I'm using a throwaway cause the situation makes me uncomfortable and I don't want to think about it any more than I have to
My aunt and uncle (late 60's/early 70's) gave me (22F) a vibrator; a hitachi magic wand to be specific.
I've been living with them the past ~6 months. They left it behind with a note a few months ago when they left for a trip and I was house sitting. The note was written by my uncle and said essentially 'your aunt and I want you to have this as we have used it ourselves to great satisfaction and feel you would enjoy it as well' (slight paraphrase as I didn't keep it and don't remember). The note made it clear that they weren't confused about it's use (ie they knew it was a sex toy).
It made me super uncomfortable. I left it where they had put it and was determined to just not mention it in the hopes they would get the hint. They didn't, and when they came back and saw it still there, my uncle came and brought it to me with the note and repeated the gist of it again.
I was mortified, took it, and tucked it away in my room and never mentioned it again. The next week or so my aunt and uncle would make references to it and/or very tame innuendos at me.
This was a few months ago. Since then, I've gotten back on my feet and saved up enough money to move and continue school. I'm going to be leaving tomorrow.
I was going to continue to not mention the vibrator, but in the middle of packing about a half hour ago, my uncle says to me "just so you know, that magic wand your aunt and I gave you is for you to keep, so don't forget to pack it." I just responded with "oh okay, but I don't think I will."
I'm not a prude. I do have my own sex toys. That's not what's bothering me. It's the context of the situation: the fact that gifting sex toys to anyone other than an intimate partner (or a close friend as a joke) is just weird and inappropriate (imo), the fact it was my aunt and uncle who gave it to me, the fact the the toy in question had clearly been used before (general wear and tear), and the fact that when I attempted to ignore it they brought it up and semi-forced me to acknowledge and accept it. It's left me feeling mortified and kind of humiliated (and to a lesser degree, almost violated? i know that might not make sense but it came out of nowhere and i just feel so uncomfortable thinking about it).
I wasn't going to say anything to them or anyone else, just going to pretend it never happened. It's especially weird because most of my family (aunt and uncle included) are practicing catholics; masturbation not acceptable in their religion. Because of this, I would never mention it to someone like my dad (my aunt's brother) who I'm super close to and trust with a lot of things, because I know it would likely damage/affect his relationship with my aunt and uncle. The context is just so weird.
This has, to a degree, permanently affected my relationship with/view of my aunt and uncle. I love them obviously, but I just feel... so weird about it. And much less comfortable living with them.
I'm moving out, but the original plan had been for me to stay through to next year, and I'd be lying if I said that this incident had nothing to do with my decision to leave earlier.
So... should I mention it to them? I've been thinking for a while now about leaving a little note behind in my room once I'd left, just saying that gifting me the sex toy was inappropriate and left me feeling extremely uncomfortable. I don't want to talk to them about it in person.
Is that going too far? Am I blowing this out of proportion and overreacting to something innocuous? I don't think I am, but I don't have anyone I feel comfortable talking to about this irl.
What would I even say in the note to fully express how weird and uncomfortable it left me feeling?
Any advice would be great. I just feel weird and don't know if I'm overreacting.
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