How do they move-on so quickly? (Rant)

submitted by PasLagardere from self.Lesbians

My ex, who cheated on me and then broke up with me because I wasn't forgiving her quick enough has a new GF. We broke up on September 15th.

2,5 months later. Granted, she told me she 'doesn't feel at ease in the relationship' and ''doesn't know if she will continue it' but at least the girl and her have the same friends, which she didn't have with me. We didn't have the same friend group.

She still wants to meet-up with me to explain things. She told me she's lost and doesn't know what she wants and hates to know that I'm hurting.

I just feel like utter crap. Like I'm not good enough.

How the hell can she move-on so quickly?

I just needed to vent.

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[–]piylot 17 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 0 fun18 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The girl who cheated on her partner and broke up her because she didn't forgive her fast enough has issues with relationships that are beyond your capacity to fix. You can't make someone a good partner by being more desireable. She may feel bad that her actions hurt you, but thay doesn't mean she won't do something similar again. And her starting a new relationship so quickly is a reflection of her relationship patterns far more than it's a reflection of your worth or value as a partner

[–]fckme 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

'How the hell can she move-on so quickly?' Because, as you wrote, she doesn't know what she wants.

'My ex, who cheated on me and then broke up with me because I wasn't forgiving her quick enough has a new GF.'

Aaawww man how I can relate. It's feels rough and raw and you feel like shit, congrats you have emotion. Sounds harsh and all but it's cold turkey time with the contact. She wants to explain herself but she fucked you around and that isn't on. She prob feels guilty 'she hates how you're hurting' but it not your responsibility to ease her guilt.

It hurts and it's raw and you feel like crap. Clench your butt cheeks, ride it through and when you're healed grab life by the balls! (took me about 10 months to ditch the 'I did something wrong' complex

[–]PasLagardere[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Did you find love again?

[–]fckme 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Jop but with the wrong women.

I'm sngle af, miss cuddles and fucking absolutely but don't miss the head game anxiety shit

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[–]LeaveAmsgAfterBeep 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

In order to get to the point of cheating, some people are already done that relationship and refuse to admit it or talk with their partner. So they blow everything up instead.