The number 1 hidden cause of inceldom

submitted by trident765 from self.nonmorons

In high school I never had a girlfriend, or even female friends, but at least there was a set of females my age who I knew their names, had some rough idea of their personality, and saw on a regular basis.

This does not exist in my life anymore as an adult. I don't see women at work because I work in a male dominated field. And I didn't see any in my religious community because the leaders of my religion are scumbags who shut down the religious gatherings 17 years ago because they wanted to cut costs. So there really is no consistent set of women I see on a regular basis.

I imagine this is the case for many men, and women too. When you don't know anyone, then you have no criteria for selection, other than superficial things. It doesn't matter if you are successful or intelligent. All they see in the online dating profile is whether you are "hot" or not. This is not a good way to meet women if the main thing you have to offer is something other than looks. I understand looks will always matter, but looks should not be the gatekeeper for MEETING women.

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[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I like you Trident, but you seem to come up with a lot of excuses why you're alone. You should either A) stop caring, or B) do something about it.

I imagine

You sabotage yourself by assuming everything is bad and you're going to fail. That is not a conducive attitude to finding a woman.

There's a lot of lonely good women out there, you just need to meet them, say hi, see if anything clicks. If it doesn't, no biggie, have fun with it.

[–]IkeConn 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Buy yourself a girl from overseas.

[–]raven9 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

You are just making excuses for your own lack of effort which is the REAL resson for incels. Women are not interested in lazy lacklustre men who sit and whine when society doesn't provide women for them. Be a man, get off your ass and go out there and find the women! Get another job where you can meet them at! In my early 20s I worked in construction all week. At the weekends I was a bartender. I got more pussy than you could shake a stick at not least because a bunch of the girls who worked at the bar with me all lived upstairs! I could not even begin to tell you the stories about that place!

[–]LarrySwinger2 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Get a different job

I wouldn't change who you are just to meet women. Unless getting girls is the only thing you care about. You can easily keep the same job and go to social gatherings in your spare time.

[–]raven9 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

”Just to meet women?” What do you think the primary purpose of every male creature on this planet is?

A job is just another word for being enslaved to the system. A system that prevents him from fullfilling his male ambition to find a mate. He has to cut the amount of time he spends stuck in that male world and break out of it before its too late.

[–]LarrySwinger2 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It depends on what type of job we're talking about. Some people have a career they're passionate about. If you're passionate about something, it'll also help you attract a mate. If you're strictly talking about indentured servitude, then a less male dominated field could help, but the question is also whether such a career has the same kind of pay. A higher income helps as well, and women are usually attracted to fields with lower pay.

[–]jet199 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

It's not just "getting girls" thought is it.

It's whether you want a relationship, marriage, a family home, kids, etc.

Why give that up for some job, which would replace you without a second thought.

[–]LarrySwinger2 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

See my reply to raven below, it applies to this comment as well.

[–]fschmidt 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Men in America who are not moronic scum should be grateful to not meet American women. They are nothing but trouble.