https://ask.metafilter.com/356475/Embarrassed-at-my-performance-in-a-social-league
This user posts questions every once in a while. They are usually basically about "I'm unlikable and socially awkward, people bully me at work, I attract cruel predatory men". You can see a couple of her previous questions if you use the search function, she has the link removed from her user profile.
Title: Embarrassed at my performance in a social league
My previous question was about joining a social sports league. Everyone was really good, much more than what I expected. I could tell that I was letting my team down a little bit and at this point I want to drop out.
I'm actually dreading that day because I have to go (I'm one of the only few females). I know everyone probably notices me fumbling around. I have no coordination and basically no experience at all. It was all to fast paced for me and honestly it's making my social anxiety flare up. Although the other members have been reassuring to me, telling me to just have fun, I can't help but feel like a burden.
How do you handle trying to push through feelings of embarrassment? Only a few more games to go!
All the answers without exception so far are usually normie bullshit "just bee yourself!" With some funny "you're obligated to play because you're a woman!" IMHO, she's probably autistic or something, and I think it's really sad how autistic/"neurodiverse" people are gaslit into pretending to be normal and try to force themselves to fit in with people who bully them, and burning out and developing chronic health problems. She's knows she's not wanted there and her sports performance is cringe and people are encouraging her often just trying to be nice while inside they don't want her there. The common sense advice would be to tell her to quit and do something that is actually fun, but this is metafilter.
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