coping mechanism for her, I have a hunch that she was also sexually abused by her older brother, and I wouldn't want to deal with the consequences of forcing her out of being naive. especially of she found out what lesbianism is and figured out that I'm a lesbian, she would probably really be creeped out and wouldn't want to be friends with me anymore. and I wouldn't blame her, after all her only exposure to female same sex attraction was being sexually abused by an older woman. we were very good friends, and I really miss her but the whole situation is way too complicated. it sucks that I cant be friends with her anymore because of my sexuality
tl;dr: my formerly close friend was sexually abused by an older woman, and I can't really be friends with her anymore because she'd be creeped out if she knew I'm a lesbian
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