strap-on nowadays isn’t inherently lesbophobic, but rather the expectation or belief that this is or should be the main/cornerstone lesbian sex act is.

I don’t disagree. That was exactly what I was saying. The only thing I think is off is this “nowadays”. Strap on IS a expectation and belief of how sex should be. Not nowadays but always. That’s the point. This belief doesn’t come in a vacuum. Even if done now with complete lack of awareness from those who do it, is still the same old lesbophobia. Just the fact that this is even a thing is already lesbophobic. It’s obvious that is a expectation thing, most women, including heterosexuals, do not orgasm from penetration. The most important thing to female sexual pleasure, in humans, is placed in the vulva ;) hehe. The clitoris’ back is only a few cm of the vagina’s entry, and it’s in the vagina “ceiling”. The best way to stimulate it is with fingers, not penis. A penis can’t do that ‘come here’ move/gesture that fingers can, I guess lol. Strap on was created to make up that lack of real penis, that was supposedly necessary to women’s sexual pleasure and sex itself, but a penis isn’t necessary for women’s orgasm to begin with. Even for straight women. There’s plenty of straight woman on internet asking why they can’t orgasm through penetration, what’s wrong with them. And straight men asking why their wife/gf can’t orgasm through penetration, what is wrong with their penis. (See even now, era of internet, female’s anatomy and sexual pleasure is still wrapped in ignorance.) The strap on creation didn’t come from actual necessity but rather, expectation and belief of its necessity. So if the reason why some lesbians use it didn’t changed, how did it’s lesbophobic nature changed? If you use because you’re expected to then you think is a necessity.

Some lesbians may use it even if they don’t like it for the same reason some women accept being slapped in the face even if they don’t like it; because they’re expected to and everything around them involved in a way that make them believe that that have to do it or like, otherwise they’re boring, they’re not playing it right, there’s something wrong with that, something is missing. It’s manipulating. On the the other hand, if a lesbian actually like it, she can like it all she want, i still see it as lesbophobic. Likewise I can like when my woman call me dirty slut in bed all I want, but even if this is something I choose and go after, it won’t change the fact that ‘dirty slut’ is a misogynistic slur that exist to sexually shame women. That’s my main point since the begin we can do what we want in bed as long as is consensual and between adults. I’m not here to point fingers in women’s face and tell them what they can/can’t get wet for but just because we own our misogynistic sexual fetishes it doesn’t make them less misogynistic.