At 39, could I successfully get a smaller penis that works as well as the one I have?

YANMD YANMT My wife has chronic pain as a result of sport injuries she experienced before we met. We've been together for 10 years. Recently, her pain has gotten so regular that she is in pain when we have sex, but does enjoy orgasming. I usually give her a very long intimate massage. We have talked a lot about whether I have too much penis. I now wear a strap-on with a smaller dildo when we have PIV intercourse and she enjoys it but misses the sensation of the real thing.

I want to know for myself whether it is possible to work with a surgeon to decrease my penis size to something she can really enjoy when she wants to have PIV sex. I am thinking a reduction to 3.5 to 4 inches and a thinner profile. I know there are a lot of risks involved with this type of procedure but I also know that men are having penises constructed for them that do respond to stimulation. We are now seeing a sex therapist who suggested the harness and has been very helpful in other areas. I plan on telling my wife and the therapist that I did look into it as I said I would. I spoke to a surgeon who said I should talk to a sex therapist. I would appreciate any guidance to answer this question. I'm not seeking advice about sex or about what a big or small penis supposedly represent.

Please be fake! What if... wifey with the broken snatch seeks help to get it nice and healthy and fixed, instead of destroying your body to accommodate her?

It's basically the left-wing liberal way though: instead of fixing people that are unhealthy and broken, just make everyone broken accommodating them instead. Because, I dunno, feelings? But only womens' feelings, men's feelings don't exist or matter.